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Please pray for my brother....

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GuitarDaddy said:
I will keep your brother in my prayers.


Keep you head up, and try and comfort your other family members. This is definately not the time for wasting energy with regrets so put those thoughts out of your mind, spend your energy positively. I know it sounds impossible but its important to stay positive.
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thanks for the advice. i guess the best thing i can do is not to think about the past, not to think about the future but just focus on the present. im probably going to be sleeping over at my parents house for a few weeks. i also have a laptop here i can let him borrow and fill it up with movies so he doesnt get bored. ill also tell him to focus on the present and not the past or future. hopefully it helps him out.
 
Sorry to hear that. My thoughts and with you and your family.

Just spend a lot of time with your family and your brother. Let him know that you're there. Talk to him, and tell him things you want him to know, like how happy you are that he found his true love.
 
you have my prayers as well. you cannot change events that already happened but you can make the most of the time you have left. i lost my dad 10 days ago, but we knew it was coming and that made our time left special and i can smile knowing even though i wasn't there he knew i loved him and that he was always in my heart.

now is the time to be strong and share who you are, the side he rarely sees, it truly helps.

good luck and god bless you and yours
 
Sorry to hear about your brother, hope he pulls through.

While you can't change the past you can still control the future. Spend as much time as you can now with him and don't dwell on what you missed.
 
man, sorry to hear. what a real bummer 🙁 keep your head up, and your spirits up. the best thing you can do for your brother during this fight is to be positive and stay positive throughout the entire process. talk to him more, get to know him better, and just be there more for him during this trying time.

good luck to him as well as to you and your family.
 
Stay strong, dude. Don't walk around all bummed like your bro has been given a death sentence, because he hasn't! Modern medicine is awesome, and I'm sure they will fix him up and he'll be able to get back to a normal or semi-normal life with his lady. Chemo will really smack a body around and make people appear worse than they are. Try and be the happy and optimistic guy that your family needs right now. Good luck.
 
Does your brother have AIDS?

As far as needing a liver transplant.... you could be a donor.

Lastly, he is in my prayers. I hope he gets better.
 
DougK62 said:
Stay strong, dude. Don't walk around all bummed like your bro has been given a death sentence, because he hasn't! Modern medicine is awesome, and I'm sure they will fix him up and he'll be able to get back to a normal or semi-normal life with his lady. Chemo will really smack a body around and make people appear worse than they are. Try and be the happy and optimistic guy that your family needs right now. Good luck.
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yup
 
reposting this just in case you didn't get to read it, since it was the last post of the first page...

yg, your family and brother are in my prayers.

whatever you do, don't blame yourself for not doing family things before your brother got sick. it's just something that happens sometimes and it's not in your control or anyone else's.

also, just remember that a lot of what's killing him is the chemotherapy itself. that's a lot of why he's got no energy. the goal is to kill off cells that grow or divide (like the b cells affecting your brother's lymph nodes) in order to eventually kill off the ones that are affecting his tissues. once they're dead, his symptoms will go away and he'll be fine.
 
I hope everyone prays really hard and you won't have to go to the doctors because God will fix all this. I mean, god gave your doctor this horrible illness right?

Completely inappropriate. Go troll elsewhere.
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lsv said:
I hope everyone prays really hard and you won't have to go to the doctors because God will fix all this. I mean, god gave your doctor this horrible illness right?
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Do you need to be a jerk about it? everyone has their own way of dealing with crisis. if you really don't have anything positive to say, it's very easy to ignore the thread altogether.
 
There is no reason for you to feel guilt about anything. Many of us (probably most of us) blow family things off. That is the greatest thing about family: you can be busy, say no to gatherings if you're busy and not really worry about it. He will always be your brother and I don't think the thought of you not watching a movie with him one night so long ago is even on his mind. I think he would just be thankful that you are there.

I have a brother who lives on the opposite coast. We rarely talk...maybe once or twice a year. We see each other occasionally, and when we do it is a blast and it is like we talk every day. Then we part ways, we have our own lives, and we don't worry about staying in contact because our relationship is like a good book: you can just pick it back up right where you left off.

Out of all of this the only thing you should learn is that life can change at any minute and you should always take opportunities when you can...whether it is spending time with friends or family, going on that vacation you always wanted to, or even working extra hard to achieve something.

Lastly...your brother sounds like a fighter. I almost feel worse for his fiance/wife. Be there for her and keep her company. Take her to dinner or a movie, go for a hike, play a board game in his room with her... I can tell you that your brother would appreciate you helping his loved one during this time more than you could ever know.
 
GuitarDaddy said:
I will keep your brother in my prayers.


Keep you head up, and try and comfort your other family members. This is definately not the time for wasting energy with regrets so put those thoughts out of your mind, spend your energy positively. I know it sounds impossible but its important to stay positive.
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I second this.

I'll keep him in my prayers also.
 
update: the doctors have tried all known treatments for his diease and nothing has worked. his heart, liver and kidneys are no longer functioning and he is breathing thru some kind of tube because he cannot breathe on his own. the worst part about this is he is 100% alert throughout all of this. we spoke with the doctors yesterday they mentioned they can try
a risky procedure by putting a pacemaker in his chest but it most likely would only be a bandaid and not a permanent solution. he told us yesterday(thru a pen and pad since he cannot speak) he would rather just die peacefully. as a family we have no idea what to do. he knows there is no hope for him but we cant just cant let him die like that even though thats what he wants.


any advice would be helpful.
 
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Young Grasshopper said:
update: the doctors have tried all known treatments for his diease and nothing has worked. his heart, liver and kidneys are no longer functioning and he is breathing thru some kind of tube because he cannot breathe on his own. the worst part about this is he is 100% alert throughout all of this. we spoke with the doctors yesterday they mentioned they can try
a risky procedure by putting a pacemaker in his chest but it most likely would only be a bandaid and not a permanent solution. he told us yesterday(thru a pen and pad since he cannot speak) he would rather just die peacefully. as a family we have no idea what to do. he knows there is no hope for him but we cant just cant let him die like that even though thats what he wants.


any advice would be helpful.
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I'm sorry, but I don't know what advice to give in this situation. It is way too personal of a subject.

All I can offer are my condolences, and sincere wish that the best things possible happen for you, your brother, and your whole family.
 
Young Grasshopper said:
update: the doctors have tried all known treatments for his diease and nothing has worked. his heart, liver and kidneys are no longer functioning and he is breathing thru some kind of tube because he cannot breathe on his own. the worst part about this is he is 100% alert throughout all of this. we spoke with the doctors yesterday they mentioned they can try
a risky procedure by putting a pacemaker in his chest but it most likely would only be a bandaid and not a permanent solution. he told us yesterday(thru a pen and pad since he cannot speak) he would rather just die peacefully. as a family we have no idea what to do. he knows there is no hope for him but we cant just cant let him die like that even though thats what he wants.


any advice would be helpful.
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What a horribly sad situation. I'll continue to keep you and your family in prayer.

You can tell your brother how you feel but ultimately this medical decision belongs to him and his fiancee. Be supportive of both of them whatever they choose as far as treatment.
 
This is obviously a tough time for you and your family, I really don't know what to say. It's too hard to say something in a situation like this. This decision is something that he should make.
 
Ultimately this is a decision that the person the life belongs to if he is alert and understands everything and what he would be doing. I will keep you, your family and him in my thoughts.
 
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