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problem with friend.

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zixxer

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my roommate and I have a friend who spends ALL of his free time at our house. 1/2 the time he spends the night over here. He only goes to his house to shower, and sometimes sleep. He contributes paying 1/3 of a deep fryer, and buying my roommate a shower head.

He says he "isn't ready to move out" or "doesn't feel like moving his stuff"

what's a way to get him to move in?? he seriously does practically live here/....


anyone else have a situation like this?
 
Tell him, look man were friends but you already practically live here, start paying and move your stuff or just start paying.
 
my friend: hey
my friend: cant sleep
me: i cant sleep either
me: you should pay $200/month. get your own bathroom (unattached) and move your bed, desk, and dresser over
me: that's not much moving
me: and makes life 100x easier for you
me: think of it this way.. exactly how much time do you spend at your house?
my friend: i dunno, i'll talk to my dad, but also i was thinking, i don't want to do anything until things slow down
me: slow down?
my friend: between school and work, all i want to do when i'm not either of those places is lay down
me: hm
me: that doesn't add up/make sense to me
me: i understand
my friend: what?
me: i dunno
me: can't interpret thoughts into words about it i guess
my friend: ok
my friend: like for the past 2 weeks, i think i've been pretty busy
my friend: i've either worked in some way or gone to school or both every day
my friend: today was the first day i didn't do a damn thing
me: how does that relate to sleeping over here rather than there?
me: and how does laying down have to do with that?
my friend: it would take days to move
me: it depends on how "moved" you want to be
me: moving a bed, dresser, desk, computer, clothes would take a full day of work.
my friend: when i move, i will not go to my parents house for anything
me: moving everything you own would take two weekends
my friend: it just isn't something that's that high on my list at this point in time, i mean i think about it a lot, but it's not something i want to commit time to right now
my friend: plus, i'd have to argue and argue with my dad
me: then don't bother
me: look
my friend: and mother not to mention
me: when your ready to move out, then do it. It's not logical, and none of these arguments hold up in my opinion. you don't spend all your time here, but you spend a great great deal more time here than you do at your house. That's fine with me, but it doesn't make sense that you wouldn't move a bed, a dresser, and a desk (or ALL your stuff for that matter) when your over here most of your free time anyway. if your not ready, then your not ready. Saying you don't want to spend a weekend (or two, or three even) when you are rarely at home doesn't hold up, at all. To be honest, it seems like a bunch of bullshit excuses. It's not a matter of 'moving out'.. it appears like you've basically done that.
me: that reads worse than it sounds.
my friend: yep. it does
me: i personally don't care if you don't pay rent
me: don't pay anything
me: but saying you don't feel like spending two weekends moving out offends me.
my friend: i'm sorry, i don't mean it to
my friend: but i guess i am not ready. i don't want it to be an argument
me: you not ready sounds a thousand times better than not wanting to spend time moving stuff
my friend: ok
my friend: but i don't like that answer, i'm not ready
my friend: it just is so wishy washy
me: think about how it sounds that you don't feel like moving your stuff
my friend: so i dunno, i guess i was trying to think of excuses myself
my friend: to myself
me: well
my friend: don't be pissed of at me
my friend: please
me: no no im not
me: not at all
my friend: i dunno, i think the biggest mistake i thinking i've made is thinking i want to move out but not actually thinking ABOUT moving out
my friend: *in thinking
me: from my eyes
me: you've moved out.
 
ARGH!!!! Freshman year we had one of those. Worst thing was that he was a klepto :disgust: We moved four times in four semester (but not because of him) and he always found us. One day we said that he should start paying rent of find a new hobby. I vote for being blunt with him. Good luck :beer:😀
 
Originally posted by: se7enty7
my friend: hey
my friend: cant sleep
me: i cant sleep either
me: you should pay $200/month. get your own bathroom (unattached) and move your bed, desk, and dresser over
me: that's not much moving
me: and makes life 100x easier for you
me: think of it this way.. exactly how much time do you spend at your house?
my friend: i dunno, i'll talk to my dad, but also i was thinking, i don't want to do anything until things slow down
me: slow down?
my friend: between school and work, all i want to do when i'm not either of those places is lay down
me: hm
me: that doesn't add up/make sense to me
me: i understand
my friend: what?
me: i dunno
me: can't interpret thoughts into words about it i guess
my friend: ok
my friend: like for the past 2 weeks, i think i've been pretty busy
my friend: i've either worked in some way or gone to school or both every day
my friend: today was the first day i didn't do a damn thing
me: how does that relate to sleeping over here rather than there?
me: and how does laying down have to do with that?
my friend: it would take days to move
me: it depends on how "moved" you want to be
me: moving a bed, dresser, desk, computer, clothes would take a full day of work.
my friend: when i move, i will not go to my parents house for anything
me: moving everything you own would take two weekends
my friend: it just isn't something that's that high on my list at this point in time, i mean i think about it a lot, but it's not something i want to commit time to right now
my friend: plus, i'd have to argue and argue with my dad
me: then don't bother
me: look
my friend: and mother not to mention
me: when your ready to move out, then do it. It's not logical, and none of these arguments hold up in my opinion. you don't spend all your time here, but you spend a great great deal more time here than you do at your house. That's fine with me, but it doesn't make sense that you wouldn't move a bed, a dresser, and a desk (or ALL your stuff for that matter) when your over here most of your free time anyway. if your not ready, then your not ready. Saying you don't want to spend a weekend (or two, or three even) when you are rarely at home doesn't hold up, at all. To be honest, it seems like a bunch of bullshit excuses. It's not a matter of 'moving out'.. it appears like you've basically done that.
me: that reads worse than it sounds.
my friend: yep. it does
me: i personally don't care if you don't pay rent
me: don't pay anything
me: but saying you don't feel like spending two weekends moving out offends me.
my friend: i'm sorry, i don't mean it to
my friend: but i guess i am not ready. i don't want it to be an argument
me: you not ready sounds a thousand times better than not wanting to spend time moving stuff
my friend: ok
my friend: but i don't like that answer, i'm not ready
my friend: it just is so wishy washy
me: think about how it sounds that you don't feel like moving your stuff
my friend: so i dunno, i guess i was trying to think of excuses myself
my friend: to myself
me: well
my friend: don't be pissed of at me
my friend: please
me: no no im not
me: not at all
my friend: i dunno, i think the biggest mistake i thinking i've made is thinking i want to move out but not actually thinking ABOUT moving out
my friend: *in thinking
me: from my eyes
me: you've moved out.
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So you have the hots for this guy? 😛
 
Originally posted by: ThisIsMatt
Originally posted by: se7enty7
my friend: hey
my friend: cant sleep
me: i cant sleep either
me: you should pay $200/month. get your own bathroom (unattached) and move your bed, desk, and dresser over
me: that's not much moving
me: and makes life 100x easier for you
me: think of it this way.. exactly how much time do you spend at your house?
my friend: i dunno, i'll talk to my dad, but also i was thinking, i don't want to do anything until things slow down
me: slow down?
my friend: between school and work, all i want to do when i'm not either of those places is lay down
me: hm
me: that doesn't add up/make sense to me
me: i understand
my friend: what?
me: i dunno
me: can't interpret thoughts into words about it i guess
my friend: ok
my friend: like for the past 2 weeks, i think i've been pretty busy
my friend: i've either worked in some way or gone to school or both every day
my friend: today was the first day i didn't do a damn thing
me: how does that relate to sleeping over here rather than there?
me: and how does laying down have to do with that?
my friend: it would take days to move
me: it depends on how "moved" you want to be
me: moving a bed, dresser, desk, computer, clothes would take a full day of work.
my friend: when i move, i will not go to my parents house for anything
me: moving everything you own would take two weekends
my friend: it just isn't something that's that high on my list at this point in time, i mean i think about it a lot, but it's not something i want to commit time to right now
my friend: plus, i'd have to argue and argue with my dad
me: then don't bother
me: look
my friend: and mother not to mention
me: when your ready to move out, then do it. It's not logical, and none of these arguments hold up in my opinion. you don't spend all your time here, but you spend a great great deal more time here than you do at your house. That's fine with me, but it doesn't make sense that you wouldn't move a bed, a dresser, and a desk (or ALL your stuff for that matter) when your over here most of your free time anyway. if your not ready, then your not ready. Saying you don't want to spend a weekend (or two, or three even) when you are rarely at home doesn't hold up, at all. To be honest, it seems like a bunch of bullshit excuses. It's not a matter of 'moving out'.. it appears like you've basically done that.
me: that reads worse than it sounds.
my friend: yep. it does
me: i personally don't care if you don't pay rent
me: don't pay anything
me: but saying you don't feel like spending two weekends moving out offends me.
my friend: i'm sorry, i don't mean it to
my friend: but i guess i am not ready. i don't want it to be an argument
me: you not ready sounds a thousand times better than not wanting to spend time moving stuff
my friend: ok
my friend: but i don't like that answer, i'm not ready
my friend: it just is so wishy washy
me: think about how it sounds that you don't feel like moving your stuff
my friend: so i dunno, i guess i was trying to think of excuses myself
my friend: to myself
me: well
my friend: don't be pissed of at me
my friend: please
me: no no im not
me: not at all
my friend: i dunno, i think the biggest mistake i thinking i've made is thinking i want to move out but not actually thinking ABOUT moving out
my friend: *in thinking
me: from my eyes
me: you've moved out.
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So you have the hots for this guy? 😛
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wtf no.. your sick
 
Sounds like he's not ready to sever the cord between him and home. Don't push him if thats the case I'm assuming he is 18-19ish, if he is like 22+ or something thats different (Imo)
 
It seems like his parents are going to give him a hard time if he moves out. Are you guys in college btw? If not then I can understand the parents reluctance not to let him move out. Also don't forget to offer helping him move out if you want him that bad *a wink wink, nudge nudge* 😉
 
Originally posted by: Maleficus
Sounds like he's not ready to sever the cord between him and home. Don't push him if thats the case I'm assuming he is 18-19ish, if he is like 22+ or something thats different (Imo)
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I figured that was the case.

It's frustrating.. my roommate and I are offering him $200/month for a room/bathroom, and he won't do it.. yet he's here nearly all the time. bleh.
 
Originally posted by: kranky
Where does he eat?
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Exactly. I think that so long as he's not in somebody's bedroom (essentially letting them get privacy) and he's not eating your food, your argument sounds valid.

However, if he eats your food and crap, then you just totally pussed out on your conversation with him. Lay it down on him and tell him he either moves in and pays rent or stops eating all your damn food.

-silver
 
Originally posted by: se7enty7
my friend: hey
my friend: cant sleep
me: i cant sleep either
me: you should pay $200/month. get your own bathroom (unattached) and move your bed, desk, and dresser over
me: that's not much moving
me: and makes life 100x easier for you
me: think of it this way.. exactly how much time do you spend at your house?
my friend: i dunno, i'll talk to my dad, but also i was thinking, i don't want to do anything until things slow down
me: slow down?
my friend: between school and work, all i want to do when i'm not either of those places is lay down
me: hm
me: that doesn't add up/make sense to me
me: i understand
my friend: what?
me: i dunno
me: can't interpret thoughts into words about it i guess
my friend: ok
my friend: like for the past 2 weeks, i think i've been pretty busy
my friend: i've either worked in some way or gone to school or both every day
my friend: today was the first day i didn't do a damn thing
me: how does that relate to sleeping over here rather than there?
me: and how does laying down have to do with that?
my friend: it would take days to move
me: it depends on how "moved" you want to be
me: moving a bed, dresser, desk, computer, clothes would take a full day of work.
my friend: when i move, i will not go to my parents house for anything
me: moving everything you own would take two weekends
my friend: it just isn't something that's that high on my list at this point in time, i mean i think about it a lot, but it's not something i want to commit time to right now
my friend: plus, i'd have to argue and argue with my dad
me: then don't bother
me: look
my friend: and mother not to mention
me: when your ready to move out, then do it. It's not logical, and none of these arguments hold up in my opinion. you don't spend all your time here, but you spend a great great deal more time here than you do at your house. That's fine with me, but it doesn't make sense that you wouldn't move a bed, a dresser, and a desk (or ALL your stuff for that matter) when your over here most of your free time anyway. if your not ready, then your not ready. Saying you don't want to spend a weekend (or two, or three even) when you are rarely at home doesn't hold up, at all. To be honest, it seems like a bunch of bullshit excuses. It's not a matter of 'moving out'.. it appears like you've basically done that.
me: that reads worse than it sounds.
my friend: yep. it does
me: i personally don't care if you don't pay rent
me: don't pay anything
me: but saying you don't feel like spending two weekends moving out offends me.
my friend: i'm sorry, i don't mean it to
my friend: but i guess i am not ready. i don't want it to be an argument
me: you not ready sounds a thousand times better than not wanting to spend time moving stuff
my friend: ok
my friend: but i don't like that answer, i'm not ready
my friend: it just is so wishy washy
me: think about how it sounds that you don't feel like moving your stuff
my friend: so i dunno, i guess i was trying to think of excuses myself
my friend: to myself
me: well
my friend: don't be pissed of at me
my friend: please
me: no no im not
me: not at all
my friend: i dunno, i think the biggest mistake i thinking i've made is thinking i want to move out but not actually thinking ABOUT moving out
my friend: *in thinking
me: from my eyes
me: you've moved out.
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Sounds like a cheezy part out of a chick flick...

--GiLtY
 
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