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We are Jewish, so we do not believe in Santa from the start. However, we did not have a "Santa talk" with our kids. When they were old enough, they would ask if Santa, who we know does not come to our house, is real. We would tell them that Jews do not believe in Santa being real, but, since we do not want to ruin things for our friends, we do not tell them that Santa is not real.

Side note: My mom use to take us for a picture with Santa at the mall. I am told that, when I was about 5-6, I sat on Santa's lap and said, "I am Jewish and we do not believe in you, but my mom wants a picture, so smile."

MotionMan
 
Rob M. said:
No, I'd rather tell my kids the truth from the jump so they won't even have to be worried about believing in Santa or this Christmans falsehood crap.

I'm depriving my kids of lies and falsehood. Good enough for me. You're a crappy parent if you need your kids to believe in some bearded sky-fairy and not you.
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Given your posting history I'm not entirely convinced that you wouldn't teach your kids to believe in a bearded sky-fairy.

Whether Santa exists and delivers gifts to all children in the world in a very short time span is a matter for philosophical debate; the concept of Santa is the important lesson.
 
Rob M. said:
A lie is a lie is a lie....
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So Jesus is a lie; good to know you agree.

Teaching ethical and moral behaviors is not dependant on religious strictures or structures. Neither is teaching children (and adults) to give to those less fortunate. The spirit of Christmas is charitable acts, family and friends and the inter/intra-personal relationships we cherish and nourish.
 
lxskllr said:
I'd never tell my kids there's no Santa. Santa stops existing when they say he doesn't exist. Santa is the last bit of magic on this shitty planet, and you have to be a real fuckhole to deprive your kids of that.
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Ok, maybe the thread title should be "When your kids figure out there is no Santa Claus... "
 
I would rather have my child believe in the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, and Santa, instead of some all-powerful man in the sky who can change the outcome of thier life.
 
Number1 said:
You're an obtuse idiot. There is nothing wrong in believing in Santa or the tooth fairy. Children grow out of it when they are ready.

Most people get that. You must be special.
Or you're 12 and just found out?

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PSA:
This is how we deal with people like you up here in Canada

Man arrested for telling kids there's no Santa
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I'm the idiot, yet I am not lying to my kids. 🙄

Let you be your own kids' "giver" and not some pixy-dust tossing bimbo, or a bearded pedophile that likes having young boys on his lap.

I'm glad my parents kept me from these lies -- worked out perfectly for me and I'm glad I'm not burdend with perpetuating these lies down to my kids and grandkids.

...and I don't wait till Chrsitmas to perform charitable and kind acts, or to buy people I love gifts. I do it whenever I have the money or see the need.
 
Number1 said:
You're an obtuse idiot. There is nothing wrong in believing in Santa or the tooth fairy. Children grow out of it when they are ready.

Most people get that. You must be special.
Or you're 12 and just found out?

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PSA:
This is how we deal with people like you up here in Canada

Man arrested for telling kids there's no Santa
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No, they really don't.. hence why most of the world is religious... Santa is simply the precursor to believing in an even bigger fantasy. Santa and gods are pretty close.. can be everywhere at once, judge you based on whether you are good or bad.. etc.
 
MotionMan said:
We are Jewish, so we do not believe in Santa from the start. However, we did not have a "Santa talk" with our kids. When they were old enough, they would ask if Santa, who we know does not come to our house, is real. We would tell them that Jews do not believe in Santa being real, but, since we do not want to ruin things for our friends, we do not tell them that Santa is not real.

Side note: My mom use to take us for a picture with Santa at the mall. I am told that, when I was about 5-6, I sat on Santa's lap and said, "I am Jewish and we do not believe in you, but my mom wants a picture, so smile."

MotionMan
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:biggrin:
 
MotionMan said:
We are Jewish, so we do not believe in Santa from the start. However, we did not have a "Santa talk" with our kids. When they were old enough, they would ask if Santa, who we know does not come to our house, is real. We would tell them that Jews do not believe in Santa being real, but, since we do not want to ruin things for our friends, we do not tell them that Santa is not real.

Side note: My mom use to take us for a picture with Santa at the mall. I am told that, when I was about 5-6, I sat on Santa's lap and said, "I am Jewish and we do not believe in you, but my mom wants a picture, so smile."

MotionMan
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I'm quite sure you collected your candy cane on the way out though. 😀
Still scratching my head over Santa being a Christian thing.
 
Rob M. said:
I'm the idiot, yet I am not lying to my kids. 🙄

Let you be your own kids' "giver" and not some pixy-dust tossing bimbo, or a bearded pedophile that likes having young boys on his lap.

I'm glad my parents kept me from these lies -- worked out perfectly for me and I'm glad I'm not burdend with perpetuating these lies down to my kids and grandkids.

...and I don't wait till Chrsitmas to perform charitable and kind acts, or to buy people I love gifts. I do it whenever I have the money or see the need.
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You had something to hide
Should have hidden it, shouldn't you
Now you're not satisfied
With what you're being put through
It's just time to pay the price
For not listening to advice
And deciding in your youth
On the policy of truth

Things could be so different now
It used to be so civilised
You will always wonder how
It could have been if you'd only lied
It's too late to change events
It's time to face the consequence
For delivering the proof
In the policy of truth

Never again is what you swore
The time before
Never again is what you swore
The time before

Now you're standing there tongue tied
You'd better learn your lesson well
Hide what you have to hide
And tell what you have to tell
You'll see your problems multiplied
If you continually decide
To faithfully pursue
The policy of truth

Never again is what you swore
The time before
Never again is what you swore
The time before

- Depeche Mode
 
You give your kids a " basis" of reality and then they find out it's/you tell them it's a lie. "Well, what other crock of crap did my Dad lie about"....since you're a lyer. Children don't have the ability to decipher these things like an adult. "You said it's true, now you don't.":colbert:



My 11 year old danced around the house several times today. Sony headphones, Prestige Bball cards, pc game, Star Wars season 4......Santa wasn't invited. When he would grin and laugh at the surf, my singing, the tree rats, Santa wasn't invited either. There's enough magic in the world to keep us all busy without lying to our children.
 
I think my main source of upset wasn't because Santa wasn't real, but because I couldn't understand why my parents had intentionally lied to me for a few years.
 
highland145 said:
You give your kids a " basis" of reality and then they find out it's/you tell them it's a lie. "Well, what other crock of crap did my Dad lie about"....since you're a lyer. Children don't have the ability to decipher these things like an adult. "You said it's true, now you don't.":colbert:

My 11 year old danced around the house several times today. Sony headphones, Prestige Bball cards, pc game, Star Wars season 4......Santa wasn't invited. When he would grin and laugh at the surf, my singing, the tree rats, Santa wasn't invited either. There's enough magic in the world to keep us all busy without lying to our children.
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:thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup:

My parents never told me Santa was real. I don't think I ever really believed in him as a result.

Another problem I have with Santa: when I was younger I had a friend who was in a poor family and believed in Santa, he wanted some handheld video game for christmas and of course he didn't get it. I think he had a hard time understanding why some of the other kids got what they asked for and he didn't, and I think it would have been a lot easier to understand "mommy and daddy can't afford that right now, but we still love you".
 
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