POLL: Should people get married before they have sex?

[Lola]

This is what I have found, just my .02...
Most that say sex is not an important part of marriage/ a relationship are usually the ones that are not planning on experiencing it until they are married, and they are trying to justify it to themselves.

As many have said on here, sex does matter. Not even in the sense of purely an animalistic act, but more in the sense that it bonds two people and makes their relationship special.
I am not saying you should have sex with every person you meet, but if you find someone you truly love, even if you are not married, it will have meaning

Also, in some very rare cases, people's "chemistry" bodies just dont mix well. not to go into to much detail, but there have been cases where women have been very allergic to their husbands fluids. That would be a bad way to start off a marriage i would say.

 

[NikPreviousAcct]

Have you ever met someone who's had sex and still doesn't find it to be a major requirement in their significant other, Lola?

 

[jagec]

Originally posted by: Xionide
Its not my moral compass that is pointing. It is more that I am not a pawn of religion.

-Xionide

way to crap on a thread. Hey, religious people eat and drink too, are you going to stop doing that?

I have mixed feelings about the whole "waiting until marriage" thing. On the ONE hand, sex is a pretty big part of the marriage, and should at very least be discussed so that both partners know what they're getting into. On the other hand, I know lots of happily married people who waited.

Who knows? I don't have enough experience to say for sure, one way or the other.

 

[Nebor]

I don't care what other people do, so I voted it doesn't matter.

 

[Lola]

honestly, not that i can think of.
Now, i am not saying that is THE most important thing, but it is up there.

I am sure as people get older, their priorities change, their lives change, but even as older people have talked about, sex, making love, it seems that it is the one special thing that makes their relationships with each other different than any other relationships they may have.

I know this is a female point of view and many males may think sex is just a natural release and may not put alot of stock into the act as it just is purely for a physical feeling, but talking to many women and some men of all ages, it seems that this is the one topic that is totally varied in opinions

 

[Gurck]

Originally posted by: FFMCobalt

Originally posted by: MustISO
If you don't have sex before marriage you don't know if you're compatible in that area. Maybe for some people it's not important but for me it's 50% of the relationship.

Hopefully you find someone to marry who dwells so much on sex -and hopefully you're what they're looking for. Some people want someone much more shallow because all they care about is sex. Other people want an actual relationship instead of a fvck buddy.

😕 A lecture on being shallow from someone who goes through pic threads to call people ugly?

 

[mugs]

Originally posted by: DrPizza

Originally posted by: Fausto
No. Here's why.

That was hilarious. (I hope it's a joke site though!)

It's from the Onion, maybe you've heard of it? 🙂

 

[xSauronx]

i was raised christian...and a year ago would have said they should be married

now...i dont care, and just hope that alot of stupid useless people sleep with alot of diseased stupid useless people and that they eventually die out

 

[BurnItDwn]

No, what's wrong with a little fun?

However, I think that if they are not married, multiple methods of protection should be used (the pill + rubbers), and they should really not have kids out of wedlock (especially lowlifes who rape the system for welfare money and don't even bother looking for a job).

 

[Martin]

moral compass? hahahahahahahah

No, I don't have anything like that.

 

[weezergirl]

pplz sex drives change...do u think just cuz u "test drove" the car before that it won't break down or have problems later on? i dont really think it matters if you have it before or after marriage. to each his own...

it's important but it's def. not the most important thing in a relationship. i know marriages that have worked either way..and i know marriages that haven't....

in the end there's no single right answer but hopefully you're not building your relationship on this one aspect.

 

[BladeWalker]

I think we are all different enough. Some people should wait until marriage before having sex. Others don't have to. One person's experience does not necessarily apply to another person's.

If you choose to abstain you are better off with someone who also chose to abstain because you are more likely to be morally compatible. If you want to have some sexual experiences prior to marriage, go right ahead. Just be honest about it. That means don't hesitate to give the exact number of partners you've been with if you are asked about it.

The biggest problem I see is with honesty (or lack thereof). Majority of lies pertain to relationships and sex. Misrepresenting oneself early in relationship = messy breakup in future. Unfortunately there is a sizable amount of people who think they can sleep around then when it comes to marriage decides to conceal their past and marry a nice wholesome partner. I have no moral objection about someone with many partners but lies should be a no no. Everyone is entitled to their preferences when choosing a partner and sexual history happens to be important in making a decision about commitment.

BTW, if you claim you are Christian, Jewish, or Islamic, please abstain from having sex prior to marriage. If you don't take your religion seriously why should others take them seriously. It exposes your lack of respect, lack of discipline, and weak moral character.