What do you tell family who want to know what to do for Christmas? I don't make a lot of money, but I'm very good with what I have, so if there's anything I really do want (on the level of Christmas gift, anyway), I just get it.
Honestly with our kid we got so many side gifts from other people we never really had to buy too much for our kid. We could just stow away some of the gifts and just give them to them later lol.
We also have a general guideline of wanting to stay within a certain dollar amount for any gifts. I also fucking hate trying to figure out "What does your aunt want this year?" and will probably just lean more and more towards gift cards.
In general we've worked with most of our relatives to come to simple agreements of not getting eachother gifts (and only getting them for the nieces/nephews) because both sides generally hate playing the game of trying to figure out what eachother wants. It's kinda similar with the wife - we don't get eachother gifts for our anniversary - instead we usually take a trip somewhere. We also don't get eachother crap for mothers/fathers day - we just generally spoil the other one for that day (breakfast in bed, etc..).
For our kids though - I accept that I'll have to buy some expensive gifts at some point. I've been eying the new Playstation and am considering getting into gaming competitions with my 4 year old
Gifts is also truly a capitalist load-o-shit that everyone fell for under the guise of "It's the correct/nice/appropriate thing to do".
Birthday? Get them a gift!
Christmas? Get them a gift!
Mothers day? Get them a gift!
Easter? Get them a gift!
Valentines day? Get them a gift!
Anniversary? Get them a gift!
Getting married? Make sure it's a fat diamond based on your income!