Poll: MARRIED? Who/how did you plan your wedding?

[Kelemvor]

Howdy all,

Just wondering how many married people got help planning their wedding. So, take the poll and let me know.

EDIT: Added the Family Help option...

 

[Kelemvor]

Bumping because I forgot I was typing this and it was off the page when I was done.


EDIT:
Just commenting on most of the responses. One misconception about wedding planners is that they are onyl for the rich and famous. If you've seen the movie with Jennifer Lopez the "Wedding Planner" that's like way hollywood overkill wedding planner.

A normal WP is just someone to offer advice and take care of negotiations and contracts and stuff because most people don't know what to look for and ask for. When we were planning our wedding we wanted spcific things and of course the 100 year old woman at the reception hall said they couldn't do most of it. However my wife is an event planner so she just went over her head and said NO wasn't acceptible and we worked directly with the manager and got everything we wanted. Most people would have just said OK and changed their plans. That's what a wedding planner is for. THat and discounts most get from being a return client and things like that mean the couple doesn't usually end up paying much more than they would to do it themselves.

 

[Murpheeee]

people actually use wedding planners?

we arranged ourselves with a little help from in-laws

 

[Hoober]

We did it all ourselves. It's really too much money to pay for a wedding planner unless you make enough money and don't really have the time to take care of the details yourself.

 

[human2k]

If you want to get real elaborate you can put the AP outside your firewall and use something like VPN or Radius authentication to get in but for the average Joe, if you use WEP (changing your keys frequently and using a difficult passphrase), MAC filtering, turn your SSID off, turn off DHCP and change the default subnet, then use Access Lists if your AP supports it, your pretty safe. I wouldn't put my credit card numbers on my PC or anything but it is not something a casual wardriver would bother with, much less be able to get into in a reasonable amount of time. If you don't hammer your network non-stop then they can pretty much forget it. I'd think you'd notice a car camped out at your house for a day or two. Clearly, 802.11 security measures are not enterprise ready, well not affordably anyway, but for the home user, given the proper attention, there should be very little concern about the data on your rigs.

 

[Murpheeee]

Originally posted by: human2k
If you want to get real elaborate you can put the AP outside your firewall and use something like VPN or Radius authentication to get in but for the average Joe, if you use WEP (changing your keys frequently and using a difficult passphrase), MAC filtering, turn your SSID off, turn off DHCP and change the default subnet, then use Access Lists if your AP supports it, your pretty safe. I wouldn't put my credit card numbers on my PC or anything but it is not something a casual wardriver would bother with, much less be able to get into in a reasonable amount of time. If you don't hammer your network non-stop then they can pretty much forget it. I'd think you'd notice a car camped out at your house for a day or two. Clearly, 802.11 security measures are not enterprise ready, well not affordably anyway, but for the home user, given the proper attention, there should be very little concern about the data on your rigs.

sounds like you had one Kickass wedding dude

 

[bunker]

Originally posted by: Murpheeee

Originally posted by: human2k
If you want to get real elaborate you can put the AP outside your firewall and use something like VPN or Radius authentication to get in but for the average Joe, if you use WEP (changing your keys frequently and using a difficult passphrase), MAC filtering, turn your SSID off, turn off DHCP and change the default subnet, then use Access Lists if your AP supports it, your pretty safe. I wouldn't put my credit card numbers on my PC or anything but it is not something a casual wardriver would bother with, much less be able to get into in a reasonable amount of time. If you don't hammer your network non-stop then they can pretty much forget it. I'd think you'd notice a car camped out at your house for a day or two. Clearly, 802.11 security measures are not enterprise ready, well not affordably anyway, but for the home user, given the proper attention, there should be very little concern about the data on your rigs.

sounds like you had one Kickass wedding dude

ROFL!

Back on topic, we planned the whole thing ourselves. Never even considered a planner. My thoughts on this are that most women have their ideal wedding planned out by the time they're 12 years old and a planner would only mess that up!

 

[dullard]

sounds like you had one Kickass wedding dude

I good laugh out of that reply.

I got married almost 4 years ago. We wanted our wedding to be how we wanted it. You cannot have that with a wedding planner. There are maybe 50 decisions to make, and you often have a full year to make them. So it isn't very difficult at all. Most of them are like this:

What colors do you like?
Real flowers or fake?
What tux do you look good in? (Or what dress do you look good in?)
Have the reception at an expensive place or not?
What food do you like to eat?

I mean it takes roughly one good day to make all the decisions, then a few phone calls and you are done. Why pay someone hundreds or thousands of dollars to do that? Can a wedding planner even answer those questions (how will the planner know what colors you like, and what food you like at the reception, etc - and if the planner asks you, then aren't you doing all the work then)?

 

[dquan97]

We're planning the whole thing ourselves...5weeks, 1day till the Big Day.

 

[Nohr]

Wife and me had the Justice of the Peace come out to our apartment and married us right at home. Cost $50 on top of the marriage license. Very cheap and a heck of a lot less stressful, we just didn't want to bother with the whole white wedding thing.

Going on 4 years now.

 

[dullard]

Originally posted by: Nohr
Wife and me had the Justice of the Peace come out to our apartment and married us right at home. Cost $50 on top of the marriage license. Very cheap and a heck of a lot less stressful, we just didn't want to bother with the whole white wedding thing.

Going on 4 years now.

Sad that you missed out on the huge earnings you get from a reception - it can easilly pay for the wedding expenses and give you a lot left over cash to get your marriage off to a good start.

 

[Electric Amish]

My wife and her mother planned it.

amish

 

[GermyBoy]

Originally posted by: human2k
If you want to get real elaborate you can put the AP outside your firewall and use something like VPN or Radius authentication to get in but for the average Joe, if you use WEP (changing your keys frequently and using a difficult passphrase), MAC filtering, turn your SSID off, turn off DHCP and change the default subnet, then use Access Lists if your AP supports it, your pretty safe. I wouldn't put my credit card numbers on my PC or anything but it is not something a casual wardriver would bother with, much less be able to get into in a reasonable amount of time. If you don't hammer your network non-stop then they can pretty much forget it. I'd think you'd notice a car camped out at your house for a day or two. Clearly, 802.11 security measures are not enterprise ready, well not affordably anyway, but for the home user, given the proper attention, there should be very little concern about the data on your rigs.

wtf...where'd that come from?

 

[blackdogdeek]

Originally posted by: bunker


Back on topic, we planned the whole thing ourselves. Never even considered a planner. My thoughts on this are that most women have their ideal wedding planned out by the time they're 12 years old and a planner would only mess that up!

same here. she had "the big list" and we just went down it making sure we hit everything. she pretty much had ideas for what she wanted already and i just voiced my opinions when asked.

 

[Hoober]

Originally posted by: dullard

Originally posted by: Nohr
Wife and me had the Justice of the Peace come out to our apartment and married us right at home. Cost $50 on top of the marriage license. Very cheap and a heck of a lot less stressful, we just didn't want to bother with the whole white wedding thing.

Going on 4 years now.

Sad that you missed out on the huge earnings you get from a reception - it can easilly pay for the wedding expenses and give you a lot left over cash to get your marriage off to a good start.

Hell, ours didn't.

 

[TheNinja]

Originally posted by: Electric Amish
My wife and her mother planned it.

amish

Same here......I just showed up when I was supposed to

 

[TwinkleToes77]

Wheres the option of planned with the help of our mothers?

 

[blackdogdeek]

when i was up doing the vows i kept saying to myself "don't say rachel, don't say rachel"

 

[Nohr]

Originally posted by: dullard

Originally posted by: Nohr
Wife and me had the Justice of the Peace come out to our apartment and married us right at home. Cost $50 on top of the marriage license. Very cheap and a heck of a lot less stressful, we just didn't want to bother with the whole white wedding thing.

Going on 4 years now.

Sad that you missed out on the huge earnings you get from a reception - it can easilly pay for the wedding expenses and give you a lot left over cash to get your marriage off to a good start.

Possibly so, but it would have been way too much trouble for us. And it was a bit of a secret at the time, hehe.

 

[kranky]

My wife and her mother planned it in an afternoon.

Got married outside at her father's farm, 20 guests, dinner afterwards in a nearby restaurant.

Perhaps a big reception would have brought in a lot of money, but someone was going to have to pay for the big reception. We didn't want anyone to be burdened with that expense.

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: Electric Amish
My wife and her mother planned it.

amish

only choice i had was what kind of beer we were getting. oh i did have some choice on what tux i wanted. i had a choice out of two heh

 

[FoBoT]

where is the "mother-in-law and her sister (aunt) did the whole thing and wife didn't like it very much" option?

 

[Sluggo]

Doesnt take much planning to hop a plane to Vegas.

Frankly, I wouldnt do it any other way. After 14 years we are still together. All of our friends who blew huge wads of cash on overly extravagant weddings are all divorced.

My wife disclosed to me after one of her friends divorced her husband, that her parents had spent $35,000 on her wedding, it lasted all of 14 months, great investment.

 

[DevilsAdvocate]

Wedding Planner

or

Vegas

 

[Noirish]

Originally posted by: GermyBoy

Originally posted by: human2k
If you want to get real elaborate you can put the AP outside your firewall and use something like VPN or Radius authentication to get in but for the average Joe, if you use WEP (changing your keys frequently and using a difficult passphrase), MAC filtering, turn your SSID off, turn off DHCP and change the default subnet, then use Access Lists if your AP supports it, your pretty safe. I wouldn't put my credit card numbers on my PC or anything but it is not something a casual wardriver would bother with, much less be able to get into in a reasonable amount of time. If you don't hammer your network non-stop then they can pretty much forget it. I'd think you'd notice a car camped out at your house for a day or two. Clearly, 802.11 security measures are not enterprise ready, well not affordably anyway, but for the home user, given the proper attention, there should be very little concern about the data on your rigs.

wtf...where'd that come from?

ROFLOL.
Talking about OFF TOPIC.