Poll: Is it RIGHT to get married at 19?

[Scrapster]

I know it's legal, but is it the right thing to do?

 

[loup garou]

...depends...

 

[Mayhem1869]

Scrapster, not to be a dick or anything, but let it go man. It's her life and she has the right to screw it up however she sees fit. I got married when I was 19 and my wife 18. It has worked out so far. I know it's hard to see people that you love make mistakes, but it's a necessary part of life.

 

[shiner]

Depends on the two people involved.

 

[Soybomb]

RIGHT? Well thats entirely up to them. Smart? Probably not, but once agai nits your choice and to interfere is wrong.

 

[bobtist]

What would be wrong with it? A few centuries ago, girls were married (or married off) from the ages of 10-13, and it was perfectly normal. Today's society looks down on that now, but it was a "right" practice then. I don't know what kind of moral (assuming that's the RIGHTness you speak of) argument there would be against it... My mom married at 19. But even since then, maybe times have changed, since there's no way I can picture myself right now a year into marraige. Still, I have no problems with it.

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Right? I dunno. Smart? I don't think so. This May will be 2 years since my 16 year old cousin got married. :Q I couldn't believe they let her marry that young. (I believe her husband was then 18.) One upside is that even though they married VERY young, they can take care of themselves financially. He is still in college and is working and they are in the process of building their own home and I believe they've already bought most of their furnature. Oh, and they are expecting their first child. I definily wouldn't advise anyone to get married that young, but at least the marriage isn't falling apart.

EDIT: I think that at 19 is still young, but they would be a little more adult--hopefully--by then. It all depends on the couple themselves.

 

[erub]

As my dad would say:

better to be married at 19, then to be sleeping with the guy at 19 and not married

 

[nippyjun]

Nope, It's the wrong thing. There is no reason to rush into marraige. I firmly feel that you should be together for at least a couple of years before getting married. This includes a living together for at least a year first as well. How can you know if you are compatible without a trial of living together first? Many religious folks think it's a sin to live together.. well, then why are more then half of those same religious zealouts divorced???

 

[Usul]

Legal ok
Right up to how you feel
Would I do it NEVER.

my .02

 

[FrontlineWarrior]

depends. although in american society 19 might be considered young because of all the education and shiz people "need" to get before they are ready. but i dunno... it depends

 

[Linh]

at 19 i was still in the local video arcades playin street fighter II. speaking only for myself, marriage at 19 would have been out of the question

 

[DefRef]

Most people don't have a clue about what to do with their lives at 25, much less are able to make good decisions ar 19.

Thumbs down.

 

[Lily27]

Me being 18 its REALLY hard for me to imagine myself being married in a year, let alone to someone thats 30.

 

[Mule]

Most people REALLY don't know what they want out of life until they have experienced living life outside the scope of their parents realm, I would say by the time one is nearing the mid twenties, they have pretty much figured out what they want, many people rush into it fast and the consequences really show at a 50% divorce rate.

But then again sometimes you just KNOW it's the right thing, but more often you THINK you know it's the right thing to do. I think it's just better to wait then to be sorry later.

Just my $0.01 (i'm kinda cheap!)

 

[Mday]

well, there is nothing "wrong" with marriage at 19, unless you consider marriage "wrong" period.

so, i chose no.

anyway, 19 is pretty young, but it happens.

 

[SVTPower]

I say people should wait a little longer to get to make SURE they know each other, there is WAY to much divorce in the wold nowadays anyhow, and for what anyway, a piece of paper and a ring that says what you already feel for the person anyhow? WHY!

 

[FrontlineWarrior]

yeah man what exactly is the rush? did you ask?

 

[GT1999]

I'm almost 20 and I can't imagine myself getting married, let alone having an extremely serious relationship. I just don't have time.

Okay, maybe if I spend a little less time on these forums

 

[DannyLove]

is this post in response to that other guys sister getting married at 19?

 

[DesignDawg]

When my parents got married, my dad was 17, my mom was 19. Happily married (VERY happily) to this day (30 yrs. tomorrow). So, like everyone's saying, it totally depends. On average, probably not the best idea, because most 19 y/o people are not grown up enough to know what they really want. Some are. Some are that grown-up at a much earlier age. Some people (like my dad) are forced to grow up at a VERY early age, due to family tragedy or other problems (like alcoholism in the family). Do these people miss out on their youthful years? Arguably, yes. I say arguably because no one says you can't have the days of your youth back at a later time. My parents only recently (after both kids are done with college, out for good, married, with kids of their own, etc..) started doing all the things people dream about doing when they are young. Only thing is, they HAVE MONEY to do it all now! Works out good for them. It all depends on the individual. Also, though, I'm gonna have to say again, is this is about your sis marrying that guy again, get over it. You're gonna give yourself an ulcer.

Ricky
DesignDawg

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

<< How can you know if you are compatible without a trial of living together first? >>

Not making any judgement here, but the point isn't really to know if you are 100% compatible in &quot;living together&quot;. Chances are very great that you will both have quirks that have the potential to get on one another's nerves, but the key is to know - really know - the person well enough and trust you will be able to work things out in a sensible way. That does take a couple of years and learning, but not necessarily living together.

Also committment plays a large part in the success, if you go into a living arrangement as a &quot;trial&quot; then that will always loom large as an option. If you try living with someone determined to make it work then chances are much better it will, IMO.

As to the correctnes of married at 19? It could work, but perhaps not as smoothly as married later on. Nineteen has the potential to be mature, but you'd know better since you are talking about a specific person and not in generalities.

 

[Azraele]

Personally, I think it's a little young to be getting married.

Think of Romeo and Juliet though, married at 14, yikes!

 

[gittyup]

Sometimes maturity is not indicative of age!

 

[warcleric]

Scrapster: is that all you have against this marriage, is her age and the age difference? Let it go....divorce is not the end of the world, and if it doesnt work out then that is all that will happen.<unless she is marrying OJ>

Lily: hey 30 is NOT old!!