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Question for married folks

MichaelD

MichaelD

Lifer
Posting a serious thread/question on ATOT is like throwing a bunch of bannanas into a monkey cage...hilarity is sure to ensue. But, hey, here goes.

I'm dead serious about this question.

Married folks

Setup For The Question:
During your single life, you had sex with X-number of partners; some of it was great, some of it not, some of it was OK. Those GREAT sex partners may or may not have also touched your heart.

The Question
Did you marry the person you had the best sex with?

If you married that "best sex person", and you're no longer married, that speaks to me. If you married that "not the best sex person", and you're still married...I'm interested in your thoughts.

Thanks.

 
Yes, I married the person I had the best sex with ... she was my 3rd, and by far the best 😀 Still married, going on 5 years now.
 
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Posting a serious thread/question on ATOT is like throwing a bunch of bannanas into a monkey cage...hilarity is sure to ensue. But, hey, here goes.

I'm dead serious about this question.

Married folks

Setup For The Question:
During your single life, you had sex with X-number of partners; some of it was great, some of it not, some of it was OK. Those GREAT sex partners may or may not have also touched your heart.

The Question
Did you marry the person you had the best sex with?

If you married that "best sex person", and you're no longer married, that speaks to me. If you married that "not the best sex person", and you're still married...I'm interested in your thoughts.

Thanks.
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did i marry the person i had the best sex with? nope. but i do have to say i had more sex with my wife (before we were married) then any other girl i was with. while it was quantatity over quality it was still good.

 
Never had sex w/ anyone except my one and only wife.

It was never an issue; our relationship was built on things other than sex. Sex was just a bonus. We love being together, and yes, the sex is fabulous.
 
I think you can always find someone better. The key is to not marry someone who isn't satisfying you sexually. Whether someone else can satisify you more is a moot point as long as you're satisfied and in love.
 
Originally posted by: SouthPaW1227
Never had sex w/ anyone except my one and only wife.

It was never an issue; our relationship was built on things other than sex. Sex was just a bonus. We love being together, and yes, the sex is fabulous.
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Thank you for your response. No offense intended here. But my other side compells me to respond.

If you've never had sex w/anyone BUT your wife, how the hell do you know if it's good or not? Trust me: While even bad sex is better than a good day at work, there's a HUGE diff b/t "just sex" and "OMFG! PLEASE do that to me again, I don't care that I should be at work right now AND the stove is on fire AND my car alarm is going off...just do that again!" Sex.
 
Originally posted by: SouthPaW1227
Never had sex w/ anyone except my one and only wife.

It was never an issue; our relationship was built on things other than sex. Sex was just a bonus. We love being together, and yes, the sex is fabulous.
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Did you just say fabulous? Oh stop it! 😛
 
Originally posted by: astrocase
I think you can always find someone better. The key is to not marry someone who isn't satisfying you sexually. Whether someone else can satisify you more is a moot point as long as you're satisfied and in love.
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And the times that are the most difficult is when you're not having sex. You need to have enough in common to want to be with each other without sex in the relationship too.....and I'm talking 2-3 weeks with no action and still want to be with the person. 😛
 
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Originally posted by: SouthPaW1227
Never had sex w/ anyone except my one and only wife.

It was never an issue; our relationship was built on things other than sex. Sex was just a bonus. We love being together, and yes, the sex is fabulous.
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Thank you for your response. No offense intended here. But my other side compells me to respond.

If you've never had sex w/anyone BUT your wife, how the hell do you know if it's good or not? Trust me: While even bad sex is better than a good day at work, there's a HUGE diff b/t "just sex" and "OMFG! PLEASE do that to me again, I don't care that I should be at work right now AND the stove is on fire AND my car alarm is going off...just do that again!" Sex.
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Although I was tempted to respond with the same thing I've already learned that having that conversation leads you nowhere. He'll never understand that. As long as he's happy though it's ok.
 
Had sex with two people including my wife, and frankly sex isn't THAT big a deal in a marriage. I agree that you need to sexually compatable with your spouse, but it isn't the be all and end all. And trust me no matter what you tell yourself you will have less and less sex as you go. Not saying you won't have any, but the drive to have it all the time, multiple times a day, fades.
 
Originally posted by: pulsedrive
Had sex with two people including my wife, and frankly sex isn't THAT big a deal in a marriage. I agree that you need to sexually compatable with your spouse, but it isn't the be all and end all. And trust me no matter what you tell yourself you will have less and less sex as you go. Not saying you won't have any, but the drive to have it all the time, multiple times a day, fades.
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spot on
 
Originally posted by: astrocase
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Originally posted by: SouthPaW1227
Never had sex w/ anyone except my one and only wife.

It was never an issue; our relationship was built on things other than sex. Sex was just a bonus. We love being together, and yes, the sex is fabulous.
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Thank you for your response. No offense intended here. But my other side compells me to respond.

If you've never had sex w/anyone BUT your wife, how the hell do you know if it's good or not? Trust me: While even bad sex is better than a good day at work, there's a HUGE diff b/t "just sex" and "OMFG! PLEASE do that to me again, I don't care that I should be at work right now AND the stove is on fire AND my car alarm is going off...just do that again!" Sex.
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Although I was tempted to respond with the same thing I've already learned that having that conversation leads you nowhere. He'll never understand that. As long as he's happy though it's ok.
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I think this is part of the reason why I want to whore myself out for a while...I'm single I can get married and go steady later. I know I live once so I might as well make the most of it, if I live again I can do something else 😛

Koing
 
Originally posted by: astrocase
Originally posted by: MichaelD
Originally posted by: SouthPaW1227
Never had sex w/ anyone except my one and only wife.

It was never an issue; our relationship was built on things other than sex. Sex was just a bonus. We love being together, and yes, the sex is fabulous.
Click to expand...

Thank you for your response. No offense intended here. But my other side compells me to respond.

If you've never had sex w/anyone BUT your wife, how the hell do you know if it's good or not? Trust me: While even bad sex is better than a good day at work, there's a HUGE diff b/t "just sex" and "OMFG! PLEASE do that to me again, I don't care that I should be at work right now AND the stove is on fire AND my car alarm is going off...just do that again!" Sex.
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Although I was tempted to respond with the same thing I've already learned that having that conversation leads you nowhere. He'll never understand that. As long as he's happy though it's ok.
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Please allow me to buy you a drink. 🙂 Your choice. :beer: :wine:
 
I did not marry the person I had the best sex with. Sex with my wife is very good but I had a relationship with this one woman for about a month and a half and the sex was out of this world good. We would not have been a good fit though for marriage.

Sex isn't everything in a relationship.

Edit-I had sex with 8 different women prior to my wife.
 
I find it difficult to quantify.
I'm not trying to be evasive, but it really doesn't matter. I have great sex with my wife and when that sex is fueled by the unique emotional connection we share, it's entirely different from any sex I've had in any other relationship.
 
Originally posted by: djheater
I find it difficult to quantify.
I'm not trying to be evasive, but it really doesn't matter. I have great sex with my wife and when that sex is fueled by the unique emotional connection we share, it's entirely different from any sex I've had in any other relationship.
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i'm going with this guy... the sex that i have with my fiance is the best sex ever, but it's not just the best, but it's way different.. i'm gonna sound faggy, but with the others it was sex, and with my fiance, it's "making love".. that's how i differentiate it
 
Had sex with... 15 or 16 people before I got together with my GF, and we've been together for seven years (and engaged for most of that time). The marriage is planned for next year (long story). She's also the one the sex was the best with.
 
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Had sex with... 15 or 16 people before I got together with my GF, and we've been together for seven years (and engaged for most of that time). The marriage is planned for next year (long story). She's also the one the sex was the best with.
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Good for you! :thumbsup: Sounds like you did very well!
 
Originally posted by: astrocase
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Had sex with... 15 or 16 people before I got together with my GF, and we've been together for seven years (and engaged for most of that time). The marriage is planned for next year (long story). She's also the one the sex was the best with.
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Good for you! :thumbsup: Sounds like you did very well!
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Thanks, I'd like to think so 😛
Who else would put up with all my crap, after all 😀
 
Even though I have my best sex with my girlfriend my wife is the love of my life. I'd take making love over sex nine times out of ten.
 
Originally posted by: Amplifier
Even though I have my best sex with my girlfriend my wife is the love of my life. I'd take making love over sex nine times out of ten.
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Then why are you having an affair?!
 
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