question for the athiests and agnostics here...

[JohnCU]

Originally posted by: Codewiz

Wow, I can't imagine Myrtle Beach being a religious area. Seems like party central to me. Especially during the summer.

Just casually talk about religion somewhat early in the dating process so you can get an idea of how the person is going to react.

haha! it's party central on saturday night... then they all come in hungover to church on Sunday morning...

 

[xSauronx]

Originally posted by: PricklyPete

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: loic2003

our chances of finding a woman vanish. they can be the most evil bitches in the world, but if you aren't in church on sunday, you are a horrible horrible person with no morals.

Which shows that these women are nasty, obsessed and brainwashed fools IMO and I would truly hate to spend any time talking to them, let alone dating them.

Atheist chicks = open minds and free thinkers, thus more interesting to talk to, IMO.

Yeah right, a lot of them (not just women) are just as militant and unbending in their non beliefs as the Fundie Monkeys. The trick is to find one that is confident in their own beliefs so they don't have to reassure themselves they are right by hounding others into belieiving what they believe

I have to agree with Red Dawn on this. I'm atheist, but many of my friends/family are not. I respect their beliefs and they respect mine. My ex-girlfriend was an atheist and she would get all high and mighty regarding some Christian beliefs...and that would severly piss me off. Open minded my ass.

my family is christian and im agnostic and they cant deal with it. my mother seems to think the problems my ex and i had were caused by demons, despite her and my father both saying they wouldnt stay married if it wasnt for god because they dont like/love each other enough to deal with one another.

they creep me out

 

[sjetexas]

I got lucky. I went to a pretty conservative college in the south (Texas A&M), but met my wife who feels the exact same way I do. We're both pretty much agnostic...

 

[xSauronx]

Originally posted by: PricklyPete

Originally posted by: JohnCU
not making a poll, or pole, or phole, or whatever teh cool way of spelling it is nowadays. i'd rather hear details.

did you find it harder to date other people because of your beliefs? i live in the bible belt where everyone is christian and if you are not, your chances of finding a woman vanish. they can be the most evil bitches in the world, but if you aren't in church on sunday, you are a horrible horrible person with no morals. hypocrites.😕

I went to Clemson too and still live in the area (Greenville). I had the same problem with the women in college and in this area. When you tell them you don't believe in God, they freak out and think you are some mentally disturbed person...it is quite amazing. There was a girl I was going out with in college (for like a month). She was insanely into me. She was constantly all over me, etc. One night we're fooling around watching a movie and somehow religion got brought up. I told her I didn't believe in god and she starts balling telling me that she can't be with someone that doesn't believe in god. So that ended any type of relationship we had...although she was my fvck buddy for like 2 more years....what kind of crazy sh!t is that. She won't date me because I'm not a Christian, but she'll let me bang her a couple times a week just cause I want some. That is some screwed up morals.

sounds awesome if you ask me, but i havent gotten laid in a month so most anything would

 

[Bryophyte]

I had no problems. I just had a rule that I wouldn't fvck a christian (or any other theist for that matter.) I wouldn't want to raise a child with a person who had such dramatically different beliefs, so I eliminated the possibility entirely.

Fortunately, I live in Oregon, so finding educated, interesting atheists/agnostics was no problem whatsoever. I never had a problem finding a date.

 

[Chadder007]

Originally posted by: PricklyPete

Originally posted by: JohnCU
not making a poll, or pole, or phole, or whatever teh cool way of spelling it is nowadays. i'd rather hear details.

did you find it harder to date other people because of your beliefs? i live in the bible belt where everyone is christian and if you are not, your chances of finding a woman vanish. they can be the most evil bitches in the world, but if you aren't in church on sunday, you are a horrible horrible person with no morals. hypocrites.😕

I went to Clemson too and still live in the area (Greenville). I had the same problem with the women in college and in this area. When you tell them you don't believe in God, they freak out and think you are some mentally disturbed person...it is quite amazing. There was a girl I was going out with in college (for like a month). She was insanely into me. She was constantly all over me, etc. One night we're fooling around watching a movie and somehow religion got brought up. I told her I didn't believe in god and she starts balling telling me that she can't be with someone that doesn't believe in god. So that ended any type of relationship we had...although she was my fvck buddy for like 2 more years....what kind of crazy sh!t is that. She won't date me because I'm not a Christian, but she'll let me bang her a couple times a week just cause I want some. That is some screwed up morals.

All I can say is..... WTF 😕

 

[JulesMaximus]

Originally posted by: JohnCU
not making a poll, or pole, or phole, or whatever teh cool way of spelling it is nowadays. i'd rather hear details.

did you find it harder to date other people because of your beliefs? i live in the bible belt where everyone is christian and if you are not, your chances of finding a woman vanish. they can be the most evil bitches in the world, but if you aren't in church on sunday, you are a horrible horrible person with no morals. hypocrites.😕

Move out of the damned bible belt then. 😉 I didn't have this problem with my wife thankfully, she and are of the same non-belief. In fact, I don't think I've ever dated someone who is overly religious.

Edit-I'm actually rather impressed with the views and posts in this thread. For once a thread about athiests and agnostics hasn't devolved into a flame fest. :thumbsup:

 

[Crappopotamus]

fake it.

 

[Pepsi90919]

no

 

[CVSiN]

Originally posted by: JohnCU
not making a poll, or pole, or phole, or whatever teh cool way of spelling it is nowadays. i'd rather hear details.

did you find it harder to date other people because of your beliefs? i live in the bible belt where everyone is christian and if you are not, your chances of finding a woman vanish. they can be the most evil bitches in the world, but if you aren't in church on sunday, you are a horrible horrible person with no morals. hypocrites.😕

become a catholic..
then you can be a heathen all you want as long as you go to confession.


The way I see it.. if there is a hell.. nearly 90% of the world is going...

everyone sins..
everyone lies about it...
only the very small 10% of religious fanatics are going to make it if there really is a heaven..

..

 

[PricklyPete]

Originally posted by: xSauronx

Originally posted by: PricklyPete

Originally posted by: JohnCU
not making a poll, or pole, or phole, or whatever teh cool way of spelling it is nowadays. i'd rather hear details.

did you find it harder to date other people because of your beliefs? i live in the bible belt where everyone is christian and if you are not, your chances of finding a woman vanish. they can be the most evil bitches in the world, but if you aren't in church on sunday, you are a horrible horrible person with no morals. hypocrites.😕

I went to Clemson too and still live in the area (Greenville). I had the same problem with the women in college and in this area. When you tell them you don't believe in God, they freak out and think you are some mentally disturbed person...it is quite amazing. There was a girl I was going out with in college (for like a month). She was insanely into me. She was constantly all over me, etc. One night we're fooling around watching a movie and somehow religion got brought up. I told her I didn't believe in god and she starts balling telling me that she can't be with someone that doesn't believe in god. So that ended any type of relationship we had...although she was my fvck buddy for like 2 more years....what kind of crazy sh!t is that. She won't date me because I'm not a Christian, but she'll let me bang her a couple times a week just cause I want some. That is some screwed up morals.

sounds awesome if you ask me, but i havent gotten laid in a month so most anything would

I wasn't complaining...I was just pointing out the irony of her dilemma. She couldn't date me because I was an atheist...but she had no problem with having sex with me regularly in a meaningless "friendship".

 

[PricklyPete]

Originally posted by: Chadder007

Originally posted by: PricklyPete

Originally posted by: JohnCU
not making a poll, or pole, or phole, or whatever teh cool way of spelling it is nowadays. i'd rather hear details.

did you find it harder to date other people because of your beliefs? i live in the bible belt where everyone is christian and if you are not, your chances of finding a woman vanish. they can be the most evil bitches in the world, but if you aren't in church on sunday, you are a horrible horrible person with no morals. hypocrites.😕

I went to Clemson too and still live in the area (Greenville). I had the same problem with the women in college and in this area. When you tell them you don't believe in God, they freak out and think you are some mentally disturbed person...it is quite amazing. There was a girl I was going out with in college (for like a month). She was insanely into me. She was constantly all over me, etc. One night we're fooling around watching a movie and somehow religion got brought up. I told her I didn't believe in god and she starts balling telling me that she can't be with someone that doesn't believe in god. So that ended any type of relationship we had...although she was my fvck buddy for like 2 more years....what kind of crazy sh!t is that. She won't date me because I'm not a Christian, but she'll let me bang her a couple times a week just cause I want some. That is some screwed up morals.

All I can say is..... WTF 😕

Confused by my story or how retarded her conscious was?

 

[Leros]

Im athiest and I have a fair share of Christians who hate me.

 

[BoberFett]

Originally posted by: pyonir
It's an issue I've encountered. Not really since moving to Arizona, but back in Minnesota it was an issue.

Where were you looking? I've only dated a couple women in the past few years that cared about religion. They may have stated they were some form of protestant (mainly Lutheran in these here parts) but it rarely came up during the course of conversation.

 

[Spike]

Originally posted by: JToxic
Im athiest and I have a fair share of Christians who hate me.

and I'm a Christian and I don't hate any athiests, kinda strange that they could "hate" yet still be true believers... There have been times when I have really disliked people because it seemed to be their lifes goal to insult/embarass/enrage me whenever they where around. I made it worse by never responding and in essance "turning the other cheek (how the heck do you spell cheek?).

Anyway, onto the topic, most Christians who are confident know that leading by example rather than direct attacks is the best witness. I have had more people ask me about my faith because of the way I live my life (no swearing, never been drunk, waited until marriage for sex, etc...) than by me standing on the street corner telling them they are going to burn in Hell.

While I am of the mindset that Christians need to be "equally yoked" (ie marry someone who does share their beliefs) I don't think half the women you guys are talking about here are true Bible-following believers. Especially one who sleeps with you but won't date you. While she may just be having a hard time (who doesn't) it still does not set a very good example. There are always people willing to comprimise their faith for the right price so I don't think finding a date will be that hard. I am not trying to come off as a hardcore fundie, but I do understand the human weakness to sin (unfortunatly I understand it all to well as I have made a few too many mistakes 🙁 ).

I appreciate the civil discussion here. While it is my duty to reach out to the entire world with the truth I cannot force anyone to listen or accept. That was the blessing and the curse of God when he gave us all free will. You can choose to do whatever you want regardless of any consequences. I can only act as an example and try my best to live according to the Bible. I appreciate those who listen to others opinions and beliefs without getting all up in arms.

Oh, and if you want to avoid any potential problems with marrying or dating a Christian or other "religous type" then use the advice of a prominent gay figure on these boards who says something like "Don't like gay marriage, then don't marry a gay person!" Same thing goes for Christians. Don't like Chrtisian marriage, then don't marry (or date) a Christian! 😉

-spike

Cliff Notes: I'm a Christian 🙂

 

[lowfatbaconboy]

i barely dated when i was in texas but i did get the best breakup excuse ever:
"i don't think god would want us to go out anymore" *rolls eyes*

so far up in colorado i haven't had any problems but people up here seem to be infinitely more relaxed about religion than where i lived in texas

 

[FrustratedUser]

Originally posted by: JohnCU
not making a poll, or pole, or phole, or whatever teh cool way of spelling it is nowadays. i'd rather hear details.

did you find it harder to date other people because of your beliefs? i live in the bible belt where everyone is christian and if you are not, your chances of finding a woman vanish. they can be the most evil bitches in the world, but if you aren't in church on sunday, you are a horrible horrible person with no morals. hypocrites.😕

Yet another reason I don't really like Virginia. I am screwed. Someone please take me back to AZ.

 

[FrustratedUser]

Originally posted by: pyonir
It's an issue I've encountered. Not really since moving to Arizona, but back in Minnesota it was an issue.

Hey buddy ol' pal. Please take me back to AZ. 😛
(See my previous post)

 

[Leros]

Originally posted by: Spike

Originally posted by: JToxic
Im athiest and I have a fair share of Christians who hate me.

and I'm a Christian and I don't hate any athiests, kinda strange that they could "hate" yet still be true believers...

As a Christian, do you feel you have a duty to convert people to Christianity?

I say this because I have had to walk away from many friendships because my freinds would not stop forcing their beleifs down my throat. It would be like your friends telling you that God isnt real, you are wasting your time, etc ALL THE TIME.

Ive started telling people that Im Methodist, because I was actually baptisted in a Methodist church. Ive gone so far as to buy a Christain keychain, so people dont even ask me about my faith (they just assume Im Christian). Damn bible belt.

My current group of friends consist of two Catholics, one Jew, one Hindu, and one athiest (me). I'm rather accepting when it comes to people's beleifs, but geez dont force it down my throat.

 

[Spike]

Originally posted by: JToxic

Originally posted by: Spike

Originally posted by: JToxic
Im athiest and I have a fair share of Christians who hate me.

and I'm a Christian and I don't hate any athiests, kinda strange that they could "hate" yet still be true believers...

As a Christian, do you feel you have a duty to convert people to Christianity?

I say this because I have had to walk away from many friendships because my freinds would not stop forcing their beleifs down my throat. It would be like your friends telling you that God isnt real, you are wasting your time, etc ALL THE TIME.

Ive started telling people that Im Methodist, because I was actually baptisted in a Methodist church. Ive gone so far as to buy a Christain keychain, so people dont even ask me about my faith (they just assume Im Christian). Damn bible belt.

My current group of friends consist of two Catholics, one Jew, one Hindu, and one athiest (me). I'm rather accepting when it comes to people's beleifs, but geez dont force it down my throat.

I know it's long but read my above post and I answer that question. Yes, as a Christian we are called to witness to the entire world but as I stated before, leading by example is the best course. I cannot force ANYONE to believe what I do and if I try I have more of a chance of making them hate all Christians rather than see the truth.

No one should try and cram their beliefs down your through regardless of their conviction. This interfers with one of God's greatest gifts... free will.

-spike

 

[Chadder007]

Originally posted by: PricklyPete

Originally posted by: Chadder007

Originally posted by: PricklyPete

Originally posted by: JohnCU
not making a poll, or pole, or phole, or whatever teh cool way of spelling it is nowadays. i'd rather hear details.

did you find it harder to date other people because of your beliefs? i live in the bible belt where everyone is christian and if you are not, your chances of finding a woman vanish. they can be the most evil bitches in the world, but if you aren't in church on sunday, you are a horrible horrible person with no morals. hypocrites.😕

I went to Clemson too and still live in the area (Greenville). I had the same problem with the women in college and in this area. When you tell them you don't believe in God, they freak out and think you are some mentally disturbed person...it is quite amazing. There was a girl I was going out with in college (for like a month). She was insanely into me. She was constantly all over me, etc. One night we're fooling around watching a movie and somehow religion got brought up. I told her I didn't believe in god and she starts balling telling me that she can't be with someone that doesn't believe in god. So that ended any type of relationship we had...although she was my fvck buddy for like 2 more years....what kind of crazy sh!t is that. She won't date me because I'm not a Christian, but she'll let me bang her a couple times a week just cause I want some. That is some screwed up morals.

All I can say is..... WTF 😕

Confused by my story or how retarded her conscious was?

How retarded some girls are these days.

 

[halik]

Originally posted by: JohnCU
not making a poll, or pole, or phole, or whatever teh cool way of spelling it is nowadays. i'd rather hear details.

did you find it harder to date other people because of your beliefs? i live in the bible belt where everyone is christian and if you are not, your chances of finding a woman vanish. they can be the most evil bitches in the world, but if you aren't in church on sunday, you are a horrible horrible person with no morals. hypocrites.😕

yeah,
i've dated a girl for about a year before it all came lose. Her family was uber religious and so was she (sorta... we still got it on and everything). Eventually we broke up because she wanted someone more religious and wasn't willing to compromise.

It all depends on a degree - if you date a jesus freak (rather than someone religious) and you're the militant atheist (one of those in-yo-face mofos), then theres no way it's gonna work. People that mutually respect each other shouldn't have issue

 

[JohnCU]

Originally posted by: Spike

and I'm a Christian and I don't hate any athiests, kinda strange that they could "hate" yet still be true believers... There have been times when I have really disliked people because it seemed to be their lifes goal to insult/embarass/enrage me whenever they where around. I made it worse by never responding and in essance "turning the other cheek (how the heck do you spell cheek?).

Anyway, onto the topic, most Christians who are confident know that leading by example rather than direct attacks is the best witness. I have had more people ask me about my faith because of the way I live my life (no swearing, never been drunk, waited until marriage for sex, etc...) than by me standing on the street corner telling them they are going to burn in Hell.

While I am of the mindset that Christians need to be "equally yoked" (ie marry someone who does share their beliefs) I don't think half the women you guys are talking about here are true Bible-following believers. Especially one who sleeps with you but won't date you. While she may just be having a hard time (who doesn't) it still does not set a very good example. There are always people willing to comprimise their faith for the right price so I don't think finding a date will be that hard. I am not trying to come off as a hardcore fundie, but I do understand the human weakness to sin (unfortunatly I understand it all to well as I have made a few too many mistakes 🙁 ).

I appreciate the civil discussion here. While it is my duty to reach out to the entire world with the truth I cannot force anyone to listen or accept. That was the blessing and the curse of God when he gave us all free will. You can choose to do whatever you want regardless of any consequences. I can only act as an example and try my best to live according to the Bible. I appreciate those who listen to others opinions and beliefs without getting all up in arms.

Oh, and if you want to avoid any potential problems with marrying or dating a Christian or other "religous type" then use the advice of a prominent gay figure on these boards who says something like "Don't like gay marriage, then don't marry a gay person!" Same thing goes for Christians. Don't like Chrtisian marriage, then don't marry (or date) a Christian! 😉

-spike

Cliff Notes: I'm a Christian 🙂

excellent post, thank you for your insight.🙂