Paying for your date?

[JonTheBaller]

If you go out on a date with a girl, do you pay her, or do you expect her to pay for some/all of her expenses? Does it matter what # date it is, or what the expenses are for? I'm wondering because I took this girl out last weekend to a sushi bar and then dancing, I dropped about $60 on the night (cost for both of us). Tonight I'm taking her out on a 2nd date to dinner and movies. I asked her if she wants to grab dinner and a movie, I didn't phrase it as "can I take you out?", so should I let her pay for her part? Do girls these days even care/appreciate if the guy pays? I don't mind paying, and I guess it is the gentlemanly thing to do, but making an issue out of money always makes things a little weird, not to mention I also wouldn't mind NOT paying for her . Also, she is 2 years older than me, out of college, and working, while I'm still in college and don't have a job (besides a little profit I can make off selling things on eBay ). Gimme some advice guys and gals!

 

[EyeMWing]

"Do you pay her"

LOL. Bad phrasing.

No, you toolbag. Pay for the female.

 

[ohtwell]

I think I'd rather pay for my meal and you pay for your's. I'm weird though.


: ) Amanda

 

[HomeBrewerDude]

hahah yes. I pay her directly. Before the fun starts. :beer:

 

[Yossarian]

pay for her until either she offers to pay, or you become certain that you ain't gettin' any.

 

[Red Dawn]

If you ask her out you pay. Asking her if she wants to grab a bite to eat and catch a movie is asking her out. BTW your handle "Johnnytightlips" seems approriate

 

[Ynog]

All depends on the situation. When it comes to dates, If she wants to pay, she will tell you.
Just assume you are paying. And if she doesn't want to pay your covered, and if she does
then hey you save money. But from my experience most girls espeically when being taken
on a date with a guy would prefer them to pay.

I know many girls that can go to a bar with NO money and come home drunk.

 

[Skyclad1uhm1]

Originally posted by: ohtwell
I think I'd rather pay for my meal and you pay for your's. I'm weird though.


: ) Amanda

What's new... We all knew that already

 

[JonTheBaller]

Haha I might have come off as a little clueless in my first post. It's not that, I was just wondering what proper etiquette in different situations are. For example, last time she offered to pay at the restaurant but I told her that I'm gonna pay. If she offered to pay again tonight, I'd still pay her.

 

[dxkj]

Umm, if she doesnt offer, don't ask.


Accepting her offer is low class enough, but asking her to pay is like asking her to never go out with you again.


If you are on a real date, you pay, unless she insists otherwise.

 

[nativesunshine]

Originally posted by: PipBoy
pay for her until either she offers to pay, or you become certain that you ain't gettin' any.

yea..and as soon as you start getting any....you stop paying all together. She'll really appreciate that.

 

[JonTheBaller]

Originally posted by: dxkj
Umm, if she doesnt offer, don't ask.


Accepting her offer is low class enough, but asking her to pay is like asking her to never go out with you again.


If you are on a real date, you pay, unless she insists otherwise.

... I always pay for my date even if she insists, I simply asked to see if this was the proper thing to do.

 

[Spooner]

I think you continue to pay until things are comfortable enough where you feel cool with her grabbing the tab, or at least half, some of the time

there's no set rule

 

[Red Dawn]

Originally posted by: johnnytightlips

Originally posted by: dxkj
Umm, if she doesnt offer, don't ask.


Accepting her offer is low class enough, but asking her to pay is like asking her to never go out with you again.


If you are on a real date, you pay, unless she insists otherwise.

... I always pay for my date even if she insists, I simply asked to see if this was the proper thing to do.

If she wants to pay for dinner tell her you 'll civer it and she can pay for the movie. Of course maybe she is offering to pay to make it seem more like an outing among friends and not an actual date.

 

[Kenny]

What I usually do is pay for everything, but if she offers to pay at the spot or later on in the night, then I let her. Some girls just don't like taking advantage of guys for their money. All really depends on the girl.

 

[Regs]

Running up the escort company's tab eh?

If she wants to pay for some so it will make her feel better, then let her. Or else she'll feel guilty. But always ask for the bill and always make sure you be the first one to look at it!

 

[JonTheBaller]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

Originally posted by: johnnytightlips

Originally posted by: dxkj
Umm, if she doesnt offer, don't ask.


Accepting her offer is low class enough, but asking her to pay is like asking her to never go out with you again.


If you are on a real date, you pay, unless she insists otherwise.

... I always pay for my date even if she insists, I simply asked to see if this was the proper thing to do.

If she wants to pay for dinner tell her you 'll civer it and she can pay for the movie. Of course maybe she is offering to pay to make it seem more like an outing among friends and not an actual date.

What does her offering to pay have anything to do with whether its a "date" or not. If I take a girl out I expect her to at least make an offer/reach for her purse/etc. Otherwise she comes off as a gold-diggin b!tch.

Naw she's definitely interested in me, I can tell from little things. Like it was raining and I was holding an umbrella and she put her arm around mine to get close. But what do I know...

 

[guyver01]

She always demands payment upfront, and in cash before our 'date'

 

[TwinkleToes77]

I think its WRONG if she is expecting you to pay for everything. When i was still in the dating scene I always offered to pay my way. Never had to.. But atleast I offered.

 

[Buzzman151]

twinkle is quite right.

I think you should pay for her for the first several weeks but then she should start paying every so often after that. Its a good thing that she's offering to pay and you should let her when she offers. Some people get really offended when you buy them everything all the time.

Just b/c she has tits doesn't mean the woman should get a free ride.

 

[dirtboy]

On the first date I may pay for a drink, but that's it. I prefer to meet women at a coffee shop or something like that in order to minimize my exposure to having to spend money on them.

If we see each other again, I prefer and expect them to pay their own way. That way there are no expectations and neither party feels like they are taking advantage of the other. If the woman insists that I pay, I will once, and probably not see her again.

 

[Dacalo]

In all of my dates, I have never let my date pay.

 

[00Jones]

Originally posted by: PipBoy
pay for her until either she offers to pay, or you become certain that you ain't gettin' any.

lol

 

[EMPshockwave82]

if i ask her to go on the date i pay.. if she asks me to go on the date i attempt to pay but usually get shot down and i'm fine with that

 

[jdogg]

Originally posted by: dxkj
Umm, if she doesnt offer, don't ask.


Accepting her offer is low class enough, but asking her to pay is like asking her to never go out with you again.


If you are on a real date, you pay, unless she insists otherwise.

you are a putz ... low class??? ... ok, if that is low class then it is low class for a women to expect to be payed as much as a man to do the same work ... it is low class for a women to be allowed to vote ... it is low class for a women to have equal rights PERIOD. I myself ALWAYS throw in a "so where are you taking me out" on either the first or second date (depending on how attractive the girl is). If a girl is unwilling to spend a couple bucks on dinner for me, then obviously she's just some wh0re trying to score a free meal. Take away the social issue of women being treated as superiors to men (why should they get free things all the time when they are awarded all the same rights as men???), its an EXCELLENT test to see just how interested a woman is in you.