Question about a girl...

[xAMD4Lifex]

We've gone to eat and such many times. We are also very open about each other and talk almost daily.

Like I said for the 100th time now, I'm just curious as to if she could have been lying about not liking me.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: FrustratedUser

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: xAMD4Lifex

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: xAMD4Lifex
Btw, we've eaten together, hanged out, etc.

Just the two of you?

Yes, just the two of us. I'm really not into her for s3x or anything, I just want to know if there is a chance that she was lying when responding to my question.

Then what does it matter?

Yaeh, WTF mate?

Because for some people being in a meaningful relationship is more important than sex -_-. (I believe in waiting until after marriage personally).

As for your question, ask her out. Ask her if she wants to grab a cup of coffee or something sometime. Hell, if you know of an event (Football game, Basketball game) take her to that.

Movies are fine for dates after the first date, but on the first you really do need to get to know each other and talk and stuff.

As for the friends zone, while there is some credibility to that most of it is BS. There was a poll taken a few days ago here on ATOT and like 70% of the time the people here wound up with someone who was once a friend.

People, including girls , change there minds. If she says she only sees you as a friend try to get over it and move on and don't push anything. If later in life, you are still friends and she comes back and her mind has changed and you are single or something then go for it.

Also, try www.YAGT.org. The people over there can be very helpful!

Good Luck,
-Kevin

 

[txrandom]

Originally posted by: hypn0tik

Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune

Originally posted by: hypn0tik

Originally posted by: thecoolnessrune
Im sure there are plently of people here who will throw in their half cents. I'm not one of them. I dont understand why people think its even worth trying to date someone you talk to a few times but then again my moral standards tend to be fairly strict. Good luck to you and I sincerely hope things do work out.

Yet here you are throwing in your half cent.

Verses the tendencies the general population of this forum conforms to? Its only worth about a quarter cent, so I figured it was ok.

Hahahaha. You sure it's not 0.002 cents?

+1 if you got the reference.

I got your .002 dollars reference.

 

[xAMD4Lifex]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Originally posted by: FrustratedUser

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: xAMD4Lifex

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: xAMD4Lifex
Btw, we've eaten together, hanged out, etc.

Just the two of you?

Yes, just the two of us. I'm really not into her for s3x or anything, I just want to know if there is a chance that she was lying when responding to my question.

Then what does it matter?

Yaeh, WTF mate?

Because for some people being in a meaningful relationship is more important than sex -_-. (I believe in waiting until after marriage personally).

As for your question, ask her out. Ask her if she wants to grab a cup of coffee or something sometime. Hell, if you know of an event (Football game, Basketball game) take her to that.

Movies are fine for dates after the first date, but on the first you really do need to get to know each other and talk and stuff.

As for the friends zone, while there is some credibility to that most of it is BS. There was a poll taken a few days ago here on ATOT and like 70% of the time the people here wound up with someone who was once a friend.

People, including girls , change there minds. If she says she only sees you as a friend try to get over it and move on and don't push anything. If later in life, you are still friends and she comes back and her mind has changed and you are single or something then go for it.

Also, try www.YAGT.org. The people over there can be very helpful!

Good Luck,
-Kevin

Thanks for the great response. Well, we've been hanging out every week when we aren't busy, so I know for sure that she would be happy to go out for lunch or dinner. What I can't seem to find out though is if she likes me or if she just thinks of me as a friend, hence the reason why I asked her. She said that she found me attractive which I'm guessing is a positive thing, but I can't get over the idea that she would then follow up with "I don't like you" unless there is some reason behind it. The only justifiable reason that I could think of is that she's too scared to tell me, which may only be overcome if I tell her that I like her first?

 

[dxkj]

Originally posted by: xAMD4Lifex
We've gone to eat and such many times. We are also very open about each other and talk almost daily.

Like I said for the 100th time now, I'm just curious as to if she could have been lying about not liking me.

umm... moron

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: xAMD4Lifex

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Originally posted by: FrustratedUser

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: xAMD4Lifex

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: xAMD4Lifex
Btw, we've eaten together, hanged out, etc.

Just the two of you?

Yes, just the two of us. I'm really not into her for s3x or anything, I just want to know if there is a chance that she was lying when responding to my question.

Then what does it matter?

Yaeh, WTF mate?

Because for some people being in a meaningful relationship is more important than sex -_-. (I believe in waiting until after marriage personally).

As for your question, ask her out. Ask her if she wants to grab a cup of coffee or something sometime. Hell, if you know of an event (Football game, Basketball game) take her to that.

Movies are fine for dates after the first date, but on the first you really do need to get to know each other and talk and stuff.

As for the friends zone, while there is some credibility to that most of it is BS. There was a poll taken a few days ago here on ATOT and like 70% of the time the people here wound up with someone who was once a friend.

People, including girls , change there minds. If she says she only sees you as a friend try to get over it and move on and don't push anything. If later in life, you are still friends and she comes back and her mind has changed and you are single or something then go for it.

Also, try www.YAGT.org. The people over there can be very helpful!

Good Luck,
-Kevin

Thanks for the great response. Well, we've been hanging out every week when we aren't busy, so I know for sure that she would be happy to go out for lunch or dinner. What I can't seem to find out though is if she likes me or if she just thinks of me as a friend, hence the reason why I asked her. She said that she found me attractive which I'm guessing is a positive thing, but I can't get over the idea that she would then follow up with "I don't like you" unless there is some reason behind it. The only justifiable reason that I could think of is that she's too scared to tell me, which may only be overcome if I tell her that I like her first?

Well, not knowing your age, younger girls would probably be more afraid of commitment than older more mature girls. If she is older (By that I mean if you guys are in your 20's or higher) it is possible, but more likely she just worded "I only see you as a friend" very badly.

Ask her out to something slightly more serious than what you guys normally do and at the end tell her that you are having a great time and are wondering if it will go anywhere. But also follow up with if not, you still enjoy being friends with her.

I go out with my friends (who are girls) all the time. ESPECIALLY in college, it isn't uncommon to grab some dinner or meet for coffee early in the morning. Hell, I was over watching movies until 5AM a few weeks ago. Girls are very tricky and love attention and having good friends (As we all do), a lot of times us guys can misconstrue that to meaning love.

The only way you are going to know is to ask man. If there is any other way we can help you just PM or post. (Oh and don't pay attention to a lot of these idiots in this thread who have a one track mind-sex. More times than not they just think they are being cool and haven't a chance in the world of being in a serious relationship.

G/L! Keep us posted.

-Kevin

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: xAMD4Lifex
I'm really not into her for s3x or anything...

This is the intarweb, you're allowed to say "sex" here.

Give her a free iPod; that should do the trick.

 

[Kirby]

"Sup b!tch, prom?"

If all else fails, just pull it out. She'll know instantly if she likes you or not.

 

[irishScott]

Nice guys are teh sh!t if you've got CONFIDENCE.

Be nice, confident, flirt with her, but be cool, make it clear that sex isn't the only thing on your mind (unless it's on hers ).

Judging by your post you might have seemed insecure.

I'd say wait a few days, hang out with her to solidify what you've got left, and then ask her out. Don't ask her if she's interested, just ask her out.

Also, when you do it, dress slightly nicer then you normally would, but not obviously nicer (i.e. Polo instead of T-shirt), look decent, and stand up straight. No slouching (you don't have to stand erect like a soldier. Be relaxed, but stand straight) and look her in the eyes. You sound sincere, so that shouldn't be a problem.

Not much else I can recommend.