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Please Delete my OT thread

Consider this response from a neutral party:

No, you weren't "stabbed in the back." You went to OT on the premise that you were correct in your actions and the problem was due to the buyer on ebay who won your auction. Had you said "oh, I see. I didn't realize the auction couldn't say we accept paypal if we intended to refuse credit card payments. I'll contact the buyer and apologize; we'll just take a loss on this auction," all probably would have ended there. Yet, even 3 hours after posting this thread, you still fail to see that asking someone to pay to an account other than the one listed in the auction is a red flag to any intelligent buyer. That you've done so successfully so many times in the past is an indication to me that scammers must have a pretty high success rate.

I hope the mods don't delete that thread. 2 months into 2006, and it's near the top of "ownage of the year" potential nominations. I'm sorry that someone emailed a link to the purchaser. However, I don't see that any harm was done as a result, other than increasing your embarassment over being completely wrong in how you're continuing to handle this. Furthermore, deleting the thread isn't going to prevent the buyer from reading it - she already has. Consider yourself lucky that the buyer isn't reporting you to EBay/Paypal for violation of the TOS.

I sympathize with you on the ebay/paypal fees... They've pretty much got the market cornered and are really taking advantage of every way they can to make a nickel. I'd love to see a competitor capitalize on this, but I doubt it's going to happen. Regardless, you've been lucky to circumvent the rules up to this point. You may even still manage to get around the fees in the near future. But, next time you have a problem with a buyer as a result of your breaking the rules, perhaps save yourself the embarassment you caused yourself in the original thread?

But, many of us have had threads where we've blundered and made fools of ourselves. However, most of us are able to live with it without running to the forum moderators and requesting that they remove the thread. Besides, I'm sure the thread has been copied for posterity, just in case it vanishes. (edit: Or so that after it vanishes, it can still be linked to next December in the ownage of the year nominations. 🙂 )
 
lmao, I have a copy of it if you want, allisolm 😛 🙂
(hopefully I remember it next December)
 
I agree the ebay seller was in the wrong, but it was completely inappropriate of someone to contact the buyer with a link to the thread. That's BS, and cowardly.

No one was being cheated, it wasn't a matter of trying to help someone, it was just trying to stir up more crap.

That kind of behavior just infuriates me, ever since an AT member got fired from his job over something he posted here and some clown took a printed copy of the thread into his employer.
 
Originally posted by: kranky
I agree the ebay seller was in the wrong, but it was completely inappropriate of someone to contact the buyer with a link to the thread. That's BS, and cowardly.

No one was being cheated, it wasn't a matter of trying to help someone, it was just trying to stir up more crap.

That kind of behavior just infuriates me, ever since an AT member got fired from his job over something he posted here and some clown took a printed copy of the thread into his employer.
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Kranky, I was going to respond in the other thread to what you've just said (but the other thread is gone.) I agree that it wasn't appropriate for someone to contact the buyer.

However, word of advice to EVERYONE: you have absolutely no reasonable expectation that what you've posted online will not get back to the person/company you are posting about. Perhaps if more people understood that, this place, and the whole online community in general, would be much more civil.
 
Originally posted by: DrPizza
Originally posted by: kranky
I agree the ebay seller was in the wrong, but it was completely inappropriate of someone to contact the buyer with a link to the thread. That's BS, and cowardly.

No one was being cheated, it wasn't a matter of trying to help someone, it was just trying to stir up more crap.

That kind of behavior just infuriates me, ever since an AT member got fired from his job over something he posted here and some clown took a printed copy of the thread into his employer.
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Kranky, I was going to respond in the other thread to what you've just said (but the other thread is gone.) I agree that it wasn't appropriate for someone to contact the buyer.

However, word of advice to EVERYONE: you have absolutely no reasonable expectation that what you've posted online will not get back to the person/company you are posting about. Perhaps if more people understood that, this place, and the whole online community in general, would be much more civil.
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What Dr. Pizza said. You can ask my two girls, one of which is now on serious restrictions. Don't post anything on the internet that you don't want anyone to know about. Further, you can praise via e-mail, but never punish, dress down, or say something that you want to keep private via e-mail as the forward button is a click away.

Hint to our younger 'viewers' - If you create a myspace site and you a) are under TOS age (daughter a) or b) you and your friends talk about what you did on Friday night when you were supposed to be spending the night at a friends house (daughter b), your parents MIGHT find out. Especially if your parents work in the computer industry doing security work. I have seriously thought of posting on her friends chat, "Pwnd" signed "her step-dad" The pucker factor alone for the other kids who keep posting would be off the scale. 🙂
 
Guys, I do agree - don't post anything that you don't want spread around. True enough, and we should all understand that.

I just don't think the person who contacted the ebay buyer should be let off the hook for that reason.
 
I hope the next person who posts a ?got a speeding ticket or DUI? thread on ATOT doesn?t get it emailed to the cop, district attorney or DMV. Damn!
 
You wanted the thread deleted and it was deleted, so maybe it's not a good idea to rehash it here.
 
Originally posted by: HomeAppraiser
I hope the next person who posts a ?got a speeding ticket or DUI? thread on ATOT doesn?t get it emailed to the cop, district attorney or DMV. Damn!
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its entirely possible that your buyer reads ATOT
 
Originally posted by: kranky
Guys, I do agree - don't post anything that you don't want spread around. True enough, and we should all understand that.

I just don't think the person who contacted the ebay buyer should be let off the hook for that reason.
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When I was a little girl... many, many years ago... my grandmother told me:

Don't ever put in print what you dont want read in public for the whole world to see/hear/read.

edit: did the buyer show up here? I left while the thread was still going strong and now it was gone. do we know who alerted the buyer... not very nice, btw.
 
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