Poll: Have You Had Sex Before?

[vi edit]

Premarital sex can also help you find out early on if the "foot" is too big for the "shoe".
Had that happen in my last relationship...not a comfortable situation for either of us :frown:

 

[DoOLiE11]

sex rules

 

[Mister T]

I must agree with Boberfett here...

Viper, if you really beleive what you are saying then you are naive.

 

[Emulex]

dude i know a chick like that , she says everyone is too big and it hurts, so we got her a slim vibe..

What if you made your match in a relationship, waited, and found it it hurt her? Would you have it chopped down?

Damn that would suck.

 

[Viper GTS]

Viper, if you really beleive what you are saying then you are naive.

Why is it so naive to be able to recognize that:

1) Sex really isn't all that important.
2) I can live just fine without sex.

Viper GTS

 

[Soybomb]

I think what they're trying to show is that they think that while you may not think sex is important now and you can live without it, once you're married and feel entitled to enjoy what you've put off for so long that you'll be disappointed if the quality is consistently poor. Many would find that frustrating I still think that ultimatley its importance is judged byt he people involved and there are no concrete rules for everyone.

 

[Don Vito Corleone]

Why is it so naive to be able to recognize that:

1) Sex really isn't all that important.

Because, frankly, it is VERY important. Indeed, from an evolutionary standpoint, it is the MOST important thing.

2) I can live just fine without sex.

Because you are flat-out wrong.

This is like saying you can live just fine on nothing but Exceed energy drink and vitamins; perhaps you could, at least biologically, but what kind of life would it be to deny yourself the pleasure of eating and drinking? You could also live "just fine" without entertainment, sunlight, human company, education, or physical exercise, at least for a while. You would just be less comfortable and satisfied than people who did not have those things.

What this keeps coming back to is that you have no idea whether you are "just fine," because you have nothing to compare your situation to. I would have said the same thing when I was a virgin, but now I know that "just fine" without sex is not really fine at all.

 

[Scrapster]

Ok guys. Viper was accepting donations to help out Urbantechie get his sound card. Now I say we return the favor. I'm starting a charity entitled, "The Viper Get Some Fund." Once our goal is reached, we will setup Viper with one of the highest and classiest escorts on the west coast. Please send all donations to my paypal account. PM me for more details.

 

[Soybomb]

<< highest and classiest escorts >>


isn't that like a contradiction......

 

[Scrapster]

Well, you figure she has gotta be high to sleep with him.

 

[Viper GTS]

2) I can live just fine without sex.

Because you are flat-out wrong.

That has got to be the most arrogant, condescending, self-righteous statement I have ever seen here. Sex is no more necessary to my existence than Dr. Pepper. Do I like Dr. Pepper? Hell yes. Do I need it? Nope.

Does this mean I plan on being celibate the rest of my life? Of course not. I plan on having a very healthy sex life... With one person - My wife.

I pity the people who feel they can't live without sex, there are a lot higher priority things out there than getting off. More fun? Probably not. But priorities aren't always fun.

Viper GTS

 

[iamwiz82]

Viper, the point everyone is trying to make is that sex cannot make a relationship, but it sure as heck can break one.

Let's say you find this wonderful person, you are deeply in love with her, and you get married and on your wedding night, she pulls out the dildo, the leather whip, and a candle?

I am not into bondage, and if i found out the girl i married is a S&amp;M freak, i'd be pretty scared...

 

[Engine]

Personally, I side with Viper on this one. As far as the health of the relationship goes, yeah there are risks. You could be sexually incompatible, etc. However, I don't believe that those risks are any greater than the emotional risks involved in premarital sex.

Also, I believe that the vast majority of problems that people have who wait until marriage can be overcome with lots of love, patience, and most importantly an earnest desire from both people to please the other.

 

[virtuamike]

Hmmm, this is one of the first questions my gf asked me

My vote is yes

And no matter what they tell you, size does matter!

 

[bcterps]

<< Let's say you find this wonderful person, you are deeply in love with her, and you get married and on your wedding night, she pulls out the dildo, the leather whip, and a candle?

I am not into bondage, and if i found out the girl i married is a S&amp;M freak, i'd be pretty scared... >>



Uhm if you were finding that out on your wedding night, then you obviously dont know anything about your mate. Not having sex before getting married doesnt mean you dont talk about it. It is an important part of the relationship, and just like any other, you definitely should discuss it before continuing on a serious relationship.

I wholeheartedly agree with Viper. Sex is an important part of a relationship, I think we can all agree about that, but it is by no means the MOST important part of any relationship. Just because someone chooses to wait to have sex before getting married doesnt mean that they are making some huge mistake.

--Ben

 

[zman6911]

Nope, I've never had it. Then again I only turned 17 three days ago . I know a couple of friends who do it with their significant others on a regular basis. It looks as if it has weakened one of my friend's relationships. After he started getting sex (Having Sex, Doing it, Waxin dat ass) he started looking for another girlfriend. She has no clue that things are going downhill, but thats the way life is. Things are going good until somebody upstairs desides to kick you in the face and wake you up. My only experiece with this is that my first (and so far, my last) girlfriend was very apprehensive about kissing. This was after 6 months. That was one of the reasons I dumped her. I wasn't looking to have sex with her, I was just looking for a kiss or some affection. Now I need a junior prom date .

 

[iamwiz82]

well, i will continue to love girlfriend emotionally and physically. I pity everyone who believes premarital sex is evil. No one said you had to sleep around.

Masturbation just isnt as fun for me =].

 

[Muadib]

My relationship is just fine now without sex, sex will only make it better
What if it doesn't? What if it absolutely sucks for one or both of you? What happens then?

 

[Zorba]

Viper, if you want to believe that sex isn't that important for your whole life, never have sex, period. As soon as you have sex your outlook on it will change very quickly. I don't think that sex is anything to build a relationship on, but bad sex gets to you. The girl I lost my virginity to and I didn't make a good match in bed, did I love her? HELL YEAH!, but it still got to me. I know if she hadn't have broken up with me, the sex life probably would've torn us apart after another year or so (unless one of us changed what we wanted). But sex also made us much closer together, and I think it made it much better.

Please remember though, this is from a guy who hasn't had sex in 20 months, and has had plenty of good relationships without sex. I would never enter a relationship for, or base one upon, sex. But it is still very important.

 

[Mister T]

<Yawn>

Tee_Edwards, I could not have said it better myself.

Viper,
I pity the people who feel they can't live without sex, there are a lot higher priority things out there than getting off. More fun? Probably not. But priorities aren't always fun.

I pity you man. You seem like a nice guy, but you seriously have these warped ideas sometimes. I am not saying that you should go ahead and have sex tomorrow or anything. But you really need open your eyes here.

<<Having fun is not my purpose in life>>

Maybe you should start making it one of your priorities... You will be less miserable and happier.

With regards to Having Sex:
<<I don't? You might be surprised. I've had my breath taken away by a kiss on the cheek, by the tracing of a small nose along my cheek. I've spent hours face to face with the woman I'm in love with, without the slightest hint of lust. I've felt the glow of desire having done nothing more than kissed someone. I've experienced what it's like to fit someone perfectly, to melt into one another out of love - Passion for the sake of love, not sex. So until you know what I have and haven't done, kindly STFU...

Fact remains you still have not had sex. End of story. You thus have no frame of reference - get it?

<<
If you've never experienced any other, there's no such thing as bad sex. I'm doing just fine without sex now, and although I look forward to adding it to my relationship, I'm quite happy with the relationship the way it is.>>

HAHAHA... This absolutely proves my earlier assertion that you are NAIVE. No such thing as bad sex -- HA!!!!!!!
Do you really beleive that? WOW. I am sure that 1/2 the people that have had sex will testify that bad sex happens.

 

[Scrapster]

I agree with Mr. T completely. Bad sex happens and if you fail to believe that then you're living in fantasy. People should stop appraising their fantasy and start appraising reality.

 

[Viper GTS]

Bad sex happens when people are self-centered, &amp; put too much emphasis on the act rather than the reason for it. If sex is solely for the purpose of getting off, then there's a distinction between good sex &amp; bad sex. But if sex is about being as close as possible to the person you're in love with, &amp; the ultimate expression of your love for them... Then bad sex doesn't happen. Bad sex is a result of bad relationships, not the other way around.

Maybe you should start making it one of your priorities... You will be less miserable and happier.

There are much more important things in life than my own physical pleasure. I don't derive happiness from physical pleasure, the things that make me happy are my relationships. Yes, getting off is fun. But it's not worth my time if that's all I'm getting out of it.

Viper GTS

 

[Static911]

wow, interesting discussion bout sex...i agree wit VIPER GTS

Static911