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PSA - Having a baby doesn't make you special.

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Humpy said:
A few inches isn't enough? Exactly how far away does everyone have to stay from your baby so you don't get upset?
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Next spot over, or just wait.

ie. Don't be such a dangerous douche when parking a car. Wait until children are out of harm's way, and all doors are closed before pulling into an adjacent spot.

In fact, I do the same regardless if there are kids. If the doors are open, or if there is anyone (child or not) standing next to the car, then you're an ass for pulling in to the adjacent spot.
 
The Sauce said:
To which I responded "News flash -having a baby does not make you special. It just validates that tramp stamp on your ass. There have been billions of babies before yours...it doesn't take talent. Now how about closing the door?"
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The fact that this part makes you look like the bigger dick in the situation can be forgiven since it didn't actually happen.
 
Inconsiderate people are just that. Having a baby just gives them another reason to be self centered nincompoops.
 
I don't mind people with kids or accommodating them. Kids are a pain in the ass, and the older they get the less you can use your physical advantage to force them to do what is needed- a baby you put in the car seat, a teenager you have to convince to get in the car.

What I DO mind is housewives/husbands that have NOTHING going for them outside of their kids (no career, or non-household responsibilities) that act like they are SO important/special because they are raising kids.

Its like deep down they know that they are worthless people skill-wise and having a kid saved them from floundering in a tough job market, so they overcompensate by making their entire life their kids.

Which would be fine if they didn't project and pretend that what is happening with their kids is just as important as people doing actual jobs. As far as I am concerned, a stay-at-home mom/dad should never act crazy or in a rush, and should always defer to those who have real jobs to do.

If you are late to get little Jimmy to soccer practice or school then maybe a teacher/coach is a little mad at them and everyone forgets in a year or less. If I am late to work I am fired and the lifetime earning potential of my entire family might be irreparably damaged.

So stay out of my way, and don't pretend the reason you are "in a rush" is as important as my reason is.
 
lxskllr said:
carts left roaming the parking lots...
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don't you have to insert coins in those to unlock them in america?
Or since you have the 1 dollar bill, the inconvenience of taking it back to the cart station is worse than losing 50 cents?
 
Murloc said:
don't you have to insert coins in those to unlock them in america?
Or since you have the 1 dollar bill, the inconvenience of taking it back to the cart station is worse than losing 50 cents?
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The only store I'm aware of that does that is Aldi; it hold 25¢ hostage until you dock the cart. I think it's a great idea, and I'd love to see other stores take it up.
 
poofyhairguy said:
Which would be fine if they didn't project and pretend that what is happening with their kids is just as important as people doing actual jobs. As far as I am concerned, a stay-at-home mom/dad should never act crazy or in a rush, and should always defer to those who have real jobs to do.

If you are late to get little Jimmy to soccer practice or school then maybe a teacher/coach is a little mad at them and everyone forgets in a year or less. If I am late to work I am fired and the lifetime earning potential of my entire family might be irreparably damaged.

So stay out of my way, and don't pretend the reason you are "in a rush" is as important as my reason is.
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Wow, u serious? Assuming you are:

What do you do for a living? Neurosurgery? Commercial pilot? If not then I don't see your rush really as likely being that important either. (Yes I have a "real" job too.)

If 30 seconds in a mall parking lot is going to get you fired, then perhaps you should have skipped going to the mall in the first place.
 
Eug said:
What do you do for a living? Neurosurgery? Commercial pilot? If not then I don't see your rush really as likely being that important either.
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My point is that the penalties for being late in the working world are much more severe than the penalties for a kid being late to anything.

If 30 seconds in a mall parking lot is going to get you fired, then perhaps you should have skipped going to the mall in the first place.
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As I said in my post, I don't mind accommodating those who have kids as long as its reasonable. Three minutes is reasonable.


What I am more talking about is when random mom at Starbucks or whatever wants to cut in line or rush the barista because "the kids needs to get to school/soccer practice" as if that is open heart surgery.

Or this one mom in my neighborhood that stops at a house at the end of the street to pick up a fellow kid for car pool that gets offended if I don't wait behind her when she honks and waits for the kid. Sorry, you are not a school bus, I am gonna blow around you.
 
Midwayman said:
People with kids pull a lot of self entitled BS, but taking longer to get in/out of a car is just a fact of life. Cut em some slack on things they can't avoid. Its crap like expecting to go to the front of the line just 'cause they spawned that ticks me off.
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If you go to the top of the page and re-read, the story, you will find that all the cooing was done long after the baby was strapped in. Fact is, there was no sense of urgency because it was all about her and the baby and the hell with what anyone else's needs are.

Just sayin...read the whole story.
 
lxskllr said:
The only store I'm aware of that does that is Aldi; it hold 25¢ hostage until you dock the cart. I think it's a great idea, and I'd love to see other stores take it up.
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It's a $1 coin here. However, for some reason I don't understand, the US is still in love with the $1 bill, and have not really adopted dollar coins. The US should just stop printing dollar bills already.

poofyhairguy said:
As I said in my post, I don't mind accommodating those who have kids as long as its reasonable. Three minutes is reasonable.

What I am more talking about is when random mom at Starbucks or whatever wants to cut in line or rush the barista because "the kids needs to get to school/soccer practice" as if that is open heart surgery.
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I agree, but that's just someone being an ass. If it wasn't for the kid there, she'd think of something else... like she's late for work.
 
Eug said:
It's a $1 coin here. However, for some reason I don't understand, the US is still in love with the $1 bill, and have not really adopted dollar coins. The US should just stop printing dollar bills already.
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I'm mostly indifferent about the $1 coin. I have a slight preference for coins, but not enough to campaign for them. I'd really like to see the penny done away with. It costs more than it's worth to mint, and nobody wants them. The only reason they're still around is history. It had a good run, and it's time to let it die.
 
Eug said:
Next spot over, or just wait.

ie. Don't be such a dangerous douche when parking a car. Wait until children are out of harm's way, and all doors are closed before pulling into an adjacent spot.

In fact, I do the same regardless if there are kids. If the doors are open, or if there is anyone (child or not) standing next to the car, then you're an ass for pulling in to the adjacent spot.
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That's an interesting perspective. I close my door and get out of the way to allow the other person access to the empty space rather than forcing them to wait or drive around looking for another spot. I find that things go better by being considerate of other people and understanding that their time is just as valuable as mine. I rarely come across those such as yourself who expect differently.

I have little patience for special needs people who gum up the works with their sense of entitlement. A fat person, or a parent, with any integrity would recognize that their decisions should not be made to inconvenience others.
 
Same thing at gas stations. Double pumps 8 across and the lines are still backed up. You finally get to the front with just one car ahead of you. Waiting, waiting, surely the driver has already finished and is just putting the card back in the wallet and tripping the odometer, adjusting the mirror and such. Waiting, waiting and voila...the guy finally steps outta the car to pump gas. Literally 8 full minutes waiting. Come to find out he was on the phone the whole time.

Don't tell me or anyone else that was acceptable. Somebody, anybody is gonna want some payback. Anyone says anything else is a liar, period.

Yep, no sense of urgency because it's all about meeeee.
 
The Sauce said:
So I was getting out of a store today and this lady was loading her baby into the car, blocking me in. About three minutes later and after having to listen to cooing, baby talk and other such irritating nonsense, I politely asked if I could get my car out. She turns to me with this look of disbelief on her face and proceeds to say "can't you see I have a baby here?" To which I responded "News flash -having a baby does not make you special. It just validates that tramp stamp on your ass. There have been billions of babies before yours...it doesn't take talent. Now how about closing the door?" Well, things deteriorated somewhat from there and I probably didn't get out any faster. Seriously though, people, aside from the odd teenage girl no one is all that impressed with you having a baby. I just don't see why this affords you the right to act like royalty.
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Okay, first, we are all agreed this never happened correct? Good. Now moving on...

The general idea isn't limited to babies. People, in general, care nothing about their affect on others when they are in a public space. Doesn't matter if it is because of a baby or any age child, a dog or just something they are doing. It is a symptom of how screwed up our society is today.

It hasn't always been this way. It has been getting progressively worse over the last 40 years or so. The reasons are obvious so I won't get into that here. Besides if you don't already now what they are it is unlikely you would agree or are even capable of understanding them.

You reap what you sow.

-KeithP
 
The Sauce said:
So I was getting out of a store today and this lady was loading her baby into the car, blocking me in. About three minutes later and after having to listen to cooing, baby talk and other such irritating nonsense, I politely asked if I could get my car out. She turns to me with this look of disbelief on her face and proceeds to say "can't you see I have a baby here?" To which I responded "News flash -having a baby does not make you special. It just validates that tramp stamp on your ass. There have been billions of babies before yours...it doesn't take talent. Now how about closing the door?" Well, things deteriorated somewhat from there and I probably didn't get out any faster. Seriously though, people, aside from the odd teenage girl no one is all that impressed with you having a baby. I just don't see why this affords you the right to act like royalty.
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Without video I am afraid we'll have to declare shens.
 
I find that a good rule of thumb is if you are the one holding things up, get out of the way if you can. Being slower or having to go through more steps to complete a task because of something you can't help is perfectly fine, but subjecting other people to it is a choice you make. The people who are impeding everyone else in these situations seem to think that it's the rest of the world's responsibility to change itself to suit their inadequacies, but actually the onus to adjust is on them. You are the only one who has any inkling of what you can do as quickly as everyone else and what you can't. Plan around that. You know you have a baby. You know it's going to be uncomfortable performing the "get the baby in the car" ritual while the guy parked next to you stares and looks at his watch. Why not step aside and let him get out of your life instead of creating that situation?

This applies to all aspects of life. Runners need to get out of the road when cars come, as do bicyclers. Slow drivers need to allow faster ones to pass, and so on.
 
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