PSA - Having a baby doesn't make you special.

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Phoenix86

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This impatient attitude is exactly the problem. It's quite common for strapping in a kid to take longer than 10 seconds, partially because kids often hate being strapped in.
OP wasn't talking about 10 second, he said 3 minutes. Why can't the parent be patient and let someone out of their car if they know it's going to take a while?

I'd gladly wait a bit of time to time to let a kid get strapped in, but cooing and baby talking isn't strapping them in.

Patience goes both ways.
 

Midwayman

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If you go to the top of the page and re-read, the story, you will find that all the cooing was done long after the baby was strapped in. Fact is, there was no sense of urgency because it was all about her and the baby and the hell with what anyone else's needs are.

Just sayin...read the whole story.

You know, it really doesn't say that.

"So I was getting out of a store today and this lady was loading her baby into the car, blocking me in. About three minutes later and after having to listen to cooing, baby talk and other such irritating nonsense, I politely asked if I could get my car out."

Likely hyperbole aside, there isn't a time frame for the actual buckling vs cooing. Only that he made a comment after 3 minutes. So check your own reading comprehension before you go pointing fingers.
 

Phoenix86

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You know, it really doesn't say that.

"So I was getting out of a store today and this lady was loading her baby into the car, blocking me in. About three minutes later and after having to listen to cooing, baby talk and other such irritating nonsense, I politely asked if I could get my car out."

Likely hyperbole aside, there isn't a time frame for the actual buckling vs cooing. Only that he made a comment after 3 minutes. So check your own reading comprehension before you go pointing fingers.
It's kind of moot, after 3 minutes it's beyond the time to ask of someone to wait and it's the parents turn to move for what is likely 10 seconds for someone to get out of the car. Well beyond that time...
 

1sikbITCH

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So I was getting out of a store today and this lady was loading her baby into the car, blocking me in. About three minutes later and after having to listen to cooing, baby talk and other such irritating nonsense, I politely asked if I could get my car out. She turns to me with this look of disbelief on her face and proceeds to say "can't you see I have a baby here?" To which I responded "News flash -having a baby does not make you special. It just validates that tramp stamp on your ass. There have been billions of babies before yours...it doesn't take talent. Now how about closing the door?" Well, things deteriorated somewhat from there and I probably didn't get out any faster. Seriously though, people, aside from the odd teenage girl no one is all that impressed with you having a baby. I just don't see why this affords you the right to act like royalty.

This is typical. Your child is in danger a foot from a moving vehicle and angry driver and instead of moving the child to safety the dumb bitch wants to stand there and argue with the lunatic.

Good thing for her you didn't snap!
 

tygeezy

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Got to love the "baby on board" stickers. I mean, otherwise I might have just rammed that car if it wasn't for the sticker notifying me.
 

bonkers325

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if the baby isn't screaming at the top of their lungs and throwing a big shit fit, then i'd cut the mother a little slack. otherwise i'd ask her if she needs help and subtly let her know that she's inconveniencing everyone and that her and her little monster needs to vacate the premise immediately.
 

Sho'Nuff

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So I was getting out of a store today and this lady was loading her baby into the car, blocking me in. About three minutes later and after having to listen to cooing, baby talk and other such irritating nonsense, I politely asked if I could get my car out. She turns to me with this look of disbelief on her face and proceeds to say "can't you see I have a baby here?" To which I responded "News flash -having a baby does not make you special. It just validates that tramp stamp on your ass. There have been billions of babies before yours...it doesn't take talent. Now how about closing the door?" Well, things deteriorated somewhat from there and I probably didn't get out any faster. Seriously though, people, aside from the odd teenage girl no one is all that impressed with you having a baby. I just don't see why this affords you the right to act like royalty.

You're right, having a baby doesn't make someone special. It does however entitle them to some patience and consideration.
 

Exterous

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You're right, having a baby doesn't make someone special. It does however entitle them to some patience and consideration.

:confused: If someone is entitled to something because of a particular circumstance that doesn't apply to everyone isn't that pretty much the same as special? As in 'they are given special consideration'
 

Murloc

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Got to love the "baby on board" stickers. I mean, otherwise I might have just rammed that car if it wasn't for the sticker notifying me.
yeah this is stupid, it's not like people honk horns needlessly, usually they flash the lights.
 

Sho'Nuff

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:confused: If someone is entitled to something because of a particular circumstance that doesn't apply to everyone isn't that pretty much the same as special? As in 'they are given special consideration'

No, its not the same as special.

Definition of special:

1. distinguished by some unusual quality; especially : being in some way superior <our special blend>
2: held in particular esteem <a special friend>
3
a : readily distinguishable from others of the same category : unique <they set it apart as a special day of thanksgiving>

b : of, relating to, or constituting a species : specific

4: being other than the usual : additional, extra

5: designed for a particular purpose or occasion

The fact that someone has a baby does not make them special, because having a baby does not render them unusual or in some way superior, or readily distinguishable from other people (with or without babies).

On the other hand, someone with a baby is entitled by societal norms to some degree of consideration. I.e., understanding that, given the needs of the child, that the person may need additional time and/or patience. They are not given that consideration because they are "special," but rather because of the mutual understanding amongst humans that infants require attention that small children and adults do not.
 

Exterous

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No, its not the same as special.

Definition of special:

1. distinguished by some unusual quality; especially : being in some way superior <our special blend>
2: held in particular esteem <a special friend>
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a : readily distinguishable from others of the same category : unique <they set it apart as a special day of thanksgiving>

b : of, relating to, or constituting a species : specific

4: being other than the usual : additional, extra

5: designed for a particular purpose or occasion

The fact that someone has a baby does not make them special, because having a baby does not render them unusual or in some way superior, or readily distinguishable from other people (with or without babies).

On the other hand, someone with a baby is entitled by societal norms to some degree of consideration. I.e., understanding that, given the needs of the child, that the person may need additional time and/or patience. They are not given that consideration because they are "special," but rather because of the mutual understanding amongst humans that infants require attention that small children and adults do not.

So there is some distinguishable characteristic that separates them from others in the same category (The category being: humans and the characteristic: having a baby). And how the hell can you argue that they are not readily distinguishable from other people when this specific topic is regarding special consideration for someone who had a baby in the car. If you use the baby to determine they need additional consideration then you are using the baby to distinguish them. I don't see how you can argue it can be used to single them out for additional consideration on one hand but then claim you can't distinguish them from other humans on the other. Makes no sense

*checks # 3a*

Seems to fit

Or - your incorrect assertion aside, as the majority of people do not currently have a baby, (ie the usual human condition is to not currently have a baby) #4 works as they are currently in a state of 'other than the usual'
 
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rh71

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has nothing to do with babies and everything to do with her being an inconsiderate person. She should've just done it quick instead of what you've described as comforting the baby first. She's probably the type who will go down an aisle at a supermarket/store and not care someone is behind her trying to get by.
 
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