Question for Married Guys

[vi edit]

About two weeks take home pay(around $1600 at the time). The diamond itself wasn't excessively large, less than half a karot, but it's color was excellent and the ring itself was a very cool cathedral setting.

Picked it out all by myself (even got the size exactly right) and she's been happy with it for over 6 years now.

 

[Scouzer]

When I get married, I'll probably spend around $1000 and lie that it cost more

 

[BoberFett]

Originally posted by: AreaCode707
For my husband it cost him about a day's pay, I would guesstimate (not sure what he was making at the time). Abut $150 for a gold band.

We went cheap too. Our bands were about $250-300 each. My wife doesn't own a diamond ring.

 

[hanoverphist]

i had no credit so saved up cash to buy it. wasnt a huge ring, but it was a nice set that she liked. i offered to upgrade the diamond many times over the years, she always refused. she either sold it or its sitting at the bottom of a jewelry box now.

 

[edro]

Mine was about 1.8 months.
Don't forget the stupid wedding ring too... but that comes later.

 

[FallenHero]

Originally posted by: buck
Her ring is about 5k, add another 2k for the wedding band. My ring was $100....

Then again, i get free sex for life.

You spent 7k. Thats not free. Plus you gotta keep buying gifts. No sex is ever free (sans friends with benefits)

 

[dainthomas]

Originally posted by: Insomniator

Originally posted by: nobody554

Originally posted by: rasczak
that she now wants to upgrade. $)_&(#QU)($&)!!!!

This part I've never fully understood ... At least past the physical, women-like-pretty-shiny-things part. Isn't the ring supposed to be a symbol of your love and commitment and unity and some crap like that to each other?

Then why does it matter how expensive the ring looks? Shouldn't you be happy with a 25 cent ring from the toy machine things in the mall?

Its also symbol of sacrifice, and women know that man value their money/work very very much. So a guy dropping 10 grand or whatever for marriage is a big gesture to some women.

A 25 cent ring shows no commitment or unity...

/girlfriend told me this

Then put it in a CD or something to save for a down payment on a house. Oh wait, she can't really show that off to her shallow gold-digger friends.

How does the girl show commitment or unity again?

 

[AnitaPeterson]

Originally posted by: Insomniator

Originally posted by: nobody554

Originally posted by: rasczak
that she now wants to upgrade. $)_&(#QU)($&)!!!!

This part I've never fully understood ... At least past the physical, women-like-pretty-shiny-things part. Isn't the ring supposed to be a symbol of your love and commitment and unity and some crap like that to each other?

Then why does it matter how expensive the ring looks? Shouldn't you be happy with a 25 cent ring from the toy machine things in the mall?

Its also symbol of sacrifice, and women know that man value their money/work very very much. So a guy dropping 10 grand or whatever for marriage is a big gesture to some women.

A 25 cent ring shows no commitment or unity...

/girlfriend told me this

Disgusting mentality... women like these deserve all the bad reputation they get...

 

[xSauronx]

Originally posted by: buck
Her ring is about 5k, add another 2k for the wedding band. My ring was $100....

Then again, i get free sex for life.

since sex isnt costing you, there should be enough cash to buy a math book

 

[TwiceOver]

25% of one week's pay.

We are cheap like that. I couldn't imagine putting enough for a downpayment for a house into a ring.

 

[TallBill]

About 1.5 months of pay at the time. She added a second ring on her own due to peer pressure. We're divorced now. The rock shouldn't make a woman happy.

 

[MotF Bane]

Originally posted by: Insomniator

Originally posted by: nobody554

Originally posted by: rasczak
that she now wants to upgrade. $)_&(#QU)($&)!!!!

This part I've never fully understood ... At least past the physical, women-like-pretty-shiny-things part. Isn't the ring supposed to be a symbol of your love and commitment and unity and some crap like that to each other?

Then why does it matter how expensive the ring looks? Shouldn't you be happy with a 25 cent ring from the toy machine things in the mall?

Its also symbol of sacrifice, and women know that man value their money/work very very much. So a guy dropping 10 grand or whatever for marriage is a big gesture to some women.

A 25 cent ring shows no commitment or unity...

/girlfriend told me this

She lied to you.

 

[rasczak]

Originally posted by: AnitaPeterson

Originally posted by: Insomniator

Originally posted by: nobody554

Originally posted by: rasczak
that she now wants to upgrade. $)_&(#QU)($&)!!!!

This part I've never fully understood ... At least past the physical, women-like-pretty-shiny-things part. Isn't the ring supposed to be a symbol of your love and commitment and unity and some crap like that to each other?

Then why does it matter how expensive the ring looks? Shouldn't you be happy with a 25 cent ring from the toy machine things in the mall?

Its also symbol of sacrifice, and women know that man value their money/work very very much. So a guy dropping 10 grand or whatever for marriage is a big gesture to some women.

A 25 cent ring shows no commitment or unity...

/girlfriend told me this

Disgusting mentality... women like these deserve all the bad reputation they get...

wow i didn't realize i put my wife in such a bad light. it was all in good fun. if anything, i'd say my wife deserves an upgrade for all the crap i put her through.

guess i gotta be more careful about how i portray my wife from now on.

 

[rasczak]

Originally posted by: Insomniator

Originally posted by: rasczak
DON'T DO IT!!! RUN NOW WHILE YOU STILL HAVE THE CHANCE!!!

If you have not run yet, I spent 2 months worth of paychecks on that damn ring that she now wants to upgrade. $)_&(#QU)($&)!!!!

So is she a total bitch or do you make like 3 dollars an hour?

heh, no. i was just playing up on this thread.

 

[actuarial]

1500 on engagement ring, 1000 on wedding band, 400 on my wedding band in Canada. Been married for 10 days now.

I was in school working part time when I got engaged, so it was something like a month (though was actually bought out of savings). Then bands were bought a couple months ago now that I'm in the real world, and total about a 6 days pay (3 days pay if you are looking at our joint income).

She would have been pissed if I spent more, though I was willing to. She's the type of gal which is happier about what kind of deal I get as opposed to how much I spend. I got the engagement ring on sale (happened to go on sale after I decided I would get it) so I saved about a grand on it. She was happy with that!

 

[Gooberlx2]

I spent $1400. At the time that came out to one month's wages. I wasn't looking at percentages though. I knew what I could afford and found the perfect ring within that price. Just the one ring for engagement/wedding.

I'm pretty sure my ring was like $69 from overstock.com.

 

[alkemyst]

she paid me.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: rasczak

Originally posted by: AnitaPeterson

Originally posted by: Insomniator

Originally posted by: nobody554

Originally posted by: rasczak
that she now wants to upgrade. $)_&(#QU)($&)!!!!

This part I've never fully understood ... At least past the physical, women-like-pretty-shiny-things part. Isn't the ring supposed to be a symbol of your love and commitment and unity and some crap like that to each other?

Then why does it matter how expensive the ring looks? Shouldn't you be happy with a 25 cent ring from the toy machine things in the mall?

Its also symbol of sacrifice, and women know that man value their money/work very very much. So a guy dropping 10 grand or whatever for marriage is a big gesture to some women.

A 25 cent ring shows no commitment or unity...

/girlfriend told me this

Disgusting mentality... women like these deserve all the bad reputation they get...

wow i didn't realize i put my wife in such a bad light. it was all in good fun. if anything, i'd say my wife deserves an upgrade for all the crap i put her through.

guess i gotta be more careful about how i portray my wife from now on.

It doesn't matter what you say. The ATOT mentality is that any woman who likes a nice ring is automatically shallow and will rape you in the divorce. It's impossible to just like the nice ring for what it is and be happily married on top of that. In 30 years my wife's ring will still look impressive and we'll be able to pass it on to our kids. The diamonds will be, as they say, forever.

If people want their cheap rings that's fine, but calling people disgusting or anything else because they like something nice is beyond stupid. I hate when people think they are better for wanting to buy something cheaper out of preference or just straight bitterness.

I think a nice ring is exactly that - a nice ring. You show the commitment and unity in whatever way you feel is right, but it is undeniable that a lot of people like nice things and there is nothing wrong with that. I guess my wife and I are morons for liking wood floors instead of carpet or for buying a nice house instead of living in a 1 bedroom apartment. In my experience, the people who go super cheap and buy $50 rings are the ones who are annoyingly sarcastic and preach the holier-than-thou attitude, not the people with nice ones. Not like this is a new trend, though.

 

[Zee]

wheres the poal

 

[ScottFern]

just under 5k for the ring.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: MotF Bane

Originally posted by: Insomniator

Originally posted by: nobody554

Originally posted by: rasczak
that she now wants to upgrade. $)_&(#QU)($&)!!!!

This part I've never fully understood ... At least past the physical, women-like-pretty-shiny-things part. Isn't the ring supposed to be a symbol of your love and commitment and unity and some crap like that to each other?

Then why does it matter how expensive the ring looks? Shouldn't you be happy with a 25 cent ring from the toy machine things in the mall?

Its also symbol of sacrifice, and women know that man value their money/work very very much. So a guy dropping 10 grand or whatever for marriage is a big gesture to some women.

A 25 cent ring shows no commitment or unity...

/girlfriend told me this

She lied to you.

I agree. At best she's telling you a half-truth.

Has anyone here ever seen a woman announce to a group of her friends that she just got engaged? When it happens, the VERY FIRST question that gets asked of her is to show the ring. Then they go gaga over it for a while as the air in the room gets filled with a cloud of estrogen.

An expensive, nice ring will raise her social status among her friends, in that it says "look at me, I am able to get a man who can buy me this". And don't forget that the entire purpose of jewelry is to show it off and draw attention to the wearer.

 

[Modelworks]

Too much for the results I got. Some thoughts ....
"I gave up on romance and decided to get married"
" Find any girl on the street, buy her a house, give her your car and walk away, better and cheaper than going through with marriage. "

 

[Drako]

Originally posted by: DAGTA
How big was the down payment on your wife? Was it one month, two months, or three months salary?

Mine was about a quarter months salary.

I love my wife - she's not into expensive jewelry.

We spend our money on things that are more important to us.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: Kadarin

I agree. At best she's telling you a half-truth.

Has anyone here ever seen a woman announce to a group of her friends that she just got engaged? When it happens, the VERY FIRST question that gets asked of her is to show the ring. Then they go gaga over it for a while as the air in the room gets filled with a cloud of estrogen.

An expensive, nice ring will raise her social status among her friends, in that it says "look at me, I am able to get a man who can buy me this". And don't forget that the entire purpose of jewelry is to show it off and draw attention to the wearer.

I can agree with this to some degree, although my wife is definitely not the type to care about how much we can afford or "look at me." Women will do this over the ring, but that doesn't mean it is also void real meaning as well.

Originally posted by: Drako

Originally posted by: DAGTA
How big was the down payment on your wife? Was it one month, two months, or three months salary?

Mine was about a quarter months salary.

I love my wife - she's not into expensive jewelry.

We spend our money on things that are more important to us.

That's basically what I've been trying to say. Whatever works for you is fine, but that is a hard concept to grasp 'round these parts.

 

[dainthomas]

Originally posted by: MrDudeMan

It doesn't matter what you say. The ATOT mentality is that any woman who likes a nice ring is automatically shallow and will rape you in the divorce. It's impossible to just like the nice ring for what it is and be happily married on top of that. In 30 years my wife's ring will still look impressive and we'll be able to pass it on to our kids. The diamonds will be, as they say, forever.

If people want their cheap rings that's fine, but calling people disgusting or anything else because they like something nice is beyond stupid. If you like your little shit ring then good for you. Sounds contradictory but I hate when people think they are better for wanting to buy something cheaper out of preference or just straight bitterness.

I think a nice ring is exactly that - a nice ring. You show the commitment and unity in whatever way you feel is right, but it is undeniable that a lot of people like nice things and there is nothing wrong with that. In my experience, the people who go super cheap and buy $50 rings are the ones who are annoyingly sarcastic and preach the holier-than-thou attitude, not the people with nice ones. Not like this is a new trend, though.

I agree with you in that the size of the ring has no bearing on whether you'll get nailed in the divorce. Because you will regardless.

Nobody is saying you can't enjoy something nice. Just that giving a ring is not some ancient tradition, because it's about as ancient as Santa Claus. And people were able to stay committed before this whole thing was concocted.

What happened to the good old days when the woman (or her parents) had to pay YOU to get married?