Question for women: What makes a man attractive?

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Nemesis77

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I want the girl to be 5'2-5'9
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How many centimeters that is?



<< 100-135lb, 17-25, ya know just look decent. >>



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<< she has to be smart and able to hold a decent conversation. (god I can not stand stupid girls, they annoy the crap out of me.) >>



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<< and most importantly Honest, can not stand sneaky girls. >>



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<< oh and smoking I hate smoking and will not even consider dating a girl who smokes. >>



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<< also totaly optional wish I could find a girl that shared my interest in computers/network but just doesn't seem to be any of those out there :) >>



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I got good news and I got bad news. Good news is that there is a girl like that out there. Bad news is that she's my girlfriend :).

OK, enough about my girlfriend already...
 
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Lola

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Uh...ok but no. Some do but thats becasue they have slef esteem issues.

Either girls prefer "good guys" or "bad boys"

true some girls will only like guys with the "cash money" but well...if you like the shallow type.
Honsetly, it all depends.
 

Argo

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There always is a downside. I'd like to think that I'm attractive (at least I've been told so), I'm kinda witty (read: smartass) and I do have a decent job (i had a decent job even back in college). However, I've been played by girls numerous times. I think I attract all the wrong types of women. :( :|
 

kami

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I can't believe no one said CONFIDENCE!!!
Geez...I am an ugly bastard and I can actually get girls because I'm confident. I'm a friggin maniac on the dance floor baby ;)... then you'll see a bunch of extremely good looking guys on the sidelines watching everyone dance. Girls don't go near them (for the most part). That's just an example of course...there's lots of other situations. BTW I used to be very self conscious about everything, mostly my looks...damn everything sucked a$$ then. It's all good now though.

need proof? me. (sorry if i look a little stoned in this one). or you could just check your nearest websters dictionary and look up ugly to see my pic :D i learned to laugh at my shortcomings....
 

Jfur

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<< I have been wondering the same thing. I'm about as attractive as a truckload of bricks, but for some reason my girlfriend loves me. And the ironic part is: She's REALLY beautiful (and caring, and nice, and funny, and intelligent...), and she keeps on wondering what I see in her... >>



maybe you've just been brainwashed into thinking you're ugly... she obviously finds you attractive for many reasons, so just enjoy :)
 

Jfur

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<< money, apparent ability to be faithful, and a big stick:) >>



there is definitely such a thing as "too big"... ;)
 

Ameesh

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<< I can't believe no one said CONFIDENCE!!!
Geez...I am an ugly bastard and I can actually get girls because I'm confident. I'm a friggin maniac on the dance floor baby ;)... then you'll see a bunch of extremely good looking guys on the sidelines watching everyone dance. Girls don't go near them (for the most part). That's just an example of course...there's lots of other situations. BTW I used to be very self conscious about everything, mostly my looks...damn everything sucked a$$ then. It's all good now though.

need proof? me. (sorry if i look a little stoned in this one). or you could just check your nearest websters dictionary and look up ugly to see my pic :D i learned to laugh at my shortcomings....
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your sam, frodos friend arent you!
 

yoda291

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<< I can't believe no one said CONFIDENCE!!!
Geez...I am an ugly bastard and I can actually get girls because I'm confident. I'm a friggin maniac on the dance floor baby ;)... then you'll see a bunch of extremely good looking guys on the sidelines watching everyone dance. Girls don't go near them (for the most part). That's just an example of course...there's lots of other situations. BTW I used to be very self conscious about everything, mostly my looks...damn everything sucked a$$ then. It's all good now though.

need proof? me. (sorry if i look a little stoned in this one). or you could just check your nearest websters dictionary and look up ugly to see my pic :D i learned to laugh at my shortcomings....
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actually, those are guys goin up to you and the girls are stayin away...you're just too blitzed to notice!!
j/k...goofo u.

 

Rarr

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Attraction at first is a physical thing for both men and women. To a women though, what a man looks like is not as important as his personality and traits.

My boyfriend is very hansome. But, what attracts me most to him is the way he never fails to amaze me. He is extremely intelligent and percocious; and the fact that he can challenge me mentally (with thought and conversation as well) makes him attractive to me. He has the most wonderful sense of humor and has a few quirks that make him even more attractive (like when he talks about nickel metal hydride batteries). His honesty is another highlight, I never doubt that he is telling me the truth.

I could go on and on about the little things that make me attracted to my boyfriend. People have different preferences, but I know that mine is him b/c to me, he is perfect.

I have never been happier. :)

The greatest feeling is that he doesn't have to tell me that he loves me, I can just look at him as he looks at me and know.:)

My best advice that I can give you men out there is to take things as they come and not to look too hard- wonderful people and realtionships blossom when you least expect them to.
 

yobarman

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Jan 11, 2001
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<< humor
intelligence
hands
thighs
lack of arrogance
overall physical shape
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1. humor- people say im the funniest person they've ever met
2. intelligence - i'm smart enough
3. i've got big, defined hands.. long fingers ::Cough::
4. thighs? lol i gotta hit the gym
5. lack of arrogance - haha..that'll be the day that im arrogant
6. overall physical shape - damnit, the gym again. blast!
7. confidence (mentioned) damn i'm pretty confident, but when it comes to girls, i just fall flat on my face.
 

Ultima

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<< I can't believe no one said CONFIDENCE!!!
Geez...I am an ugly bastard and I can actually get girls because I'm confident. I'm a friggin maniac on the dance floor baby ;)... then you'll see a bunch of extremely good looking guys on the sidelines watching everyone dance. Girls don't go near them (for the most part). That's just an example of course...there's lots of other situations. BTW I used to be very self conscious about everything, mostly my looks...damn everything sucked a$$ then. It's all good now though.

need proof? me. (sorry if i look a little stoned in this one). or you could just check your nearest websters dictionary and look up ugly to see my pic :D i learned to laugh at my shortcomings....
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actually, those are guys goin up to you and the girls are stayin away...you're just too blitzed to notice!!
j/k...goofo u.
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um.. what are you complaining about? That's not ugly at all - uglypeople.com is.

I have both a lack of good looks and a lack of confidence.. . (I used to be confident and bossy when I was young, then I went to this crappy school and got really shy - now I'm so so, trying to regain that old confidence but it takes a lot of effort to rewire the brain :)).

http://www.geocities.com/mlahmlahmlah/KEVIN.JPG

http://www.geocities.com/mlahmlahmlah/KEVIN3.jpg
 

forkd

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Jan 17, 2001
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so are you available Rarr? just kidding :)

Some women like a really nice wallet, sometimes it is hard to figure out which ones....not that I have that problem, I just wish I did. btw I'm homeless. lol
 

bleeb

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"Its all about the Benjamins" ... I've seen totally disgusting dudes with HOT CHICKS all because they drove Beamers, Porches, and exotic cars. If you got the money, you can get anything in this society.
 

Gulzakar

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Oct 9, 1999
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I wish I knew...Money isn't everything...and besides, you want to be with a woman who loves you for your money? I'm by no means a looker, I don't have a girlfriend, but I'm holding onto the fact that there may be one nice,decent girl out there who I can be attracted to. I'm not being superficial, but attraction does play a big role in it... and I'm not looking for a supermodel type, I like the "girl next door" appeal ;)
 

Emulex

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sometimes you don't want to be with a women for love. You just want a hottie to smack around in bed.. I guess it depends on your short or long term goals.

Ultimately, all men end up paying for women. However you look at it. Women get the ca$h from us guys, be it one night at the bar, the mall, or 10 years from now.. they will get the money..

 

Isla

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I've been with some hot papas (I remember being STUNNED that Mr Beautiful was actually interested in little ole me! Too bad he died in a car accident. :( ) and I've been with your 'average Joe". Actually, one of my boyfriends was probably on the lower end of the scale looks wise but he was quite the cunning linguist and doing crossword puzzles in the nude with him was my idea of nirvana. He blew it though, he couldn't decide between me (a divorced young mom) and a spoiled sorority girl. I made up his mind for him and last I heard he was divorced from his priveleged princess.

In the end, the most attractive thing to me is a tender heart, a gentle soul, and an open mind.
 

Isla

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Um, BTW...

I chose Mister 1975 Diesel Rabbit over Mister 1992 Toyota Supra.

The Benjamins are Bullshit, IMHO.