For purposes of this thread,
Beating is : any form of physical force used to discipline a child "corporal punishment"
Does not include: restraining a child from hurting themselves/others, things like that.
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At lunchtime at work, whenever it is just ladies and my sole male self, they seem to get hot on topic about whipping/beating their children. They get very excited and, elated, to discuss the issue.
A few days prior to listening to these conversations, I had a heated discussion with my wife about the same subject. She is totally fine and plans on beating our children, and I am very against it.
It was such a no-gain all-lose conversation that we will never have it again, but we both understood where we were coming from and that regardless of what would happen, it would be a difficult decision both of us would have to meet on.
#1 Beating children.
I find this to be a too-easy path to try and gain control over a child. While you can gain physical control, it lacks mental control which IMO is the most important part. Also, it can cause the child to mimic that same behavior elsewhere, or cause severe psychological issues that may turn into out of ordinary violent or submissive conditions.
#2 not beating children
There are so many ways to punish a child that is more meaningful, creative, and efficient. This may be difficult to do though if you A. Don't really know your child, B. lack the follow through (softy), C. Lack the creative/thinking process needed to ensure the punishment is sufficient.
Conclusions.
1. I've noticed beating children may be a cultural/societal issue, that in the end is accepted by both children and parents
2. Excuses are generally "I got beat, and I turned out ok"
3. People are either overly aggressive or overly soft. Both of which I believe are poor beating techniques
Beating is : any form of physical force used to discipline a child "corporal punishment"
Does not include: restraining a child from hurting themselves/others, things like that.
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At lunchtime at work, whenever it is just ladies and my sole male self, they seem to get hot on topic about whipping/beating their children. They get very excited and, elated, to discuss the issue.
A few days prior to listening to these conversations, I had a heated discussion with my wife about the same subject. She is totally fine and plans on beating our children, and I am very against it.
It was such a no-gain all-lose conversation that we will never have it again, but we both understood where we were coming from and that regardless of what would happen, it would be a difficult decision both of us would have to meet on.
#1 Beating children.
I find this to be a too-easy path to try and gain control over a child. While you can gain physical control, it lacks mental control which IMO is the most important part. Also, it can cause the child to mimic that same behavior elsewhere, or cause severe psychological issues that may turn into out of ordinary violent or submissive conditions.
#2 not beating children
There are so many ways to punish a child that is more meaningful, creative, and efficient. This may be difficult to do though if you A. Don't really know your child, B. lack the follow through (softy), C. Lack the creative/thinking process needed to ensure the punishment is sufficient.
Conclusions.
1. I've noticed beating children may be a cultural/societal issue, that in the end is accepted by both children and parents
2. Excuses are generally "I got beat, and I turned out ok"
3. People are either overly aggressive or overly soft. Both of which I believe are poor beating techniques
