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I married the ONLY person I've had sex with. I waited until after marriage. 😀

And, no - I've had NO regrets. She does things I've never thought of. 😉

 
If you've never had sex w/anyone BUT your wife, how the hell do you know if it's good or not? Trust me: While even bad sex is better than a good day at work, there's a HUGE diff b/t "just sex" and "OMFG! PLEASE do that to me again, I don't care that I should be at work right now AND the stove is on fire AND my car alarm is going off...just do that again!" Sex.
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SOOOOOOOOOOO TRUE 😉
 
Originally posted by: astrocase
Originally posted by: Amplifier
Even though I have my best sex with my girlfriend my wife is the love of my life. I'd take making love over sex nine times out of ten.
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Then why are you having an affair?!
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An affair refers to love and I only love my wife. It's no different than those guys who use flesh lights.
 
I really appreciate the replies. Thank you.

After having "a number"of GFs, two fiancees and other assorted heterosexual encounters over the years, it's kind of scary when you meet someone that is like a breath of fresh air, relationship wise, and the sex is GOOD...real good, but not earth shattering, beg for more like you've had in the past.

This is a very confusing point in my life. 🙁

I KNOW it's a crossroads and I am a little...nervous.
 
Originally posted by: Amplifier
Originally posted by: astrocase
Originally posted by: Amplifier
Even though I have my best sex with my girlfriend my wife is the love of my life. I'd take making love over sex nine times out of ten.
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Then why are you having an affair?!
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An affair refers to love and I only love my wife. It's no different than those guys who use flesh lights.
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LOL!

Something tells me you wife doesn't see it quite that way. Please show her this thread we would love to hear her opinion on the subject🙂

 
Originally posted by: MichaelD
I really appreciate the replies. Thank you.

After having "a number"of GFs, two fiancees and other assorted heterosexual encounters over the years, it's kind of scary when you meet someone that is like a breath of fresh air, relationship wise, and the sex is GOOD...real good, but not earth shattering, beg for more like you've had in the past.

This is a very confusing point in my life. 🙁

I KNOW it's a crossroads and I am a little...nervous.
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It's pretty simple really

The things that make her a breath of fresh air will likely last forever and get even better and more important over time, as will the good sex. OMG sex with someone you are not emotionally attached too will go flat quicker than a beer on a hot summer day.

No brainer IMHO

 
I've had tons of girlfriends and the sex ranged from horrible to incredible. Sex with the woman who became my wife was very good - well above average anyway - but still far from the greatest sexual experiences I've had with other women. But I didn't marry her for the sex; I married her for the other things about her.

But I will say this, one very important sexual aspect of our relationship was that my wife was always willing to have sex - anytime. I didn't want to be begging for sex after marriage and thank god and my wife that I still don't have to after 11 years of marriage.
 
My wife and I have been together for 11 years. Was she the best sex I've ever had? Hmm...I think so, but not because the sex was freakiest, etc with her, but because the emotional side of things made the sex best with her. I mean, realistically, the 1st time we had sex, I was on a slump--it had been a month or two, so sensitivity was greater and stamina was weak. (if you get my drift) Over time, though, learning about each other's like/dislikes made the sex better because we got better with each other.

Honestly, I think that is key. If you grow together sexually, the sex GETS better. Hypothetically, if I were to have sex with someone else right nopw, the sex would probably not be very good because we don't know each other enough to know HOW to have great sex. (Is this making sense?)
 
Originally posted by: altonb1
My wife and I have been together for 11 years. Was she the best sex I've ever had? Hmm...I think so, but not because the sex was freakiest, etc with her, but because the emotional side of things made the sex best with her. I mean, realistically, the 1st time we had sex, I was on a slump--it had been a month or two, so sensitivity was greater and stamina was weak. (if you get my drift) Over time, though, learning about each other's like/dislikes made the sex better because we got better with each other.

Honestly, I think that is key. If you grow together sexually, the sex GETS better. Hypothetically, if I were to have sex with someone else right nopw, the sex would probably not be very good because we don't know each other enough to know HOW to have great sex. (Is this making sense?)
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That's the most honest thing I've read in awhile. Thank you. 🙂 I can identify with what you said.

I'm really thinking hard about this woman...I think I'm in trouble.
 
Originally posted by: jjones
I've had tons of girlfriends and the sex ranged from horrible to incredible. Sex with the woman who became my wife was very good - well above average anyway - but still far from the greatest sexual experiences I've had with other women. But I didn't marry her for the sex; I married her for the other things about her.

But I will say this, one very important sexual aspect of our relationship was that my wife was always willing to have sex - anytime. I didn't want to be begging for sex after marriage and thank god and my wife that I still don't have to after 11 years of marriage.
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Excellent post. Especially the last paragraph...that's really important...I think I've got that part covered. 🙂 Damn...my days may be numbered. :Q
 
Originally posted by: MichaelD
"OMFG! PLEASE do that to me again, I don't care that I should be at work right now AND the stove is on fire AND my car alarm is going off...just do that again!" Sex.
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I've actually said about half of that numerous times, seriously, so that's how I know. And to clarify, we didn't have "sex" until the wedding. But we went about as close as you can go...waiting was tough.
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I can say that I'm marrying someone who is not the best sex I've ever had.

She is fantastic...but I've been with a number of women and have experienced a whole gamut of talents. I give her a 8.5/10 from my own personal experience.

That being said... I couldn't imagine being with anyone else. Someone on this board once quoted a wise person who said "Sex is 90% of a bad relationship and 10% of a good relationship". Even if my fiancee was mediocre, I'd still be marrying her. The fact that she is fantastic and nearly at the top from my experience is just a really nice bonus.
 
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Originally posted by: jjones
I've had tons of girlfriends and the sex ranged from horrible to incredible. Sex with the woman who became my wife was very good - well above average anyway - but still far from the greatest sexual experiences I've had with other women. But I didn't marry her for the sex; I married her for the other things about her.

But I will say this, one very important sexual aspect of our relationship was that my wife was always willing to have sex - anytime. I didn't want to be begging for sex after marriage and thank god and my wife that I still don't have to after 11 years of marriage.
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Excellent post. Especially the last paragraph...that's really important...I think I've got that part covered. 🙂 Damn...my days may be numbered. :Q
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Are you actually thinking about diving back into the land of the married?
 
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Originally posted by: jjones
I've had tons of girlfriends and the sex ranged from horrible to incredible. Sex with the woman who became my wife was very good - well above average anyway - but still far from the greatest sexual experiences I've had with other women. But I didn't marry her for the sex; I married her for the other things about her.

But I will say this, one very important sexual aspect of our relationship was that my wife was always willing to have sex - anytime. I didn't want to be begging for sex after marriage and thank god and my wife that I still don't have to after 11 years of marriage.
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Excellent post. Especially the last paragraph...that's really important...I think I've got that part covered. 🙂 Damn...my days may be numbered. :Q
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Are you actually thinking about diving back into the land of the married?
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"Thinking" yes. Scared shitless, yes. Confused...not really. That's what's scary. I don't want to fcking get burned again.

But, if you don't swing the bat, you will never know if you'll hit the ball over the fence.

 
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Originally posted by: nakedfrog

Are you actually thinking about diving back into the land of the married?
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"Thinking" yes. Scared shitless, yes. Confused...not really. That's what's scary. I don't want to fcking get burned again.

But, if you don't swing the bat, you will never know if you'll hit the ball over the fence.
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How long have the two of you been together?
 
Been married 2.5 years and the sex is good but on an emotional level. I miss the OMG sex I used to have with a particular ex-girlfriend though. That girl caused many a break up with other girlfriends because the OMG sex was too tempting.
 
Originally posted by: PricklyPete
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Originally posted by: nakedfrog

Are you actually thinking about diving back into the land of the married?
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"Thinking" yes. Scared shitless, yes. Confused...not really. That's what's scary. I don't want to fcking get burned again.

But, if you don't swing the bat, you will never know if you'll hit the ball over the fence.
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How long have the two of you been together?
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Not long at all. That's the beauty of it. It feels right, and it's not b/c of the sex for a change. That HELPS, sure. But it's not the overriding factor here.
 
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Not long at all. That's the beauty of it. It feels right, and it's not b/c of the sex for a change. That HELPS, sure. But it's not the overriding factor here.
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There is nothing wrong about that at all. I knew very quickly that my fiancee was the girl I was going to marry. I waited a year and a half to propose...but we clicked really quickly (we were friends prior to dating who had been "previously unavailable" to each other because I was dating someone else).

I similarly felt like my fiancee was a "breat of fresh air". For the longest time I realized I was just attracted to the wrong type of girls. I was always attracted to and dated the girl who was the center of attention, passionate, and sporadic. It would always be a rollercoaster with unbelievalbe highs and unbelievable lows. Now I'm with someone who is reserved, layed back, and truly confident. Opposite of who I'd always been dating...and unbelievably compatible with my personality.
 
I married the woman I had the best sex with. We've been married nearly 18 years, and in all honesty the sex is better now. We're really compatible, sexually and personally, and that is the reason why, I believe.
 
Originally posted by: SouthPaW1227
Never had sex w/ anyone except my one and only wife.

It was never an issue; our relationship was built on things other than sex. Sex was just a bonus. We love being together, and yes, the sex is fabulous.
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same here. i love my wife!

 
I am happily married, but not to the biggest freak I have been with. If I ever want to cheat on my wife, I just get her drunk. She is a different person in bed entirely when she is loaded and she doesn't always remember it in the morning. 😀
 
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