PSA: Spoiled != A good thing

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Originally posted by: Isla
Originally posted by: theprodigalrebel
You're not a princess. You take tickets at the movie theatre.

LMFAO!

In which case, she's still just a little college age baby and you should probably consider her potential. Will she always be taking tickets at the movie theatre? Or will she be running rings around you 10 years from now?

My EE husband thinks he is superior, but I get all the love. I feel sorry for guys who don't understand that there is more to life than a fat wallet.''


My husband has a great job that pays REALLY well and has great benefits, but he is miserable. I am a school teacher, my families love me and I love what I do. This makes it a LOT easier for me to just blow him off when he acts like he is better than me. :)

Oh, I am not saying someone isn't worthy of being treated with respect because of their education/job. That's moronic and stupid. I just thought the way he said it was funny, that's all. :)
 

allisolm

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Originally posted by: Agentbolt
Had this conversation with a friend the other day:

Her: There's plenty of cute guys around, but they're all deadbeats. I just want a nice, cute guy who's going to spoil me.
Me: Spoiled is a bad thing, you realize that, right?
Her: Well, not THAT way, I just... you know, the good kind of spoiled. Where they treat me like a princess.
Me: You're not a princess. You take tickets at the movie theatre.
Her: You're such a jerk!!


Just in case anyone is curious:

having the character or disposition harmed by pampering or oversolicitous attention; "a spoiled child"
Just in case anyone is curious:

jerk - A foolish, rude, or contemptible person.

She was so right about that.
And she does deserve someone who spoils her (as in treats her like a princess) even if she takes tickets at a theater. My husband treats me like a princess and I'm a housewife. I treat him like a king and all is well throughout our land.

 

dug777

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Originally posted by: allisolm My husband treats me like a princess and I'm a housewife. I treat him like a king and all is well throughout our land.

Put a sock in it, Princess Fiona ;)

 

yllus

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A lot, if not most, girls express something along those lines. For some reason women (even the ones whose independence and intelligence IMO put me to shame) say it. It's not to be taken that seriously. And hey, once in a while it's fun to spoil a pretty girl. :)
 

IceBergSLiM

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she will go through another half dozen or so a$$holes who treat her like sh1t before she gets a reality check. Thank hollywood for implanting these fairytales of the knight in shinning armor into womens minds.
 

Sdiver2489

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Originally posted by: yllus
A lot, if not most, girls express something along those lines. For some reason women (even the ones whose independence and intelligence IMO put me to shame) say it. It's not to be taken that seriously. And hey, once in a while it's fun to spoil a pretty girl. :)

Exactly, women just want to treated well, to many of them this is the "spoiling" they are talking about. You know the drill, a little cuddling, movie nights, going out to dinner once and a while...yadada

OP, sorry but you were an ass to her and she didn't deserve it.
 

allisolm

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Originally posted by: dug777
Originally posted by: allisolm My husband treats me like a princess and I'm a housewife. I treat him like a king and all is well throughout our land.
Put a sock in it, Princess Fiona ;)

Would that I were so beautiful.. Although I might have a crown like that. Let me check. I think it's alongside the French maid's outfit. ;)

 

Jahee

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Originally posted by: Zenmervolt
The women that I know aren't talking about "things" when they say they want to be "spoiled". They're talking about being romanced. "Spoiled" by the little things, like flowers, or making them dinner, by picking them up a bar of chocolate randomly when you come home from the grocery store. Things that don't cost much but that mean you're thinking of them.

ZV

Think you hit the nail on the head there
 

crt1530

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I've met a small number of women who don't want to work outside the home, have children, or do housework. They are human leeches who think they deserve material possessions and comfort because they have a vagina. Most women are not like this. The ones who are give women in general a bad name.
 

sandorski

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Don't try and understand women, it'll make your head hurt. Just accept that they think/speak differently than us males and learn what they expect of you. If you don't want to, prepare for a life of Handparties and/or Mandates!
 

Alphathree33

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In fairness, many men believe they deserve a hot girlfriend simply because they're an average dork.

I've found that (physically attractive young) women have all the power up to a point. They can get 95% of the men on the planet -- but it's the other 5% they actually want.

Get yourself into that 5% category, and YOU will have all the power.

Typical seduction community thinking, of course... the question is HOW to do that.

The answer that has worked for me is summarized with this:

- Constant self-improvement (learn new skills, hobbies, etc.)
- Tweak your appearance (hair, wardrobe, teeth, body)
- Improve your social skills (confidence, humor, relaxed-ness... is that a word?)

Once you cross that barrier, you become the exception to the rule. Now girls want to know how to please you.

If you have to spoil a girl, you're communicating that she is worth more than you are.

I do spoil my girlfriend occasionally -- for fun for ME, or to cheer her up -- but it's not what keeps her in the relationship.
 

scootermaster

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How about pics of the OP and his ever-so-hot GF?

Kudos to you for dating someone not worth spoiling. Congrats on that.

I look at spoiling girls like I look at buying Monster Cable. Sure, a lot of people bitch about how it's a waste of money and whatever, but in the end, it really is good quality crap, even though you might not need it. But hey, if you got the money to burn -- ahem, like I do -- then why even worry about it?

 

sixone

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Originally posted by: Alphathree33
I do spoil my girlfriend occasionally -- for fun for ME, or to cheer her up -- but it's not what keeps her in the relationship.

Wait...aren't you the guy who had to "improve" her to where she's "almost as nice as a human being"?

Maybe you could tell us what DOES keep her in the relationship - I'm not seeing it.
 

JS80

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i love blasting spoiled girls and then dropping them. hopefully that'll lead them closer to humbleness.
 

ColdFusion718

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Originally posted by: Geekbabe
Originally posted by: Lonyo
And they want equality too.
If they want equality, then maybe they can spoil US sometimes too.

And when women do just that,when they work to take care of a man,they're gossiped about, laughed at and in general treated like dirt socially.

Everybody wants to feel special,even fat girls who sell movie tickets.

But not everyone is special nor is everyone entitled to "special" treatment, hence why said treatment is special in the first place.

Originally posted by: Dirigible
Originally posted by: Zenmervolt
The women that I know aren't talking about "things" when they say they want to be "spoiled". They're talking about being romanced. "Spoiled" by the little things, like flowers, or making them dinner, by picking them up a bar of chocolate randomly when you come home from the grocery store. Things that don't cost much but that mean you're thinking of them.

ZV


I've known too many women who mean more than that when they say "spoiled" to take that as its meaning.

I sure do the sorts of things you mention for my wife, and do not consider it spoiling her. I consider it showing that I love her.

Looks like many of these posts are just based on different interpretations of the word. Doesn't change the fact that if I hear someone say they want to be spoiled, my estimation of their character goes way down.

I think the OP is emphasizing the attitude of entitlement. It's not necessarily what she said that irked him to cut her down in the way he did. It was the pretense in which she said it.
 

bignateyk

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My ex actually had the audacity to tell me that she wanted me to spoil her. I dont have a problem spoiling a girl, but its when they expect it that its a problem.

Hence the "ex" part.
 

dug777

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Originally posted by: allisolm
Originally posted by: dug777
Originally posted by: allisolm My husband treats me like a princess and I'm a housewife. I treat him like a king and all is well throughout our land.
Put a sock in it, Princess Fiona ;)

Would that I were so beautiful.. Although I might have a crown like that. Let me check. I think it's alongside the French maid's outfit. ;)

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