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Poll: Is virginity a virtue?

Kadarin

Kadarin

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This question is inspired in my mind by some responses in today's other virginity poll, that apparently some people are proud of being virgins. Given that sex and sexuality is very much a part of human nature, glorifying its lack strikes me as equivalent to making a virtue out of, say, not breathing. Personally, it makes more sense to celebrate a healthy and satisfying sexual lifestyle than it does to promote abstinence. Why deny an entire dimension of your humanity?

If you are a virgin by choice, what basis do you have for your decision?
 
Denying any particular pleasure has long been considered a good way of building your character (patience, self-control, etc.). As far as sex is concerned, most of those who abstain do so in order to make it more fulfilling and meaningful when they eventually do engage in sex.
 
Originally posted by: DeafeningSilence
Denying any particular pleasure has long been considered a good way of building your character (patience, self-control, etc.). As far as sex is concerned, most of those who abstain do so in order to make it more fulfilling and meaningful when they eventually do engage in sex.
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when you're right, you're right.
 
"Virginity is a lovely thing. It is the greatest gift a man and woman can give one another. The husband and wife, who consimate their marriage on their wedding night, will grow in love for each other." ~Mother Theresa

Don't know if that makes it a virtue, but still...
 
Hell no. It's a burden.


About that "saving yourself to make it more fulfilling" stuff:

Your first time will most likely suck no matter how long you wait. It's not as easy as the internet makes it look.
 
Originally posted by: yowolabi
Originally posted by: DeafeningSilence
Denying any particular pleasure has long been considered a good way of building your character (patience, self-control, etc.). As far as sex is concerned, most of those who abstain do so in order to make it more fulfilling and meaningful when they eventually do engage in sex.
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when you're right, you're right.
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Of course, that begs the question of asking just what factors make sex fulfilling and meaningful, and whether temporary abstention (or virginity) works towards that end.
 
Originally posted by: silverpig
Hell no. It's a burden.


About that "saving yourself to make it more fulfilling" stuff:

Your first time will most likely suck no matter how long you wait. It's not as easy as the internet makes it look.
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I would imagine that's part of the fun of it, just fumbling around and figuring things out... if sex can't be funny, what can?

*shrug*

<--- hasn't thought about sex for a while
 
At the risk of sounding corny, I say it is. Maslow wrote about desacralization, or removing the sense of awe or sacredness from things. I think modern society has "desacralized" everything to the point that nothing is sacred anymore. Sex is supposed to be the one thing a husband and wife can share in and express their love for one another. It is now used as a meaningless form of physical pleasure. A glorified method of masturbation.

I don't mean to sound preachy, as I too am guilty of what I just said. But as for my opinion on the virtue of virginity, I think it is a virtue if you can wait.

On the other hand, if you're a virgin not by choice, but rather because you can't get any, that's another story. 🙂
 
I guess it would depend on how old you are. If you're a forty year old virgin then no, I don't think it's much of a virtue. If you're late teens, it would depend on your lifestyle and your choices.
 
I think that way back years ago it was a virtue to be saved, but not anymore. These days people are very open about their sexuality, and being "pure" doesn't really mean as much as it used to, if at all.
 
Personally... I plan on abstaining till marriage. It's something that my wife and I will share together. Not to mention STDs and the like... Humans are not dogs; they're not supposed to go fvck every female they see.
 
I don't know if virginity is or isn't a virtue, but knowing what's important to you and what your values are, and sticking to those values, is.

My girlfriend is a virgin. It makes for many frustrating nights for me. But I respect the hell out of her for sticking to her decision, and her courage to keep her virginity is one of the many reasons I look up to her.
 
Virginity until marriage IS a virtue.

I would go off on this point, but I dont care about you guys enough to put the energy into it.
 
No, it isn't a virtue, however I do see it as a meaningful act between two people.

I haven't had sex not because I'm waiting for marrage, but because I'm choosing not to do this sort of thing with just anyone. I prefer to be with someone that I truly care about whether it be a strong friendship or relationship doesn't really matter. I'm still a virgin because I haven't found a girl that I connect with in that way. I'm looking for a connection, not just physical satisfaction.

Saving myself isn't building character, and even if it did, any character that I built up would be wadded up in a tissue and thrown away at the end of the day.

Edit...spelling.
 
Originally posted by: ThaGrandCow
I think that way back years ago it was a virtue to be saved, but not anymore. These days people are very open about their sexuality, and being "pure" doesn't really mean as much as it used to, if at all.
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A person's virtue isn't measured by what others think of them. The number of people who choose abstinence has absolutely nothing to do with whether or not it's a virtue.

And about being "pure", you're exactly wrong. If less people are pure, wouldn't that make those who are pure stand out even more?
 
Originally posted by: Placer14
I'm still a virgin because I haven't found a girl that I connect with in that way. I'm looking for a connection, not just physical satisfaction.


3 more months to go!! ...can't wait until march..
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Is that when you are having sex? 😉

 
If you are a virgin by choice, what basis do you have for your decision?
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1. Go to google, type: vaginal herpes, genital warts, or whatever STD you can think of. Look through some of those pictures. That will give you a good idea of why some people prefer abstinence.

2. The emotional attachments that come along with sex. Some people can have casual sex, some people can't.

3. The religious basis.

4. Some people get too preoccupied with sex, they don't focus on other issues. Like careers, etc.

5. Don't want to risk getting girl pregnant, don't like abortion. (condoms don't work all the time)

6. Sex has a deeper meaning.
 
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