*POLL* The Breakup Rule: Fact or Fiction?

[TuffGirl]

The Breakup Rule: The time it takes to get over an ex approximately equals half the duration you went out with him/her.


IMO the breakup rule doesn't work for all people. It all depends on the person's history. If it becomes a pattern, then it works. But sometimes, people just don't form any pattern. What do you think?

 

[Electric Amish]

Never broken up with anyone.

amish

 

[brnbngls]

Went out with her for nearly 5 years, just now kind of getting over. Been about half the time. I've never really considered that rule before. Pretty interesting. Incidentally, I'm married now and muy happy!

 

[SpecialEd]

I don't think it works in most cases. Although I do believe it can be applied more to HS relationships. Thats when you're more vulernalble and more easily hurt by a break up.
I think later in life, you become battle hardened by the repeat experience of breakups and takes less time to move on from the average relationship. At least thats the way I was by the time I graduated college.




Some girls you just never get over...

 

[KokomoGST]

Hehe, battle-hardened...

The six-month rule for long-term relationships seems to be more reliable.

 

[bigrash]

i went out with my ex for 1yr. it took me about 6 months to get over her, even though she was a biatch. so guess the rule is kinda true

 

[NonTechGuy]

i think that rule is BS, if you mope around for like 6 months then you seriously need to see a psychologist

that much depression over a gf/bf means that you relied on that person to complete part of your life and you lack confidence in yourself.

 

[Sir Fredrick]

My first ex: took me about as long as we had been going out to get over her. She crushed my heart and then crushed it again, and then she put gasoline on it and burned it to a crisp.

Second ex: Only went out for a couple weeks, there was no getting over.

Last ex: Went out for 2 years. I dumped her, and was over her pretty much as soon as I broke up with her. We're still friends and everything though, so that probably helps.

 

[Rent]

<< Some girls you just never get over... >>



Amen to that.

I don't think that rule is usually true, it really depends on how much you felt for the other.

 

[yllus]

<< The six-month rule for long-term relationships seems to be more reliable. >>

I can't speak for year-or-longer relationships, but the 6-mo. rule has worked beautifully for me. Half the duration of some (read: most) of my relationships is waaaaaaay under 6 months, but it takes about that long to get over some.

sully <-- says, "The best way to get over someone, is to get under someone!"

Edit: I refuse to reply to this thread since I'll kill it if I do. It's already on the brink.

 

[TuffGirl]

<< i think that rule is BS, if you mope around for like 6 months then you seriously need to see a psychologist

that much depression over a gf/bf means that you relied on that person to complete part of your life and you lack confidence in yourself. >>


Hey getting over an ex doesn't necessarily mean being depressed and cooped up in your room and in front of your computer all the time. I meant having those residual feelings or fondness you get after a breakup. (at least I do) I was also referring to the period where if you date someone else, they're still considered "rebound". That's all a normal part of getting over someone but I wouldn't call it moping around either.



<< sully <-- says, "The best way to get over someone, is to get under someone!" >>


LOL sullykins
(thought you killed another thread hmm? )

 

[y2kc]

I haven't seen her in 15 years, my heart still aches. Call me crazy but I will die loving that woman.

 

[GL]

Wow I never thought about it like that. I dated my last ex for 3 years and it's now been a year since we broke up. I'm over her but deep in some god-forsaken part of my heart I probably still have feelings for her...less now than 6 months ago, but I suppose it'll take another 6 months. Or, I could meet a girl when I go clubbing tomorrow night and forget about her

 

[erikiksaz]

Half of the duration doesn't seem right, i'd have to say that it might increase in a linear fashion! Ahh, what the hell am i kidding, this is Calculus, i can't find the rate of change of my feelings. Haha, anyone want to find the antiderivative of <3^n, where n is the number of months?