OK, I've tried setting the FSB with jumpers (yes I set it for jumper mode), I've tried using the other dimm slot, using the DDR from my other system (which I know works) taking everything out but the vid card and memory, I've checked to make sure that I didn't have a rogue stand off causing trouble, I've cleared the cmos, everything I can think of, OH and I never got to a point of changing the FSB, it was running at 100 the whole time, and I've had no USB devices plugged in.
The one thing I didn't say in my first post was that the one time I got into the bios was after I got a checksum error and the bios was set to default.
Other that that, all I can get is the slowly flashing vid card info check, it runs, then fades out, then runs again, I think the board must be bad.