POLL: Has anyone ever taken back a SO that cheated on them?

[91TTZ]

Originally posted by: jjsole

Nothing wrong with giving someone a second chance if you want, and if it happens again, it doesn't mean it needs to be regrettable to give it that chance.

It just means that you're a sucker.

 

[91TTZ]

Originally posted by: jjones
I cheated on all my girlfriends so it never really bothered me too much if they cheated.

Oh, and the once a cheater always a cheater mentality is ignorant and shows a lack of understanding human nature.

LOL- this is coming from a guy who just admitted that he's cheated on all his girlfriends. You have no self control and it confirms the theory.

 

[91TTZ]

Originally posted by: jjones

It's simple really. Human behavior is too complex to be so black and white as "once a cheater always a cheater". There is no room within that concept for someone to cheat once or several times, and then be completely faithful to another person for the rest of their lives. If you don't think what I am saying is true then you are just too young and inexperienced to know any better, because there are certainly many people who fit that description. Are you trying to tell me that a person who has cheated at age 20 is the same person who has experienced 10 more years of life (hopefully continuing to mature in the process) and is ready to make a commitment at age 30?

You are merely trying to argue your way out of personal responsibility and what you have done.

We all know that there is scum on this Earth, but you can't expect the scum to admit that they are scum. Most likely, those scummy people will try to justify their scummy behavior. You are doing just that.

 

[EatSpam]

Originally posted by: pclstyle

Originally posted by: Patt

Originally posted by: JonnyBlaze
yeah, i was a cheater too tho.

i dont anymore so once a cheater bs isnt true.

Yeah, keep telling yourself that ... :|

i've cheated before, but not out of a lack of self-control or faithfulness. Sometimes you just fall out of love, and there's a transition period where you just don't care anymore whether or not you hurt your SO. In my mind, the relationship was over awhile ago. You can call me a b!tch for not breaking it off as those thoughts arose, but that's life.

Then you should have dumped them before you cheated. Bad for your reputation. If you're "out of love" with a person, then you should do the mature thing and tell them immediately.

 

[upsciLLion]

I did once. Never doing that again. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

 

[Saint Nick]

Originally posted by: GhettoPeanut

Originally posted by: jndietz

Originally posted by: Yossarian

Originally posted by: jndietz
a cheated on me two months ago. i ripped her a new one and she made a complete turn around. i was impressed.

yeah she's learned to hide it better

i've thought about that actually. i hate thinking about that.

🙁

you should ditch her, its not worth it.

i guess the threat is real. i try not to let it bother me too much. i just stay mindful and i've told her before that if i ever hear anything about her cheating on me that i will drop her like a bad habit. i've used those exact same words too. i always have inklings that something might be happening but i am always paranoid. i go to college soon, and she goes back to school, too. which is bad for both of us. i'm taking her out to dinner on friday night, and i'm going to talk to her about it. a relationship is pointless without trust.

well, trust and communication.

 

[dirtboy]

I would never take a girl back if she cheated on me. I wouldn't get mad or fight with her; just get my stuff back and never speak to her ever again.

 

[jjones]

Originally posted by: 91TTZ

Originally posted by: jjones

It's simple really. Human behavior is too complex to be so black and white as "once a cheater always a cheater". There is no room within that concept for someone to cheat once or several times, and then be completely faithful to another person for the rest of their lives. If you don't think what I am saying is true then you are just too young and inexperienced to know any better, because there are certainly many people who fit that description. Are you trying to tell me that a person who has cheated at age 20 is the same person who has experienced 10 more years of life (hopefully continuing to mature in the process) and is ready to make a commitment at age 30?

You are merely trying to argue your way out of personal responsibility and what you have done.

We all know that there is scum on this Earth, but you can't expect the scum to admit that they are scum. Most likely, those scummy people will try to justify their scummy behavior. You are doing just that.

And you are just a closed-minded, ignorant fool. Can you please explain why, after 20 years of cheating on girlfriends, I can meet someone and remain faithful for the following 10 years?

 

[jonjonsanfru]

Took her back, got some revenge, lived through hell... I now reside in a different state. Its a sad fact that is often hard to see when you're in it - Some people are NOT meant to be, no matter how right it can feel.

I personally believe that "Once a cheater, always a cheater" ... but it can be specific to a relationship. A girl can cheat on one man, but be utterly faithful to another. Although there are prolly more that repeat the same mistakes due to a character flaw - ie, attitude, upbringing, attracted to the wrong guys, etc.

Would I take back another? dunno, life isn't so black and white... but i wouldn't be blinded by youth like the first time... actually, i'm pretty sure its a deal breaker - but again, shades of gray. IMO sex and love are often seperate entities, that often conflict. No man NEVER looks at another woman after some set point in his life... NO man - same for women. The animal inside will always persist, but how you deal with that beast is how you define your relationship as far as fidelity.

Also how do you define cheating? i had a GF who called my pr0n cheating, or just being friendly with other girls... doesn't always have to be intercourse. I limit it to strictly intercourse of any kind. With flirting there is such a fine line between friendly and intentional its not worth getting worked up over, unless there is no basis for trust... but unless you're just in it for the wet willy action, why are you still in a relationship without a foundation of trust? Shades of gray - if you're shooting for reading comprehension and she's just skimming the pages... its gonna end badly. gotta communicate intention, its often not as clear to the other person as you think.

 

[91TTZ]

Originally posted by: jjones

And you are just a closed-minded, ignorant fool. Can you please explain why, after 20 years of cheating on girlfriends, I can meet someone and remain faithful for the following 10 years?

I'm neither closed minded nor ignorant. I'm not the scummy dude who cheated on all his girlfriends. You've already exposed your character. Scummy people like to act like scum, but they don't like the negative label that comes with it. You sleep in the bed you make.

 

[733SHiFTY]

Originally posted by: jjones

Originally posted by: 91TTZ

Originally posted by: jjones

It's simple really. Human behavior is too complex to be so black and white as "once a cheater always a cheater". There is no room within that concept for someone to cheat once or several times, and then be completely faithful to another person for the rest of their lives. If you don't think what I am saying is true then you are just too young and inexperienced to know any better, because there are certainly many people who fit that description. Are you trying to tell me that a person who has cheated at age 20 is the same person who has experienced 10 more years of life (hopefully continuing to mature in the process) and is ready to make a commitment at age 30?

You are merely trying to argue your way out of personal responsibility and what you have done.

We all know that there is scum on this Earth, but you can't expect the scum to admit that they are scum. Most likely, those scummy people will try to justify their scummy behavior. You are doing just that.

And you are just a closed-minded, ignorant fool. Can you please explain why, after 20 years of cheating on girlfriends, I can meet someone and remain faithful for the following 10 years?

jj is right, believe it or not, humans are still animals. Therefore, we tend to follow similar mating patterns (long term and short term). While we are young and full of energy, we try to "mate" with as often as possible. Its a primal instinct in the back of our mind that drives us to "cheat," which is simply a way of increacing our chances of (theoretically) producing an offspring. However, as we mature we tend to look for more long term relationships, to ensure the success of at least some of our offspring.

If you look at cheating from a more anthropological perspective, it makes alot more sence, and it makes you realize that in the end...

"you and me baby aint nothing but mammals" :laugh:

 

[psteng19]

Originally posted by: 733SHiFTY

Originally posted by: jjones

Originally posted by: 91TTZ

Originally posted by: jjones

It's simple really. Human behavior is too complex to be so black and white as "once a cheater always a cheater". There is no room within that concept for someone to cheat once or several times, and then be completely faithful to another person for the rest of their lives. If you don't think what I am saying is true then you are just too young and inexperienced to know any better, because there are certainly many people who fit that description. Are you trying to tell me that a person who has cheated at age 20 is the same person who has experienced 10 more years of life (hopefully continuing to mature in the process) and is ready to make a commitment at age 30?

You are merely trying to argue your way out of personal responsibility and what you have done.

We all know that there is scum on this Earth, but you can't expect the scum to admit that they are scum. Most likely, those scummy people will try to justify their scummy behavior. You are doing just that.

And you are just a closed-minded, ignorant fool. Can you please explain why, after 20 years of cheating on girlfriends, I can meet someone and remain faithful for the following 10 years?

jj is right, believe it or not, humans are still animals. Therefore, we tend to follow similar mating patterns (long term and short term). While we are young and full of energy, we try to "mate" with as often as possible. Its a primal instinct in the back of our mind that drives us to "cheat," which is simply a way of increacing our chances of (theoretically) producing an offspring. However, as we mature we tend to look for more long term relationships, to ensure the success of at least some of our offspring.

If you look at cheating from a more anthropological perspective, it makes alot more sence, and it makes you realize that in the end...

"you and me baby aint nothing but mammals" :laugh:

No, you're wrong. Humans are not animals.
Humans have the ability to think and reason. We have morals and we are capable of love.
We may have similar physiological structures as animals, but that's about it.
It is not an excuse to cheat.

 

[Saint Nick]

Originally posted by: psteng19
No, you're wrong. Humans are not animals.
Humans have the ability to think and reason. We have morals and we are capable of love.
We may have similar physiological structures as animals, but that's about it.
It is not an excuse to cheat.

i agree :thumbsup:!!!

 

[xXped0thugXx]

I've cheated before and it was totally meaningless. Didnt have any feelings for the girl what-so-ever. GF broke up with me. But it taught me a lesson to never do it again, and i havent. So once a cheater always isnt true. But I lost one person i loved in the process, but at least i learned from it and never did it again.

 

[Vic]

Originally posted by: 91TTZ
I'm neither closed minded nor ignorant. I'm not the scummy dude who cheated on all his girlfriends. You've already exposed your character. Scummy people like to act like scum, but they don't like the negative label that comes with it. You sleep in the bed you make.

:thumbsup:

Once a cheater, always a cheater, kick rocks to the fsckin' curb, bitch.

 

[monk3y]

Luckily I've never been involved with a cheater. I think I might take them back depending on the situation.

 

[Landroval]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
it has never happened to me, but if it did, i could not. even if i loved them still, i would never take them back.
once a cheater always a cheater.

:thumbsup:

 

[dxkj]

Originally posted by: Kenazo

Originally posted by: Kalbi
why would you take back a pvssy that recently had someone else's dvck inside?

that's a little graphic....

What do you have against ducks?

Wouldst thou like to take a gander beneath my skirt, kind sir?

 

[dxkj]

Originally posted by: Patt

Originally posted by: JonnyBlaze
yeah, i was a cheater too tho.

i dont anymore so once a cheater bs isnt true.

Yeah, keep telling yourself that ... :|

was a cheater... so you did it multiple times... even if you were given a second chance, thus fitting into the "once a cheater , always a cheateR"

but now... at some point, you have stopped.. good for you, great job! still doesnt change the fact that you fit the phrase for a set period of time....