Please, I need guidance.

[TheNemesis]

Ok, to give you a little backaround. My dad is an alcholic, has gotten at least 2 DUIs, he is homosexual, and he is still living with my mom and my sister. I don't remeber the last time they've gotten along, and it just fvcking sucks. My mom only makes $15 dollars an hour, and I don't think that she can support me and my sister on our own. I really hate my dad right now, and I've had these feelings before. He's very kind to me, but the things I see him do just tear me up inside. A couple of years ago he went out in the middle of the night and someone robbed him, stole his keys, found our house, and robbed us. I've never told anyone about any of this. He also hasn't paid taxes in 3 years, he drinks every night, I mean get's fvcking shitfaced. He's made two holes in the wall, along with numerous other damage while being drunk. I imagine my mom would have left him, if it wasn't for his fincial support. I came home tonight with my mother from a graduation party of my cousins, and he was not here. This was about 11, I figure he's done it before whatever. I run a carfax on a car my sister is looking at buying, and I wanted to run one on my car so I went out to the garage to check my VIN number. I see an unopened warrant notice on the bench. I decide to open it, just becaus eit would bother the fvck out of me if I didn't. He failed to comply with DUI sh!t and it says to turn himself in blah blah blah. I think that he saw the warrant, and just decided to take off. At first I was worried as fvck about him, calling his cellphone and I just gave up. FVCK HIM! Sorry for this post, I guess it's pointless but I have no one else to talk to. I'm on the brink of self destruction or something, I just feel sooooo inraged confused, i dont even know how to explain it. God....

 

[Kadarin]

Wow! After reading that I believe I can safely say that I'm not qualified here.. but you honestly do have my sympathy.

How old are you? How old is your sister? Do you all live at home, and do you have the financial resources to get out of the situation? It sounds like your dad's probably not going to be able to support you much, if any, longer, so you might want to have a serious talk with your mom about what you can do for the future. If you, your sister, and your mom can work together, you might be able to make it, emotionally and financially. Please also try to seek out a support group for similar situations; it may help to talk with people who are going through similar crises.

I wish you the best of luck.

 

[TheNemesis]

Thanks, my sister is 17, I'm 16, and no financial resources to get out of the situation really. I haven't told my mom, God I feel like sh!t right now, I don't know how much longer I can go on like this. Yes, we all live at home.

 

[singh]

First, relax; calm down. Anger never solves anything. Clearly your father is in trouble with the law. He will have to face the consequences of his actions eventually. I would advise you to try and find a job and help your mom with financial and emotional support. You are becoming an adult, and responsibilities are going to grow. This is a tough time, but it will surely get better.

 

[spanky]

ouch... hang in there dude. u will persevere

 

[Heisenberg]

I too, am not really qualified in stuff like this. The one piece of advice I can give you is to find someone to talk about this with. A school counselor would be the best place to start. They're trained to deal with these situations - either directly or by putting you in touch with people who are. The important thing is to talk to someone responsible that you trust, and preferably has credentials in this area. I realize it probably feels overwhelming and you feel that you're all alone in dealing with this, but there is help out there. Good luck.

 

[oLLie]

If $15/hour isn't enough (sounds like it might be a stretch w/ a family of your size: 3 or 4 ppl right?) then maybe you and your sister can find part time jobs? Best of luck workin this thing out, keep us updated if you want.

 

[IGBT]

Are there any relatives you can contact?

 

[Muadib]

I feel for you man, but you really need to talk to your mom. There is no reason for her to stay in that situation, none. Good luck.

 

[Azraele]

Hang in there. Talk to friends, family, or even a counselor to help you sort through the rough situation.

As harsh as this is going to sound, it may not be a bad thing if your dad gets caught. He clearly needs some help, and he's not going to get it on his own. Next time he drives drunk, he could hurt or kill himself or someone else, so this situation simply cannot be allowed to continue.

Good luck to you and yours.

 

[TheNemesis]

I pray that he gets caught right now, actually. Or better yet, turns himself in. Me and my sister both have part-time jobs but we really can't work all that much while we're in school.

 

[bigrash]

wow, I don't really know what to say. Good luck, and I hope that it gets better for you and your family really soon.

 

[Lucky]

I would call child protective services and then the police if he doesnt show up. Of course, thats easy to say if its not your own father. I wish the best for you.