Promise Ring?

[Fausto]

Originally posted by: chimmytime

Originally posted by: Fausto1

Originally posted by: chimmytime
This whole post is because my gf is heading off to UCLA in the winter, and just wanted to keep her in check. Maybe i can find one in a cracker jacks box.

Good luck with that. Unfortunately college + distance dooms many a relationship. I was pretty sure I would marry my high school sweetheart until we ended up 1400 miles apart at different schools.......things just kinda fell apart. On the upside, I met and married the most wonderful woman in the world shortly thereafter and I still chat with my old g/f once in a while. All is well.

Also: I wouldn't really advise the "keep in check" mindset. If it's meant to be, it will all work out. The perception that you're trying to keep a leash on her will really piss her off eventually, believe me.

Well its not 1400 miles, more like 70 miles. And the "keep in check" is really just a joke, i trust her. Maybe i can get her a necklace to remind her of me.

I'm just saying let things go however they go. 70 miles or not, being in different schools with a different set of friends/surroundings/etc can do some wacky stuff to a relationship. I'm not saying you're doomed....just to keep that in mind. Especially if you're still going to be in high school (am I reading your post correctly?).

 

[shiner]

It's just a way to shutup the GF and ensure she doesn't cut you off when she want's to get married and you don't. You give her a ring to promise to ask her to marry you some day. She's happy and the supply of good stuff keeps coming. It's all a big lie along the same line as "I promise to pull out if it hurts"

 

[pcmodem]

Dude,
With all due respect to romance, the "Promise Ring" is a load of BS. It's a recent invention of the jewelry, particularly the diamond, industry. It's been marketed quite a bit. Their scheme is to set it up as a pre-engagement ring.

Folks, get a clue. Engagement rings themselves were a 20th century jewelry, particularly the diamond, industry invention. If there's a single company pushing it more than anyone, it's DeBeers.


Marketing, advertising, hype hype hype.
-PCM

 

[Shelly21]

Originally posted by: shinerburke
It's just a way to shutup the GF and ensure she doesn't cut you off when she want's to get married and you don't. You give her a ring to promise to ask her to marry you some day. She's happy and the supply of good stuff keeps coming. It's all a big lie along the same line as "I promise to pull out if it hurts"

LOL!

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Originally posted by: pcmodem
Dude,
With all due respect to romance, the "Promise Ring" is a load of BS. It's a recent invention of the jewelry, particularly the diamond, industry. It's been marketed quite a bit. Their scheme is to set it up as a pre-engagement ring.

Folks, get a clue. Engagement rings themselves were a 20th century jewelry, particularly the diamond, industry invention. If there's a single company pushing it more than anyone, it's DeBeers.


Marketing, advertising, hype hype hype.
-PCM

There's something to be said for tradition.

nik

 

[BoberFett]

Originally posted by: shinerburke
"I promise to pull out if it hurts"

😀

 

[xospec1alk]

Originally posted by: ggavinmoss
For a second, I thought you were talking abou the band...

-geoff

same here...too emo for me

 

[DeafeningSilence]

Ever hear the phrase, "Engagements are made to be broken"? It's true. The time to decide to break off a relationship is before the wedding, not after. An engagement ring is a symbol of intent. So what's a promise ring? A symbol of intent of intent. Mmmm... that doesn't strike me as particularly meaningful.

By the way, I think you're probably too young to be making a committment like that. Of course, I can't say this with 100% certainty... only with the experience of being around thousands of people your age and older for the past 4 years.

 

[thomsbrain]

Originally posted by: ggavinmoss
For a second, I thought you were talking abou the band...

-geoff

 

[MichaelD]

AHHHHHHH! Now I get it...as a ray of light shines down into the dark corners of your little mind, chimmytime. <--that rhymed. 😎

Your GF is starting college soon. In the city next to yours, but she'll be living there. You are all 'noided about all the funnel parties she'll be going to. You have seen the "Spring Break - College Girls Run Wild!" videos. You think you saw your GF in there for a split second. 😉

You have every right to be worried. College is FOR parties and FOR screwing around. We've all been there...well, us "old folks" have, anyway.

How long have you been going out? I know this may sound harsh, but don't waste your time obsessing over your HS sweetheart. You're not as attached to her as you may think. One or two women down the road and you won't even think about her anymore.

What I'm saying is this:

1. You work hard at your little job, right? Keep your money in your pocket and don't waste it on a promise ring/chasitity belt necklace.

2. No matter WHAT you buy her/tell her, she is going to either behave or not...you have ZERO control over it.

3. If it's meant to be, she'll drive home every Friday night after school to be w/you (or ask you to drive up) If not, guess what? You have been replaced, bubba.

 

[smp]

Originally posted by: MichaelD
AHHHHHHH! Now I get it...as a ray of light shines down into the dark corners of your little mind, chimmytime. <--that rhymed. 😎 Your GF is starting college soon. In the city next to yours, but she'll be living there. You are all 'noided about all the funnel parties she'll be going to. You have seen the "Spring Break - College Girls Run Wild!" videos. You think you saw your GF in there for a split second. 😉 You have every right to be worried. College is FOR parties and FOR screwing around. We've all been there...well, us "old folks" have, anyway. How long have you been going out? I know this may sound harsh, but don't waste your time obsessing over your HS sweetheart. You're not as attached to her as you may think. One or two women down the road and you won't even think about her anymore. What I'm saying is this: 1. You work hard at your little job, right? Keep your money in your pocket and don't waste it on a promise ring/chasitity belt necklace. 2. No matter WHAT you buy her/tell her, she is going to either behave or not...you have ZERO control over it. 3. If it's meant to be, she'll drive home every Friday night after school to be w/you (or ask you to drive up) If not, guess what? You have been replaced, bubba.

Sad but true.
Hence, ring for sale!
I never gave it to her as a promise ring .. it was an "I'm really, really, really sorry and I spent all my money on you to show you just how sorry I am" .. but it was too late. Alas.

 

[chimmytime]

Sorry guys, i think i should have added a little bit more information. First she's transfering in as a second year juinor. I myself just graduated from college. We've been going out for almost 3 years. I don't plan to get married for a while. I know what college is like, so i want to make sure she'll enjoy herself as much as possible, because im afraid that she's been influenced by my life style, and i want her to experience her life too. Where that leaves us ... will have to wait.