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Question for the ladies...

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Vikaden

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Why is it that women always insist on falling for the asshole? I mean I could treat a women like a queen but she'd rather have the crap beat out of her by a drunk bastard, can any of you explain this to me perhaps?
 
You must be attracted to that type I guess, certainly not all women prefer to get the crap beat out of them by drunken bastards.
 
i always wondered that myself... but then again i treated my last girlfriend like a queen and she cheated on me so... go fig 😛
 
its not even women im attracted to, just some of them i talk to, i'll take a shot in the dark and say about 75% of the women ive talked to prefer that type of guy
 
Vikaden - I've seen this happen way too much. One girl that I really liked, she ended up seeing some asshole, I warned her, too late, he beat her up...haven't seen her in years.

Another girl, really good friend of mine a few years ago, seems to always be in those type of relationships.

 
Well I do have a friend who is sort of like that, loves the soap opera/drama in her daily life, but 75% sounds way too high.
 
This is quite easily explainable. You must remember women come from a line of apes and chimpanzee's. In nature, the female species looks solely for one thing in a mate, dominance. The gorilla with the most power is the one who will provide for her the most. Food, shelter, protection, resources, etc all belong to the strongest. This in turn, equates to a higher chance of survival for her young. It is factthat female species, human or ape, is the more promiscuous. They cheat simply because there are so many more reasons, while males cheat only for sex.

So, my friend, you wonder why the girls dont go for your nerdy butt? It is because deep down, biologically, their genes are telling them you will not and cannot provide for her. You simply will get pushed around with your "nice" guy attitude. Mean while the @sshole or jerk, wins over so many, because he is the alpha-male. Yes, it is so sad. Men are the victims of society.
 
even I wonder. The girl I was seeing a while back two timed me over some other guy..

Anyway I feel the ones who are going to go for us "nice" guys are the ones who have come to realisation or mature than the age we are trying to capture.

The other thing that bugs me is how is that younger girls like older men?
My friend Kathryn is dating a 30 yr old guy.. what the heck can they have in common..and she is not even 21.

 
It's because the @ssholes are good looking, and that's that. sad but true!
oh, but it all changes when they grow up and realize good looks are no substitute for a stable guy. so don't worry about it. 🙂
 
They aren't all like that 🙂 I think you'll notice the number that goes for guys like that decreases as you get older. I've alwasy dated older girls too.....
 
Perhaps it is a self-esteem issue, the woman feels like she does not deserve to be treated any better, which would be a sad thing.
 
It is sad, but sometimes that's all some women have ever known. And they think that the jerks are what real men should be like.

Personally I have never been attracted to Jerks. I have had the blessing of a good father who always treated my mother and with the utmost respect and love, and taught his sons to do the same. I married a man holds women in the highest honor and respects them greatly. I am extremely fortunate.

My heart goes out to women who put up with abuse and neglect because they think that's how it should be or that they've known nothing else.
I always say to my friends who are dating or in search of the perfect mate--- marry someone who loves you and treats you with the dignity and respect that all human beings deserve. Accept no less, ever.

The same goes for guys. Find someone who loves and appreciates you! I have seen many decent good men broken by manipulative women who string them along only to dump them when they became an inconvenience.

Bottom line: Treat your partner the way you would want to be treated.

And Kudos and blessings to those of you who have done this.
 
Hmm, some of you sound a tad bitter.

Well, whatever you have experienced or seen in life, I hope it won't sour you and make you lose respect for others.
Respect yourself and others and that respect will be returned.

🙂
 
hehe yeah, he was assuming there are no creationists in here 😛

anyway... i think that many girls just demand too much from their men. like they want the best of all worlds, and for that reason, many will string u along or play with your affections, especially if they are lonely, recently broken up, etc.

but at the end of it all, they will dump your sorry ass for some moron who looks better than you, despite everything you've done.

heh. you know what u shd do? quit whining about it and go find some dumb blonde to manipulate back. hehe.
 
bobby ribs: Nice man.

What I also found the funniest was the fact that only one lady has answered the question! Funny how guys always try and work this stuff out themselfs and then fall over as such! 🙂
 
I'm not really attracted to "nice guys" because:

1.
They tend to "over do it". By that I mean they tend to
try and do everything for you. It makes women uncomfortable...
well at least the independant women.

2.
From my experience, they have easily hurt feelings yet
have a hard time expressing those feelings. So in the end
it makes for a hard relationship because the guy is always
feeling hurt, yet I never know about it.
 
I like nice guys. In fact, if I see guys putting on that tough stud jerk act, I immediately think that he has a deep and abiding sense of insecurity.

The problem is, I'll think I have found a nice guy and he turns out to be a secret creep!

Mr Isla is the epitome of nice guy on the outside (Oh, you are soooooo lucky to be married to him!) but he can be VERY different in private.

I guess what I have learned is that deep down inside, we all feel the same things... we just put on different masks to hide the pain. Some put on the nice guy mask, others put on the jerk mask, but in the end everyone has some kind of issue to work out.

So, what I have done is just learn to stick it out and work through the problems that arise in any relationship, nice guy or jerk! You learn a lot about yourself that way.

 
had that happen to me too... i treated this girl like a goddess... did everything for her.. yet she went back to her ex who cheated on her before, and even insulted and berated her in public. Hell.. he *wont* even hold hands with her... or walk with her in public. Jacka$$.

 
I honestly think that a lot of women don't know any better. They've given up on the dream, they think what they have is normal, & if there is something better they certainly don't deserve it.

Call me a hopeless romantic, but I know first hand that it's possible to have your best friend, closest confidante, greatest supporter, love of your life, & eventually lover all be the same person.

But the women who are in bad relationships will probably never know that. Unless somebody takes them by the hand and SHOWS them better, they'll be forever devoted to the worst possible thing.

Viper GTS
 
They're friggin dumb, man! 😉:|😛

Here's the key to getting any woman:

1. When you first meet her, be nice and what not, BUT show her you're boss. This will make her attracted to you. (You gotta do some homework on it, though).

2. Once you start dating/going out, be a fvckin' asshole. Show her no mercy. Screw her, be a dick, piss her off, make her cry, then call her the next day, cry, and send her roses. She will be yours forever.

3. Caution: if you do this and then dump her, she will never stop hounding you.

It's that easy.

Good luck!
 


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I doubt it's about being meaner, it's probably more about not being a needy pussy.
 
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