What your engineering friend said reminds me of something I read in the math section of Childcraft. Now I need to go dig up that book to see what it said.
Edit: Ok, work with me here.
1) Static model so nothing is moving
2) No one except the last person in the line is pushing with their feet (so no force is getting pushed against the friction of the ground). Everyone except the guy in the back is standing upright or whatever.
So if the guy in the back pushing with his feet is asserting force A, the guy he's pushing on is pushing back with force A and thus had to push forward with force A, etc.... all the way to the front.
Wouldn't that cause the guy in the front to only feel force A?
If there is only a single contact with the ground, only the force that can be made without the feet slipping on the surface can be transmitted. Ultimately the final person will not feel the force A because there is a certain amount of damping that the human body absorbs, therefore its likely that they will feel nothing.
This problem is relatively easy to envision. Each person in the crowd has their feet on the floor and can exert a maximum horizontal force equal to the force of friction on their feet, given by their weight and the coefficient of friction between their soles and the ground. If each person was solid and absorbed nothing then that force would simply add up and the first person would transmit all that force. The issue is that each person is also going to instinctively counteract the rear force, therefore diminishing their forward force.
Ultimately I bet you would find in a group situation that the person in the very back exerts all their force forward, and as you move forward in the group, less and less of their friction force is exerted forward, and is rather exerted backwards to a certain extent. Eventually, depending on the bottleneck, you may find that there is a point that there is no force in the forward direction by a person, and all their force is trying to counteract backwards.
Its a rather complex problem since each persons tolerance is different. I've been in mosh crowds where people will go limp and do nothing, people will push forward and not counteract at all, or people will use all their force to counteract the rearward force.