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NikPreviousAcct

No Lifer
Aug 15, 2000
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Do you ever think about what life would have been like if you had hooked up with and stayed with your first love? Where you'd be? What you'd be doing? Where you guys would live? Basically just what life would be like in general? If you didn't end up with your first love, do you still talk to them today? Do you even know where they are?

I've been tempted to look her up and see how she's doing. The last time I talked to her was a few years ago. I took her out for dinner and a movie because her fiancee was an ass. She called him after a few days of silence after a big fight and he was helping his ex girlfriend move in to his place. :Q I felt really bad and she needed a pick-me-up. We had a blast. :) We met in 2nd grade and were best friends since. I fell in love. We've kept in very loose contact with each other since high school :-

So? Anybody?
 
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TheAudit

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May 2, 2003
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Sure, I?ve thought about looking up my ex?s, in particular, Barbara. I often wonder what could have been while I am crouched underneath her window at night.
 
MrChad

MrChad

Lifer
Aug 22, 2001
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I'm still with my first love. I guess if it doesn't work out down the road I'll let you know. :)
 
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Danman

Lifer
Nov 9, 1999
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Hah, well my first love I guess is with her new boyfriend. She cheated on me earlier this summer. I haven't spoke to her for over two months, and I think I'm gonna keep it that way. Even though I do miss her sometimes, my life is better without her.
 
Fritzo

Fritzo

Lifer
Jan 3, 2001
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Yep...I'd be living in subsidized housing taking care of several interracial childern that I had nothing to do with.

At least that what the husband of my first love is doing right now. hehehehe- glad I got what I needed and broomed her fast :D
 
nakedfrog

nakedfrog

No Lifer
Apr 3, 2001
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Yeah, I think about it. I imagine we'd be pretty happy. I taught her to play guitar; now she's making her way up the indie music chain and has released a couple albums. We were essentially perfect for each other, but then my parents kicked me out of the country :(
 
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NikPreviousAcct

No Lifer
Aug 15, 2000
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Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Yeah, I think about it. I imagine we'd be pretty happy. I taught her to play guitar; now she's making her way up the indie music chain and has released a couple albums. We were essentially perfect for each other, but then my parents kicked me out of the country :(
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wtf?
 
SacrosanctFiend

SacrosanctFiend

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Oct 2, 2004
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Yea, and I haven't completely ruled out getting back together with her either. We broke up due to the extreme distance between our colleges. I still talk to her everyday, help her out with problems, and see her during the summers. She was a wonderful girl, and, unfortunately, I compare every girl I meet to her. :beer: for her.
 
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NikPreviousAcct

No Lifer
Aug 15, 2000
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Originally posted by: SacrosanctFiend
Yea, and I haven't completely ruled out getting back together with her either. We broke up due to the extreme distance between our colleges. I still talk to her everyday, help her out with problems, and see her during the summers. She was a wonderful girl, and, unfortunately, I compare every girl I meet to her. :beer: for her.
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Bingo. My thoughts exactly.
 
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Argo

Lifer
Apr 8, 2000
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My frist love was a highschool slut. We dated for about 3 weeks. Last I heard she got married and got caught cheating on her husband. So I guess I'm kinda happy I didn't stay with her.
 
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Ogg

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Sep 5, 2003
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Originally posted by: nakedfrog
I taught her to play guitar; now she's making her way up the indie music chain and has released a couple albums.
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link to her albums??????????:D
 
IHateMyJob2004

IHateMyJob2004

Lifer
Sep 29, 2004
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Originally posted by: Nik
Do you ever think about what life would have been like if you had hooked up with and stayed with your first love? Where you'd be? What you'd be doing? Where you guys would live? Basically just what life would be like in general? If you didn't end up with your first love, do you still talk to them today? Do you even know where they are?

I've been tempted to look her up and see how she's doing. The last time I talked to her was a few years ago. I took her out for dinner and a movie because her fiancee was an ass. She called him after a few days of silence after a big fight and he was helping his ex girlfriend move in to his place. :Q I felt really bad and she needed a pick-me-up. We had a blast. :) We met in 2nd grade and were best friends since. I fell in love. We've kept in very loose contact with each other since high school :-

So? Anybody?
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Umm, you know. This is one of those things you are not supposed to do. I've thought about opportunities in the past that have slipped through my fingers more than exes. And it's simply not healthy to do. Love the one you are with and get on with your life ;)
 
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Mojoed

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Jul 20, 2004
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Interesting thread. Here is my advice for you.

I had been wanting to contact my first ex/love for a few years now. I totally screwed up and dumped her junior year in college. It took a few years for me to realize I was a complete idiot for letting her go. I tried a people search for her and came up with nothing at all. This scared me a bit as I thought she may have got married or something. Anyway, I mustered up the courage finally and called her mother and gave her my contact information. A few days later, my ex calls me and my worst fears came true. She's married now and 6.5 months pregnant. I was absolutely numb, I always thought in the back of my mind I could get her back if I just grew some balls and just called her.

Boy was I wrong. I waited too long and lost my soulmate. I could just sense in her voice that she had hoped I'd try to reconcile sooner. Too late now unfortunately.

This happened two days ago btw.

If you TRULY love her, and aren't just lonely or depressed for other reasons, go for it. Even if she rejects you, at least you will know that you tried. On the other hand if you end up reconciling, it will be a great moment you will never forget.

Call her if the reasons are right.
 
nakedfrog

nakedfrog

No Lifer
Apr 3, 2001
62,838
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Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Yeah, I think about it. I imagine we'd be pretty happy. I taught her to play guitar; now she's making her way up the indie music chain and has released a couple albums. We were essentially perfect for each other, but then my parents kicked me out of the country :(
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wtf?
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We lived in Germany at the time (Air Force) and I'd been drinking and smoking et cetera for four years or so without being caught, but then me and a buddy killed a bottle of SoCo and Aftershock... they found him passed out on the kitchen floor and me in a pool of my own vomit. I can't say I blame them, but that doesn't mean I had to like it. They sent me back to the US to live with my uncle.
 
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Ogg

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Sep 5, 2003
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Originally posted by: nakedfrog
Originally posted by: Ogg
Originally posted by: nakedfrog
I taught her to play guitar; now she's making her way up the indie music chain and has released a couple albums.
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link to her albums??????????:D
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It's mostly folky-type stuff: Text
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you did a good job......sorry bro, chin up!:beer:
 
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NikPreviousAcct

No Lifer
Aug 15, 2000
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Originally posted by: Mojoed
Interesting thread. Here is my advice for you.

I had been wanting to contact my first ex/love for a few years now. I totally screwed up and dumped her junior year in college. It took a few years for me to realize I was a complete idiot for letting her go. I tried a people search for her and came up with nothing at all. This scared me a bit as I thought she may have got married or something. Anyway, I mustered up the courage finally and called her mother and gave her my contact information. A few days later, my ex calls me and my worst fears came true. She's married now and 6.5 months pregnant. I was absolutely numb, I always thought in the back of my mind I could get her back if I just grew some balls and just called her.

Boy was I wrong. I waited too long and lost my soulmate. I could just sense in her voice that she had hoped I'd try to reconcile sooner. Too late now unfortunately.

This happened two days ago btw.

If you TRULY love her, and aren't just lonely or depressed for other reasons, go for it. Even if she rejects you, at least you will know that you tried. On the other hand if you end up reconciling, it will be a great moment you will never forget.

Call her if the reasons are right.
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Great advice. I'm not sure if it's just being lonely, but I'm not depressed anymore. I'm over the slut. But it's that unsure feeling that is making me hesitate. I'm not sure if --well, hell. Friends is a good thing.
 
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Hyperblaze

Lifer
May 31, 2001
10,027
1
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Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: Mojoed
Interesting thread. Here is my advice for you.

I had been wanting to contact my first ex/love for a few years now. I totally screwed up and dumped her junior year in college. It took a few years for me to realize I was a complete idiot for letting her go. I tried a people search for her and came up with nothing at all. This scared me a bit as I thought she may have got married or something. Anyway, I mustered up the courage finally and called her mother and gave her my contact information. A few days later, my ex calls me and my worst fears came true. She's married now and 6.5 months pregnant. I was absolutely numb, I always thought in the back of my mind I could get her back if I just grew some balls and just called her.

Boy was I wrong. I waited too long and lost my soulmate. I could just sense in her voice that she had hoped I'd try to reconcile sooner. Too late now unfortunately.

This happened two days ago btw.

If you TRULY love her, and aren't just lonely or depressed for other reasons, go for it. Even if she rejects you, at least you will know that you tried. On the other hand if you end up reconciling, it will be a great moment you will never forget.

Call her if the reasons are right.
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Great advice. I'm not sure if it's just being lonely, but I'm not depressed anymore. I'm over the slut. But it's that unsure feeling that is making me hesitate. I'm not sure if --well, hell. Friends is a good thing.
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how long did it take you to get over her?

 
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NikPreviousAcct

No Lifer
Aug 15, 2000
52,763
1
0
Originally posted by: Jero
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: Mojoed
Interesting thread. Here is my advice for you.

I had been wanting to contact my first ex/love for a few years now. I totally screwed up and dumped her junior year in college. It took a few years for me to realize I was a complete idiot for letting her go. I tried a people search for her and came up with nothing at all. This scared me a bit as I thought she may have got married or something. Anyway, I mustered up the courage finally and called her mother and gave her my contact information. A few days later, my ex calls me and my worst fears came true. She's married now and 6.5 months pregnant. I was absolutely numb, I always thought in the back of my mind I could get her back if I just grew some balls and just called her.

Boy was I wrong. I waited too long and lost my soulmate. I could just sense in her voice that she had hoped I'd try to reconcile sooner. Too late now unfortunately.

This happened two days ago btw.

If you TRULY love her, and aren't just lonely or depressed for other reasons, go for it. Even if she rejects you, at least you will know that you tried. On the other hand if you end up reconciling, it will be a great moment you will never forget.

Call her if the reasons are right.
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Great advice. I'm not sure if it's just being lonely, but I'm not depressed anymore. I'm over the slut. But it's that unsure feeling that is making me hesitate. I'm not sure if --well, hell. Friends is a good thing.
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how long did it take you to get over her?
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8 months? I've been getting some counceling (sp?). It wasn't really her that I was depressed about. And those issues are fixed. :)
 
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