Placing a parent in a home

[denis280]

never thought that this would happen one day.friday i ad to put my Father in a home,80 years of age heavy drinker.the doctor told me is brain is shrunk from the drinking

 

[shortylickens]

Sorry bud.
To be honest, an 80 year old who took care of himself could still easily need special care.

 

[MrSquished]

i feel for you man. we are about to put my father and his Alzheimer's into a home overseas in Cyprus. It is what it is man.

 

[BD231]

He'll be surrounded by dumb old chicks and hawt nurses what's the problem here

 

[BoomerD]

It's a difficult thing to do. My condolences.

 

[OverVolt]

Been there myself when we did it for my grandparents, it'll get better man. Its really the best thing to do.

 

[Exterous]

Sorry to hear that. Some homes are pretty nice though. My grandma decided she should be in one, picked it out and loved it. There were lots of activities to keep her busy so there can be some good sides to it

 

[Mai72]

My aunt is in a home. She has a nanny that stays with her from 8am-5pm. All of her meals are cooked on the premise by a chef. It's a nice eating cozy place She gets to go on trips, they have plays, etc. The place is called Sunrise.

Cost is around $8=10k a month.

 

[Linflas]

My mom had Alzheimer's and we had to move her into memory care in February 2015. She actually took it much better than I expected but I suspect this is because the disease had progressed to the point that she didn't exactly understand what was taking place. She was pretty obsessed for the first few months asking about her house but eventually that tapered off. The place we had her in was less than 1/2 mile from the school I work in so I was able to stop by and see her during lunch sometimes which was nice and everyone there treated her well. The disease took her this past February, she basically stopped eating and starved herself.

 

[JEDIYoda]

I feel for you! That's a very hard thing to do!
In fact it was so hard we ended up hiring a fulltime staff with an on call doctor to take care of my father in his home!
We built separate living quarters for the staff so he would be watched and taken care of 24/7!!

 

[JEDIYoda]

My mom had Alzheimer's and we had to move her into memory care in February 2015. She actually took it much better than I expected but I suspect this is because the disease had progressed to the point that she didn't exactly understand what was taking place. She was pretty obsessed for the first few months asking about her house but eventually that tapered off. The place we had her in was less than 1/2 mile from the school I work in so I was able to stop by and see her during lunch sometimes which was nice and everyone there treated her well. The disease took her this past February, she basically stopped eating and starved herself.

My condolences!!

 

[denis280]

I thank you all for your comment very appreciated.

 

[Ns1]

Cost is around $8=10k a month.

O_O

 

[MrSquished]

O_O

Yeah. Which is why we are putting my dad in a home in his motherland of Cyprus. It's about 12k a year for excellent care. America is fucked up.

 

[rommelrommel]

I want to be put down instead of live like that.

 

[NesuD]

We cared for my father at home until he passed away last week. We were fortunate we have a lot of health care professionals in the family and all of them pitched in so that he could be home with his family for his final days.

 

[Murloc]

only had to see it with relatives who were already out of mind so it was easy enough for everybody to make the transition.

The costs are crazy though if you want a decent place.

 

[MrSquished]

Yeah. Which is why we are putting my dad in a home in his motherland of Cyprus. It's about 12k a year for excellent care. America is fucked up.

actually it's more like 15-18K a year depending upon how much medical care he needs. Still 15K sure the hell beats 90K stateside.

 

[Number1]

I just flew to Montreal and spent some time with my 85 years old mother this summer. Last year she decided she could not live with her boyfriend any more and we helped her move to a senior residence. Each member of the family contribute what they can. Mom is loving her new place, interact with as many people as she can and participate in all the organised activities. She is happy. Hope your father is enjoying his new place or at least comfortable.