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Originally posted by: jemcam
I'm not judging anyone and pointing fingers as to why you guys did wrong
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In mine and Ausm's case, it was not the men who cheated, it was the women, let's get that straight.

I never said there weren't people like that, I just stated the simple facts that the majority of people are statistically speaking, whether you or anyone else wants to admit it.
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- In your cases, I knew it was the women based on what you said outright - I didn't mean for it to sound differently. "You guys" was thought of as your relationships went wrong.

- I don't see a majority... what am I missing ?
 
Go to google and look for statistics on two things:

1. Divorce rate in the US
2. The percentage of men and women in the US who have ever cheated on their spouse. Notice I didnt' say anything about sex.

 
Married... first and last time unless she gets bored, but I don't plan to let that happen 😉

-spike
 
Originally posted by: jemcam
Go to google and look for statistics on two things:

1. Divorce rate in the US
2. The percentage of men and women in the US who have ever cheated on their spouse. Notice I didnt' say anything about sex.
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you have to be very careful about throwing the term "majority" around... because of things like this. Compare the many miscellaneous reasons vs. those who have had successful and long marriages and I don't think majority applies. Besides, I see 40-50% as the divorce rate... still not the majority.

Semantics aside, I still don't see how what I stated about it depending on the person you're marrying should warrant your initial response. Still 😕.
 
Originally posted by: rh71
Originally posted by: jemcam
Go to google and look for statistics on two things:

1. Divorce rate in the US
2. The percentage of men and women in the US who have ever cheated on their spouse. Notice I didnt' say anything about sex.
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you have to be very careful about throwing the term "majority" around... because of things like this. Compare the many miscellaneous reasons vs. those who have had successful and long marriages and I don't think majority applies. Besides, I see 40-50% as the divorce rate... still not the majority.

Semantics aside, I still don't see how what I stated about it depending on the person you're marrying should warrant your initial response. Still 😕.
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Sorry if I came across the wrong way.

My point is, I don't think many people knowingly marry someone that they know has less than desired moral values. When you marry someone, you think you really understand that person and that they are "the one". Given that, why have something like 90% of married men admitted in surveys to have cheated, and something like 60% of married women? Sorry, I'm too lazy to look it up, but that's pretty damn close. Society doesn't want to believe these statistics, but based on my experience and observations, they are true. Also, the divorce rate is, and has been, greater than 50% in the US for many decades. That's where I'm getting my information.
 
Married, never divorced. I waited until I was 30 to marry, to a girl I'd dated for 3 years. We've now been married for 3 years. She's still the most beautiful thing I've ever seen, and I have no desire to "get back out there". The key for me was waiting. I changed so much between 18 and 28 that I would've ruined or run from any serious relationship (the longest was 2 years, but most lasted about 6 months). I got all the dating I could stand out of my system, and by the time I got married I was ready to settle down.

Plus, we had a daughter our first year of marriage, which greatly strengthened my devotion to my wife and desire to make the marriage work. I grew up with a dad, a mom, a step-mom, and 2 step-dads, and I very much don't want that for my child.
 
Originally posted by: jemcam
Originally posted by: rh71
Originally posted by: jemcam
Go to google and look for statistics on two things:

1. Divorce rate in the US
2. The percentage of men and women in the US who have ever cheated on their spouse. Notice I didnt' say anything about sex.
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you have to be very careful about throwing the term "majority" around... because of things like this. Compare the many miscellaneous reasons vs. those who have had successful and long marriages and I don't think majority applies. Besides, I see 40-50% as the divorce rate... still not the majority.

Semantics aside, I still don't see how what I stated about it depending on the person you're marrying should warrant your initial response. Still 😕.
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Sorry if I came across the wrong way.

My point is, I don't think many people knowingly marry someone that they know has less than desired moral values. When you marry someone, you think you really understand that person and that they are "the one". Given that, why have something like 90% of married men admitted in surveys to have cheated, and something like 60% of married women? Sorry, I'm too lazy to look it up, but that's pretty damn close. Society doesn't want to believe these statistics, but based on my experience and observations, they are true. Also, the divorce rate is, and has been, greater than 50% in the US for many decades. That's where I'm getting my information.
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If you look up the numbers on those who are married under 25, you will find that they fit your argument. On the same token, they were very young and made a life-changing decision based on "love" or whatever else they thought they knew. It's no wonder the numbers are up there around 50%.

Marriages are happening at a much younger age... and the divorce rate has gone up... coincidence ?

Does the divorce rate show unfaithfulness or immaturity ? You can't tell.
 
Does the divorce rate show unfaithfulness or immaturity ?
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You have a valid point, and I think the answer is true for both. OTOH, many, many people get married before age 25. I have no idea of the statistics on average age of first time marriage, but my GUESS is that the majority of married people do so before age 25.
 
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