So I have some buddies who have good money. I have some money but don't like to blow it on food all the the time. Is it out of line when we are going out to eat to say "I'll just take my own check tonight". It seems pretty cheap, but at the same time I don't want to pay for their expensive sushi food. Is it better to just not go at all?
Proper etiquette in situation going out to eat
- Thread starter TheNinja
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As an alternative to taking your own check, why not just eat your own food and then just pay for your share? But, if you don't like that, I don't see anything wrong with taking your own check.
order something cheap? it's not like you're splitting the bill equally...
another solution: make more money
another solution: make more money
As opposed to what? Splitting the bill evenly?
I have friends who make a lot more money than me and they always understand in these situations.
I have friends who make a lot more money than me and they always understand in these situations.
A group of us always split the check, we figure it all balances out. Occasionally someone else comes with us who isn't normally with the group, absolutely no one is offended or otherwise when they ask for their own check. We realize its fair to them as they don't get the benefit of the 'averaging' that is occuring.
As someone else said, if they have a problem then find new friends. Nothing wrong with what you are doing.
Kanalua
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Yeah, if they are friends, they will understand. I'm sure its more of a deal for you (The awkwardness, no the bill, obviously) than it is for them. Or you could just straight out tell your friends (at least the influential friend in the group) it might assuage your feelings.
Me and my friends don't ever just split the bill evenly. Everyone pays for what they order, with the occasional, "I got it this time" incidents.
I have this problem, occasionally. My idea of spending money on the weekend is a little different from some of my richer friends. They like fancy dinners - I like a chicken sandwich, coke and cigarettes. Used to be sort of tricky before, but they understand now. I just said, "I really don't like expensive dinners...you guys go ahead and I will go hang with Mustafa & Nash." They would offer to pay for me but I would decline.
After lots of weekends with Mustafa & Nash and my other low-maintenance friends, they decided we could do other stuff. It's all good now.
After lots of weekends with Mustafa & Nash and my other low-maintenance friends, they decided we could do other stuff. It's all good now.
In some ways splitting the bill evenly is just friendlier, but definitely not when the price is really high and not when someone can't afford it. You should probably say something first, like before you go to the restaurant or when you sit down, and just be like "I really wanted to come hang out with you guys tonight, but I hope you don't mind that I get a seperate check?" Like another poster said, if they're friends they'll understand.
I would not ask for a separate check. I just would put in the cost of my food, plus 20% and round it off to the nearest dollar.
TuxDave
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Some people are just stupid when it comes to splitting the bill. I went with 5 friends for dinner and 4 of us ordered maybe a $15 dinner and the 5th one ordered a $25 dinner, alcohol and 2 hookah (sp?) thingies for himself. When the bill came the 5th guy had the balls to take the check and divide it by 5 and say how much we each owe. :disgust:
ya, the bill just gets split up. they don't care much about money or who ordered what b/c they just like to have fun and don't care what they spend.
Ordering a soda while some have water is fine, and everyone ordering dishes in the same price range, (all within plus or minus 20% of each other) is expected when splitting the bill evenly. I hate when people break this rule, though it happens very rarely.
To the OP, why not just suggest cheaper places? When deciding where to go, just say that sushi place is too expensive.
SoulAssassin
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I should clarify, with most groups of friends we split based on what we ordered and don't go to super expensive places. There is a just a small group that has more money and they like to spend it. It's not worth that much money to me, but I feel like a tool when they ask why I'm not going and I say "I can't afford it".
AreaCode707
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I've never gone to eat with friends where we split the bill x number of ways. We always just specify to the waitress at the beginning of the meal that we want separate checks. Nothing rude about it - you pay for what you eat and you all enjoy each other's company.
my advice is that if you don't want to pay evenly, make sure you have cash on hand, including 1's and preferably all other bills..it gets stupid when its like $17 on this card, $14 on that one (even if you write it down)
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