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*pic* GF's away-should I feel guilty hanging w/ female friend?

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Your friend is really hot, but your not even attracted to her so why should you feel guitly. If your g/f asks what have you been doing while she was gone, just tell her.
 
People who call others whipped have never been in serious, long term relationships... Compromise is necessary in every relationship..
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BZZZZZZZZZZZZZTT!....wrong answer. I dated my wife for 9 years before we got married. There's this thing called "trust" that tends to develop when in a long term relationship. If you GF cannot trust you with another girl, that speaks volumes about the relationship.
 
Originally posted by: BunLengthHotDog
People who call others whipped have never been in serious, long term relationships... Compromise is necessary in every relationship..
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BZZZZZZZZZZZZZTT!....wrong answer. I dated my wife for 9 years before we got married. There's this thing called "trust" that tends to develop when in a long term relationship. If you GF cannot trust you with another girl, that speaks volumes about the relationship.
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My husband told me to never trust a guy who just wants to be friends with a chick. He said.. It's RARE to have a plutonic relationship between a male/female because the male always wants sex.


BUT, with that said. He TRUST me to go out with my friends (some of which are guys) because he knows that I wouldnt do anything. It's the guys that he doesn't trust.
 
Originally posted by: conjur
Originally posted by: johnjohn320
Originally posted by: conjur
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
My gf is spending a few weeks in Europe and a friend of mine - a somewhat attractive female friend- has asked me to chill with her a bit during this time.. Now I'm not attracted to this friend and she is taken but should I HAVE to tell my gf that we hung out? I mean, I would hang with my male friends and don't feel the need to give her a status update and such.. But I feel like I should tell her but... Hmmm.. That makes me feel like it's something to feel guilty about.. The thing is that my gf and I go to different schools so she's never met this friend but I talk to her almost everyday on AIM and I think it's gotten my gf a little upset.. So tell, don't tell, or just don't chill... Dorky dilema, I know!
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Why has she asked you to chill with her a bit while your g/f is in Europe? Is she trying to move in on her turf and dump her own beau. Suspicious.
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Oh, give me a break. Listen, I have two close friends who dated for over 2 years, they broke up a few months ago. The female friend called me to hang out a lot, and I took her up on it nearly every time. Why? Because she's a good friend going through a hard time who needs someone to talk to and spend time with. And of course, it didn't take long for the rumors to start flying that i was moving in on her.
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Well...that's not quite the same situation now, is it? Nope...not at all.

And given what little information there was in the first post...this is a valid conjecture.
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It's not the same situation, but it's the same point. Some people seem incapable of believing that a man and woman can be friends and nothing more. And those people are sad, pathetic individuals.
 
the fact you want to hide it from your girlfriend suggests that there is other intentions.

edit: and if you hide it and she finds out, there will be hell.
 
My husband told me to never trust a guy who just wants to be friends with a chick. He said.. It's RARE to have a plutonic relationship between a male/female because the male always wants sex.
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My gf told me her father says the same thing but she doesn't buy it. I told her he's right.
The next day she said "I've been thinking about that, and I realized that all my guy friends are either guys I dated and it didn't work out but we are still friends, or guys that wanted to date me, but I didn't want to but we are still friends."
Yeeeeap.
BUT, with that said. He TRUST me to go out with my friends (some of which are guys) because he knows that I wouldnt do anything. It's the guys that he doesn't trust.
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Ed zachary. These guys might want to get shizzy with my gf. but I know where her intentions lie, so it doesn't bother me.

BTW, LTR != Whipped. I've never been in a relationship shorter than 7 months, and most have been 2-3 years. I have been in LTRs without being whipped.
 
Originally posted by: johnjohn320
Originally posted by: conjur
Originally posted by: johnjohn320
Originally posted by: conjur
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
My gf is spending a few weeks in Europe and a friend of mine - a somewhat attractive female friend- has asked me to chill with her a bit during this time.. Now I'm not attracted to this friend and she is taken but should I HAVE to tell my gf that we hung out? I mean, I would hang with my male friends and don't feel the need to give her a status update and such.. But I feel like I should tell her but... Hmmm.. That makes me feel like it's something to feel guilty about.. The thing is that my gf and I go to different schools so she's never met this friend but I talk to her almost everyday on AIM and I think it's gotten my gf a little upset.. So tell, don't tell, or just don't chill... Dorky dilema, I know!
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Why has she asked you to chill with her a bit while your g/f is in Europe? Is she trying to move in on her turf and dump her own beau. Suspicious.
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Oh, give me a break. Listen, I have two close friends who dated for over 2 years, they broke up a few months ago. The female friend called me to hang out a lot, and I took her up on it nearly every time. Why? Because she's a good friend going through a hard time who needs someone to talk to and spend time with. And of course, it didn't take long for the rumors to start flying that i was moving in on her.
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Well...that's not quite the same situation now, is it? Nope...not at all.

And given what little information there was in the first post...this is a valid conjecture.
Click to expand...

It's not the same situation, but it's the same point. Some people seem incapable of believing that a man and woman can be friends and nothing more. And those people are sad, pathetic individuals.
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Yeah, I find that my closest friends are female... But it's a common idea that men and women can't just be friends.. I don't really understand it.. Maybe it's a throw back to our genetic past as sex-driven primates..
 
I'm not going to hide it but I'm not going to say "Guess who I spent the a few days with last week!" either...

Originally posted by: eakers
the fact you want to hide it from your girlfriend suggests that there is other intentions.

edit: and if you hide it and she finds out, there will be hell.
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Originally posted by: MercenaryForHire
Originally posted by: FFMCobalt
Err... ew :disgust:
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Let me guess. You saw the pic, and your woman ordered you to type that? 😉

- M4H
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Hahaha.. I'm sure she'd be flattered if she read some of these posts.. She has a pretty low self esteem, actually.. But "care" (her nickname, don't want to use her real time) might have stereotypically good looks, but my gf's cuter!
 
Damn, whatchya waitin' for? You got a hot girl with you (she looks good in the pic) and you feel nothing?
 
Dammit.. This is bit of an update.. I've been a coward and took the middle ground - I wouldn't bring up hanging out and would accept if she asked.. Which lead me to ignoring her for a bit.. So now she's all blase about anything and sounded indifferent/ annoyed the last time we spoke.. Dammit, she's one of my best friends too.. grrr...
 
Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
Dammit.. This is bit of an update.. I've been a coward and took the middle ground - I wouldn't bring up hanging out and would accept if she asked.. Which lead me to ignoring her for a bit.. So now she's all blase about anything and sounded indifferent/ annoyed the last time we spoke.. Dammit, she's one of my best friends too.. grrr...
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just give her my number
 
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