Please help

[shadow goat]

Hi. I haven't posted very much at all here but I have been lurking and reading for over a year so I wouldn't really class myself as someone that is new to ATOT.

Anyway this is a problem that I can't really talk to anyone else about as it would be extremely embarrassing to talk to anyone I know about it. Plus from all that I have read there seems to be a fair few people here that are pretty knowledgeable about things, not just to do with computers.

So I am currently 16 (turning 17 in a few months) and I have been having regular sex for the last year and a half or so. I am 6'2" tall and weigh roughly 90kg (about 200lbs I guess) and I have been this build for a few years. Anyway, over the past week to two weeks when I have gone to have sex or have thought about anything like that I haven't been able to get hard, and when I manage to get semi-hard it doesn't last very long.

I have been trying to think of anything that I have been doing differently lately but all I came up with is that I might be doing an extra day or two of weights over what I used to do (but still not very much). I am not on any medication, I have not been sick, I don't smoke or use drugs and I have not been drinking any more than normal (with the exception of New Years but this was happening before then anyway).

I know that there will be a bunch of posters that will post making fun of me, but I also know that there are some nice people here that may actually be able to help me. Plus if it is only being made fun of over the internet it doesn't really matter anyway.

Thanks for any help that you may be able to give. It is greatly appreciated.

 

[blurredvision]

Going to the doctor is your best bet, not asking us. But that will most likely require letting your parents in on the possible secret of you having sex at that age, which might not be kosher with them.

 

[Beev]

*gets :beer:*

 

[shadow goat]

Nah they are all cool with it. I just wanted to try other alternatives first as telling parents and then going to a doctor would be pretty awkward and embarrassing.

 

[Lola]

see your family dr. They will keep what you say in confidence. Although there could be something wrong or not, best bet is to let the dr. tell you that, not us folk on an internet message board. You are really young so.... get it checked out.

 

[Connoisseur]

ouch... ummm. I hear stress can contribute to problems like that. But like blurredvision said, go see a doctor dude.

 

[leftyman]

Yes, you should get well thought out and sincere help for your problem here. I agree.

 

[shadow goat]

Well it only takes one person with good advice or help, and what do I have to lose by posting on here?

 

[biggestmuff]

Your wang is connected to your mind. If your mind isn't into it, then neither will be your wang. Are you just banging random chicks or the same partner?

 

[leftyman]

Originally posted by: shadow goat
Well it only takes one person with good advice or help, and what do I have to lose by posting on here?

Want good advice? Call your doctor's office and make an appointment to see him or her. Your problem could be caused by several different things,
none of which will be correctly diagnosed on ATOT.

 

[shadow goat]

Originally posted by: biggestmuff
Your wang is connected to your mind. If your mind isn't into it, then neither will be your wang. Are you just banging random chicks or the same partner?

The same partner.

 

[edro]

It's all in your head. The second you start to think about it, it won't happen. It's tough to take your mind off of, but you must try to think about sexual things as much as possible and not about your softy.

Most guys go through this at some point. It usually happens a few times in a row because you are still thinking about the past failures.

 

[J0hnny]

Originally posted by: shadow goat

Originally posted by: biggestmuff
Your wang is connected to your mind. If your mind isn't into it, then neither will be your wang. Are you just banging random chicks or the same partner?

The same partner.

That's probably part of the problem.

 

[dug777]

You only have to think of the Melty Man and he strikes!

































Seriously, see your GP.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Can you still get an erection, like when masterbating or looking at pornography?

 

[shadow goat]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Can you still get an erection, like when masterbating or looking at pornography?

Only like semi-hard at best and not for very long.

 

[narzy]

the first thing that came to mind was testicular cancer but maybe that is because of my fascination with medicine...It's not likely but it's not that uncommon for males 16 - 23 to develop testicular cancer. I don't know of any STD's that cause ED but I'm not up to snuff on my STD knowledge these days.

Stress, and the wang-mind yin-yang thing biggestmuff is talking about...bored with your partner?

if it keeps up, talk to your doc about it next time you go in for a check-up everything you tell him is confidential and they've gone to school to deal with 16 yr old sex fiends (basically what I'm saying is they've seen it before and don't care)

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: J0hnny

Originally posted by: shadow goat

Originally posted by: biggestmuff
Your wang is connected to your mind. If your mind isn't into it, then neither will be your wang. Are you just banging random chicks or the same partner?

The same partner.

That's probably part of the problem.

oh, it is not. :roll:

OP, go to planned parenthood or something. they can better answer your questions.

even 17 y/o guys can have the issue you are describing and then make it worse by over-analyzing and thinking too much about it.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: shadow goat

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Can you still get an erection, like when masterbating or looking at pornography?

Only like semi-hard at best and not for very long.

Can you orgasm?

 

[narzy]

Just did a quick google search for teenage ED this is what I found http://www.doctorslounge.com/fertility/forums/backup/topic-6424.html

Theresa Jones, RN - Sun Jul 10, 2005 11:47 am

"Erectile dysfunction may be related to many factors. If underlying health conditions have been ruled out, psychological factors may certainly be responsible for causing this problem. Remember this may happen to many men at some point during their lifetime (You are not alone.) Once a man has experienced ED he may become excessively worried that it will happen again causing "perfomance anxiety" which in turn leads to more stress, guilt, feelings of inadequacy. My suggestion to you would be first and foremost, don't put so much pressure on yourself. Try some relaxation techniques. Keep in mind that the key to intimacy is not "just performance.""

 

[shadow goat]

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: shadow goat

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Can you still get an erection, like when masterbating or looking at pornography?

Only like semi-hard at best and not for very long.

Can you orgasm?

Yeah I can.


Thanks to everyone that has replied to the thread, either to offer advice or at least to bump it up. I am feeling a little more confident, and hopeful that it is just me getting worried about it and causing it to happen again and again. Of course if it happens much more I will take that advice and go talk to a doctor. Feel free to keep offering advice.

Thanks all.

 

[MmmSkyscraper]

's all round for constructive responses.

 

[Zysoclaplem]

Originally posted by: shadow goat

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem

Originally posted by: shadow goat

Originally posted by: Zysoclaplem
Can you still get an erection, like when masterbating or looking at pornography?

Only like semi-hard at best and not for very long.

Can you orgasm?

Yeah I can.


Thanks to everyone that has replied to the thread, either to offer advice or at least to bump it up. I am feeling a little more confident, and hopeful that it is just me getting worried about it and causing it to happen again and again. Of course if it happens much more I will take that advice and go talk to a doctor. Feel free to keep offering advice.

Thanks all.

Try not to worry about it. Sounds like an anxiety problem. The mind is a powerful thing.
If you start to get an erection and start thinking about it, you are going to lose it.
All it takes is one time before you start worrying constantly. So don't worry. It's in your head. No pun intended.

 

[Skel]

beware the melty man

 

[JulesMaximus]

Well, I've never had any trouble of this sort (other than the occasional whiskey dick). Hell, at 16 you should be having difficulty keeping it from being...eh, hard. :laugh:

How are your eating habits? Do you eat well balanced meals? How about stress, any stressful things happening right now in your life? Could be any number of things. Could be anxiety. How does your partner react when this happens?

Personally, I recommend you go to a doctor and talk to him/her about your problem.