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villan

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I neglected my girlfriend for months, spent all my time on the computer while she was on the couch. Never gave an inch in an arguement - I was a bad boyfriend.
Her blog 2 months ago:

"i don't know what to do anymore. our relationship isn't working anymore. i can't apologize anymore. i can't let go of the things that are nagging at me. i don't feel loved. i don't feel wanted. when i'm over at his house i feel like a nuisance, a burden. like someone who just wants to take him away from his work. i have to beg for attention. the passion has dwindled. he's sarcastic and mean. i feel so needy, and i feel like i have become that whiny, bitchy girlfriend. and i f*cking hate it. i just don't know what to do. i love him, and i know he loves me, even though he has a funny way of showing it. i don't want to break up. but i also don't want to continue to be neglected and feel this way.

i'm going home this weekend in hopes that some space will do more good than harm. he can work on his f*cking computer without me bothering him. he doesn't have to worry about 'wasting his time paying attention to me'"

Then she cheated on me. The girl I love. Ironically my years of sl*tty "bad girls" never produced a situation like this, and now I face it from a girl that "doesnt do things like that". I am shocked.. Good home, good grades, great future.. I thought I had really struck gold with her.

She says it was a mistake. The sex doesnt hurt, but the emotions f*cking do. I've been rejected by the girl I love, she wanted someone else - someone to talk to, someone to hold her..

It took me an hour to take her back, I feel so dead. I used to enjoy my "f*ck it" attitude, now I'm scared to speak. I touch her every second I can, we hug and cry, she says its going to be alright, it still hurts. All of my control has been subverted, this is she must have felt for 8 months.. She fell asleep early tonight, present but invisible. My mind wanders- "there is too much poison in our love" but I still will hold on.
 
Well someone has to say it, seems like you are at least partially at fault. Treat someone like crap, it tends to come back to you at some point. Not saying what she did is justified, but perhaps it wouldn't have happened if you had done things differently. Oh and...


Ok
 
Also: FreeBSD, OpenBSD, and OS X are not distributions. 😛

I guess the original post is a warning to pay attention to the chick standing beside the computer, and not just to the donkey show on the screen.
 
If you don't twiddle your GF, someone else will. She actively sought out Alternate Sausage Stuffing. Dump the bitch.

Living together has it's ups and down. For us guys, the ups is the sex. The downs is having her STAY in the house with you after the sex is over.

Women are jealous little creatures; 99% of all women hate the fact that you like to tinker with your computers, or make yet another speaker stand for your HT, or work on your car in the garage. The reason is b/c you doing all that takes away time that you "should" be spending with her. Needy, needy, clingy, clingy, gimme, gimme. :roll:

Women are like cats, except only worse; they TALK.
 
Originally posted by: rsd
Well someone has to say it, seems like you are at least partially at fault. Treat someone like crap, it tends to come back to you at some point. Not saying what she did is justified, but perhaps it wouldn't have happened if you had done things differently. Oh and...


Ok
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Seems like it.
 
Originally posted by: MichaelD
If you don't twiddle your GF, someone else will. She actively sought out Alternate Sausage Stuffing. Dump the bitch.

Living together has it's ups and down. For us guys, the ups is the sex. The downs is having her STAY in the house with you after the sex is over.

Women are jealous little creatures; 99% of all women hate the fact that you like to tinker with your computers, or make yet another speaker stand for your HT, or work on your car in the garage. The reason is b/c you doing all that takes away time that you "should" be spending with her. Needy, needy, clingy, clingy, gimme, gimme. :roll:

Women are like cats, except only worse; they TALK.
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OK 😛
 
Berkeley Software Distribution (BSD) is the name of the UNIX derivative distributed in the 1970s from the University of California, Berkeley. The name is also used collectively for the modern descendants of these distributions.

yeah, sht sucks. im working through it but how do you trust someone after this? im not mad, i accept my faults and dont blame her.
 
Dude you should think about keeping her. But you should seriously pay a lot more attention to her because I would kill to have that kind of affection with a girl right now. I like to cuddle, hehe
 
as do i, i love everything about her.. and i am keeping her. i just dont know if shes going to stay. its such a mess, i really feel dead. i didnt MEAN to neglect her, i just get obsessed.. its the way ive always been :

http://jukashi.com/room
 
Originally posted by: villan
Berkeley Software Distribution (BSD) is the name of the UNIX derivative distributed in the 1970s from the University of California, Berkeley. The name is also used collectively for the modern descendants of these distributions.
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They've moved beyond distributions. 😉

yeah, sht sucks. im working through it but how do you trust someone after this? im not mad, i accept my faults and dont blame her.
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It's going to take time to get back any trust. Go slow, be patient. Back away from the monitor. 😉
 
Also don't you think it is a bad sign that you had to read her BLOG to get an insight into what she is feeling/ thinking?

You screwed up, change if you value each other, otherwise move on.
 
if you had struck gold with her, you would have paid attention to her. or at least made her feel semi non neglected the three seconds you'd turn away from the computer.

she felt alone, and you weren't helping. she wanted someone that paid attention to her, not someone who paid more attention to their online world. she existed, the things on the other side of the computer exist in a vast cyberspace continuum.

i don't know who's lucky in this relationship. i hope that you both learn something from this.
 
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