Poll: Ok... what would you do if you had this girl that...

[BowDown]

Ok... there's a girl that I was aqentences (sp.) with in highschool that I found very attractive . Well anyway she ends up going out with this kid who was one of her friends that I don't even think likes girls. Well anyway, now she's talking to me on AOL like everynight trying to get help from me to figure out her boyfriend... I mean I don't mind helping her out, and I'm trying to boost up her selfesteme (sp.) but it's kind of obvious that the kid is either not interested, or gay!

So would you:

A) Keep talking to her, and let he continue to blame herself for his lack of interest in her.

---or---

B) Make a move, and hope that she follows you into a better relationship that you know you can give her.


Just vote here...

 

[hubbs]

C-Screw the idea women suck.

 

[UG]

Make a movie if sex is certain.

Oops, I mis-read. Nevermind. Do what you want.

 

[geno]

Haha, I've tried B so many times. Never worked for me, but who knows.

I dunno - tell her what you think straight out. "He's a chump and he's not even interested. Go out for a night with me and I'll show you what you kind of treatment you should be getting" and take her out for dinner or something

 

[IBhacknU]

C - keep looking

 

[sweetrobin]

Before you tell her that her boyfriend is gay... you better have some facts to back it up ... you are better off just telling her you really don't know whats up with the guy because if you had a wonderful girlfriend like her you would be all over her like white on rice ... or something to that effect .. you are better off building up her self esteem than letting it get her down . Just let her know that her options are open. A girl never appreciates it when she finds out everyone knows something she doesnt .. its better to lead her towards something else and not to tell her .. shes just gonna feel like a fool for not seeing what others saw so easily.

 

[Motorheader]

What about answer C)

Run Away!!!

Run like the Wind!!!


JMHO

 

[Pretender]

Secret choice D) neither. Your goal here is to comfort her, let her know it's not her fault, tell her you're there to support her and help her. If you only want sex, go to her house one night when she's especially upset and act nice, otherwise, just become good friends with her and let it grow into something more.

 

[BowDown]

Man, some of the responces are...

Looking at it from my point of view, I have layed back, and layed back, and played the role of the nice guy so many times and it doesn't seem to get you anywhere. Trying to find a different approch.

Anyone have any good pickup lines? That one wasn't too bad until the rice got into it .

 

[Sluggo]

You can tell her you are tired of being her emotional tampon. If she has trouble in her relationship, she needs to be talking to her b/f instead crying on your shoulder.

Tell her she doesnt deserve to be treated like that, that you would never treat a woman like that, and you dont think you can listen to it anymore.

Be tight and blunt, she will either hate you for telling her the truth, or she will begin to see you in a new light for being strong enough to speak up for yourself. If you cant type it all out, just shoot her an e-mail telling her that. Tell her you refuse to listen to any more crap about whats his name, but if she wishes to contact you on-line and talk other things, you would love to listen to her, and expand your relationship with her. Stick to your guns on it, if she veers off course, and starts talking about him, just say good-night.

 

[Motorheader]

Sluggo - pretty much right on target - buuttt...

Easier said than done.

This one is like taking a T/F test by flipping a coin and checking your answers by ..... flipping a coin.

RUN!!!

 

[Toolman]

Just be her friend, but keep steering the conversation to her and you and her. Ignore the dufus and have fun with her, make her happy, just not with him.

 

[BuckMaster]

B

 

[Sluggo]

motorheader Yeah its tough, but the more you learn to do stuff like that the easier it gets. My Dad always told me , you never get what you want unless you ask for it. You cannot expect other people to read your mind, or assume/guess your intentions. My Dad also hammered into my brain, do not let people walk all over you, as soon as they find out that you can be manipulated, most people will take advantage of the fact that you can. Speak up for yourself, and dont back down, if you dont get what you asked for, you still have your self respect intact.

 

[Motorheader]

Sluggo I do agree but if she is so "confused" to not be able to talk to guy she currently likes than what does that spell for you - whether you are honest or not.

The answer is ..... not given here

RUN!!!

 

[Joecool223]

c.) do the no no cha cha with her

 

[BowDown]

Definalty some words of wisdom here. Now I will just have to make a hybrid that will work...

 

[JenniZ]

You shouldnt go around starting rumors about people who you THINK are gay. If the guy is gay and wants people to know he will tell them. No need to insinuate anything like that. I know several people, myself included who have been hurt by nasty rumors in my highschool days.

Someone started this thing that Im a lesbian and dont like guys, it caused several guys I found out who liked me not to ask me out. Im not a lesbian, Im bi! At least get rumors straight...err Bi. wait now Im confused

I also had a male friend who was a sweet fellow, who surley isnt gay in anyway not even bi, but people said he was gay. Never had a date that I know of in highschool.

Things like that are hurtfull

 

[UG]

<... its better to lead her towards something else and not to tell her...>

You're not fat, you're beautifully over-endowed.

Right. Makes perfect sense.

<...tell her you are tired of being her emotional tampon...>

Right on!

Women want to hear the bullsh1t, but they'll only respect you when you don't actually need another mother.

Live up to your balls, that's what they're for.

 

[Motorheader]

Monty Python says &quot;Run Away!!!&quot;

 

[Cable God]

I say B, at least try to give her what she needs

 

[Buttzilla]

honesty is always the best policy! what you need to do is say
&quot;Hey woman! if he doesn't notice you and if he doesn't charrish you like you're the only woman he's ever going to be with ever again then he doesn't deserve you...cause you deserve the best...and that is ME...muahahaha&quot;
no seriously thats how it goes. if he doesn't see her like that then he doesn't deserve her. if you see her like that then you need to make a move

 

[BowDown]

Nice name . Buttzilla!

LOL