Originally posted by: MichaelD
Originally posted by: luvly
"Oh, Luvly, the reason you're not captivated is b/c that really a long-distance shot. I look much better close up; handsome devil that I am. C'mere cutie; let me show you. *smooch*"
I shall not be persuaded. LOL!

If you ever decide to share one that's up close, I may be convinced.

I'm sure if I heard you speak, I would forget about your physical appearance though. You speak glibly, don't you?
Anyway, yeah, it is an old pic. I noticed you were still with your ex at that time. Now I see why you felt so comfortable saying mean things about her.

I have to ask what attracted you to her, though. Was she overweight when you met her? I remember you saying that she was, I think, age 24, whilst you were in your thirties. I thought if you were dating a young chick she would be extremely physically attractive.
It's good to know that you two are still in speaking terms. However, I'm kind of surprised she didn't mind after you quietly left her.
OK, I'll briefly tell the story, but I will not respond to flames about it (not from you, specifically, Luvly, but from anyone)
I met my exGF (the one in the pic) when she was 21 and I was 31. She was almost 40 pounds lighter than in those photos. She was very, very nice looking when I met her.
As the years passed, she gained a LOT of weight, which she first blamed on the BC pill, then blamed on the BC patch. I roll my eyes heartily at each one of those excuses.
She eats a lot of candy, that's the main damn reason.
She was always kind of unstable and very needy. She still has trouble holding down a job, etc. I need more stability in my life than that. I had broken up with her twice before...and after two weeks or so, got back w/her b/c it was familiar and "safe." Sometimes, I'm not so bright.
Mostly b/c of her appearance, she was no longer sexually attractive to me...I didn't want it anymore. That scared and depressed me. I gave her warning after warning about losing the weight; I won't date a fat chick. Sorry, I don't care how bad that sounds. Chubby/shapely, yes, but when your GF has a bigger gut than you? That's bad.
About 6 weeks ago, after much thinking, I made the big decision. Did it and that was it. We are still friends and help each other out. I saw her yesterday, in fact. She dropped very blatant hints about us getting it on. I ignored them.
Firstly, I"m not attracted to her anymore. Secondly, it would be a bad idea that would open up old wounds that are now closed. Thirdly, she's fat. Fat.....and fat.