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Poll: Is it RIGHT to get married at 19?

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Electric Amish

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Oct 11, 1999
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My wife and I were both 19 when we got married. We've been married for almost 9 years (August 2001).

Like has been mentioned before, it depends on the people. Most of the people that I knew at 19 wouldn't have been able to handle it. My wife and I were extremely mature for our age, IMO. At some point, if you want to get married, you have to take that first step. You'll NEVER know everything about your partner until you've lived with them for awhile; married or not.

My sister, on the other hand, got married at 18 or 19... I don't remember. She's on her third marriage and child as we speak. Then I never considered her the sharpest knife in the drawer. :)


amish
 
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Kosugi

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Jan 9, 2001
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Sure


You can get married at 19, then again at 25, and then finally at 32.


I think you see what I am saying...
 
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ArkAoss

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Aug 31, 2000
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It's tough, it breaks down to the maturity of the people involved. My mother got married at 16, because all her sisters had, her sisters are some still together, but a few have been thru 2 marriages or so since. My mom divorced her first husband like by the time she was 20, and married my dad at 21-22. They are still together.

The more mature people are when they get married, the more likely they are to stay together.
Like say my gf, due to hardships in her life, she's as mature in some aspects as a 30 yr old, and knows pretty much what she wants. I from my upbringing, am also very sure of what I want in life, and am considered mature. And so maybe we (being of nearly the same age) might have a chance together.
hey WW
come on post
 
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Emulex

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you should.

1. live with the other person for a good year b4 marriage.
2. Not get married if she's the first piece of arse you've had. (or 2nd or 3rd, maybe #4 or #5)
3. Both have jobs, and a place of your own.
4. Never marry because of a child. uber-bad mistake.


dont marry to get out of the house or situation. it prolly wont work.
 
Bignate603

Bignate603

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My oldest sister Mia got married at 20, I liked the guy alot but my other sister Dorothy couldn't stand him. She didn't like Mia and couldn't understand how she got a good guy to marry, you have to understand that Dorothy is a bitter person. Because he was actually a good guy, she hated him. She sat in a room alone during the whole wedding, thank goodness. Dorothy is known for making a scene when she doesn't like things. My oldest sister is happy, I think he's a great guy and get along with him, Dorothy still hates him. Listen, don't rain on their parade. Trust your sister's jdgement if you care about her. She's got to make this choice herself and if you try to make it for her she'll hate you for it.
 
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Electric Amish

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Emulex- My wife is the first piece I ever had. I'm the 2nd or 3rd that she has ever had. That's just a cop-out to try and find the perfect person. Believe me, when you find him/her, you'll know.


amish
 
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eakers

Lifer
Aug 14, 2000
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if i didnt have school
and he didnt have school
we would be married. we are 19.

he is my everything.
*kat. <-- is 19 and knows who she WILL marry
 
Muadib

Muadib

Lifer
May 30, 2000
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Scrapster

I think warcleric is right, you must get over the age thing. It really does seem to be your only hangup about the whole thing. Heck, I think you and your family are lucky that she feels that she can share the whole thing with you. My sister got married at 18, and my family didn't find out until almost a month after the fact. Think we were upset???
 
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Thorn

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Oct 9, 1999
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Just generally speaking EA... it may not have been stupid in your case. ;) j/k
 
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Aquaman

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Not a good idea now a days :( But you can't stop people who want to get married. Just be a good brother and support your sister emotionally. If things go well then your should be happy for your sister but if times get really tough just be there for her :D

Cheers,
Aquaman
 
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AlphaIVT

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lets hear what Confuscious has to say :)

Confuscious says: Girl marry at 19, become early mutha
 
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PretendHer

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As you, and many others in this forum have heard me say, &quot;it's not for US to decide what is &quot;right&quot; or &quot;wrong.&quot; But, my opinion on this subject is this:

Statistics would say that it, most likely, wouldn't last and I agree. I was married at 19 myself and, like most at ANY age, especially at 19, thought that I KNEW that that marriage would last against all odds.

No, I didn't HAVE to get married and was so glad of that but, immaturtiy proved to be a bigger obstacle than either of us could overcome. It lasted about 3 years and, now that I have a daughter - from that marriage - who is now approaching 20, I'm so glad that she doesn't get caught up in relationships the way that I did.

Overall, I think that the relationships that we emulate as adults propel us through relationships as adults. I wasn't fortunate to been witness to healthy relationships while growing up but, am glad that, somehow, I taught her differently. Whether it be by her seeing &quot;mom&quot; doing the &quot;wrong&quot; thing or by my teaching her a better way.

'nuff said.
 
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Aihyah

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Apr 21, 2000
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If your totally convinced you couldn't possibly do better.. i guesso. I mean if charlize theron dropped in my lap.. i'd marry her without a thought:)

 
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BDawg

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Oct 31, 2000
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People are so sure of themselves and their feelings at such a young age. When I was 19, I was sure of many things, including who I would want to be with the rest of my life.

Know what? I was wrong. I thought I was a wise adult at 19. I wasn't. Not many people are. When you get older, you'll look back and know how young you were.

I guess what I'm saying is people should be happy and not worry about such things. Most people don't know who they want to marry at 19. They're just kids doing whatever they currenly think is best.
 
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impulse

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May 31, 2000
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I'm gonna be 19 March 4th, and as it stands now I don't think if I got married within the next few years that it would last very long. Atleast for me I don't think I am gonna think about marriage until I'm in my 30's
 
geno

geno

Lifer
Dec 26, 1999
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I don't think you can classify this sort of thing as right or wrong. It's like asking yourself &quot;Would it be right for me to make a ham and cheese sandwich?&quot; when you're hungry :). You can only classify this as smart or stupid, because there would have to be other things involved in the equation. If the husband were abusive for example and was forced the wife into marriage, THEN it'd be wrong.
 
OutHouse

OutHouse

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Jun 5, 2000
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Mrcraphead said <<nope, at the age 19, you possibly couldn't know what real love is. >>

I totally disagree. I got married when I was 19 and my wife was 20. We will be married for 13 years this June, we didnt have our first child until we were 25 and we now have 3.

To say a 19 yearold couldnt possibly know what love is, is just not true.
 
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