I'm being dead serious, the OP may not think so. You can focus on personality and conversation more when you don't have the sex drive bothering you.
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Well, it went okay. I think she was as cautious as I was. I have to think of something fun to do the next time we go out so I can loosen up and not feel like we interviewing each other. The trouble is, we share mutual friends, but we don't know much about each other.
the other danger is, we probably are sourcing our mutual friends to see how the other liked it, instead of just asking each other.
the other danger is, we probably are sourcing our mutual friends to see how the other liked it, instead of just asking each other.
I know its hard but its only going to work if you loosen up. If you act like you don't give a ****** the ladies eat it up with two spoons.
Line up another date ASAP obviously.
Dates I always use:
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summer:
dinner
walk through a local park
icecream
-possible drinks or go back to talk if it all goes great
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winter:
dinner
ice skating
hot chocolate
-possible drinks or go back to talk or watch movies etc
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I find these to be very stereotypical dates but effective. The scheduled events can be aborted at anytime. I dont tell them what I'm planning, I just say "I'll take you to dinner and we'll go from there". (aka, if i hate em, im out). Dinner is a great icebreaker. Then I like to find some sort of light activity where we can talk. Then relax again somewhere to talk again, mostly to keep changing events that way you'll maximize exposure time in a variety of venues. If it goes well, you can try to go somewhere more personal like to a bar for a few or back to watch some videos or something.
I always wonder if any of them figure out that I do the same things everytime. Makes me very comfortable dating doing the same thing all the time. I change it up AFTER the first date. I hate first dates, they are like interviews, but the more you do, the better you get.
good luck
Dates I always use:
----------------------
summer:
dinner
walk through a local park
icecream
-possible drinks or go back to talk if it all goes great
----------------------
winter:
dinner
ice skating
hot chocolate
-possible drinks or go back to talk or watch movies etc
---------------------
I find these to be very stereotypical dates but effective. The scheduled events can be aborted at anytime. I dont tell them what I'm planning, I just say "I'll take you to dinner and we'll go from there". (aka, if i hate em, im out). Dinner is a great icebreaker. Then I like to find some sort of light activity where we can talk. Then relax again somewhere to talk again, mostly to keep changing events that way you'll maximize exposure time in a variety of venues. If it goes well, you can try to go somewhere more personal like to a bar for a few or back to watch some videos or something.
I always wonder if any of them figure out that I do the same things everytime. Makes me very comfortable dating doing the same thing all the time. I change it up AFTER the first date. I hate first dates, they are like interviews, but the more you do, the better you get.
good luck
well looks like it went well, hope you get another date.
things i do before a date:
draw up a list of things i want to know about her and memorize it so when conversation lags and heads toward that awkward silent moment, i just ask her about something.
wash my car and clean up inside
things i do before a date:
draw up a list of things i want to know about her and memorize it so when conversation lags and heads toward that awkward silent moment, i just ask her about something.
wash my car and clean up inside
color coordinate. shoes matter. cuff links are a nice touch, if the scene allows it.
have a billion things in mind to talk about. be inspired, passionate about at least a few of them. movies, politics, work, hell even the weather -- anything is better than meekly gripping your mug with both hands, beads of sweat on your brow forming from the exertion raking your mind for anything of substance; all the while her thinking 'never again'.
oh, and be able to know when it's not worth the effort on your part if you guys simply don't connect, and definitely learn be able to catch the 'totally uninterested' vibe off her, if it happens. don't drag it out if it's going nowhere. courteous, polite, brief hug, escort home if she needs it, call it a night, and move on.
Yeah, and if she's digging you but you're not really into her, just let her down easy.
"I'll tell ya what... this one's on you... I've got the next one."
Then you're not out the $$$ for dinner and she probably won't call you back.
Free dinner + not having to deal with her = teh win.
"I'll tell ya what... this one's on you... I've got the next one."
Then you're not out the $$$ for dinner and she probably won't call you back.
Free dinner + not having to deal with her = teh win.
lessons in romance from the School of dorkdom.
Relax, enjoy it have fun. Don't try to impress they smell that sh1t a mile away.
if you get stuck Girls like to talk in these areas alot:
Shopping/clothes
Family/home
Career/advancement
Health/fitness
travel/adventure
P.S. Props to you, cofee is the best first "date" out there. Dinner dates are for suckers.
Relax, enjoy it have fun. Don't try to impress they smell that sh1t a mile away.
if you get stuck Girls like to talk in these areas alot:
Shopping/clothes
Family/home
Career/advancement
Health/fitness
travel/adventure
P.S. Props to you, cofee is the best first "date" out there. Dinner dates are for suckers.
I know the date already happened but one should never bring up politics and religion until after a few dates.
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