Online Personals?

[dirtboy]

Met my ex-gf through Yahoo personals.
Met my gf through match.com.

 

[Don Vito Corleone]

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
I just ran across a chick working on her doctorate, she's pretty cute.

How the hell do you get them to meet you?

I haven't dated for 10 years or so, and I wasn't very good at it back then... I haven't had a 1st date that didn't involve sex for ~15 years...

The longer I used the online personals, the quicker I made plans to meet. Initially I'd trade e-mails for a week or two first, but eventually that just felt like a waste of time. Just propose a meeting. Some people prefer lunch or coffee dates, but that's not for me. I'd say 70% of my online personals first dates DID involve sex, and at least half of the ones that didn't I was not attracted to. Obviously YMMV.

 

[bozack]

One of my buddies tried Yahoo personals a bit and struck out every time....then again he is somewhat of a prick...

Last girl he dated from there was pretty bad though, he sent me a pick and I nearly fell out of my chair...my wife smacked me for being insensitive...that was until she saw the pic ...and I am a self admitted ugly bastard so I am not one to judge...but dayumn.

I might let him know about match.com and the eazy girls...sounds like his speed (in college he was called the predator because he would stalk the drunk girls after the parties)...

 

[OutHouse]

Originally posted by: DonVito
I used online personals quite a bit at one time (I was living in a city in which I knew nobody). In my experience it's a good way to get laid, but not a good way to establish a relationship, since most of the women I met were pretty damaged in one way or another (some were floridly mentally ill, in fact). That said, I found it a pretty fun way to kill time, and I had some truly wild sexual exploits thanks to matchmaker.com and match.com.

are you sure that wasnt adult.friendfinder??

 

[StageLeft]

*bows to Don, the new AT-pimp* :thumbsup:

 

[gigapet]

rule #1 always get an updated full body shot before meeting them. Do not accept head shots, partial shots or wierd angles.......this will only bite you in the ass.

Rule #2 Go from email to IM to phone as quickly as possible.

Rule #3 If they give you a hard time about giving you a picture or talking to you on the phone run far far away.

Rule #4 Be original. She gets 50 emails a day from pathetic average joes so BE UNIQUE BE DIFFERENT AND DONT BE BORING

Rule #5 To save yourself time and money the first meeting should be at starbucks or something for a coffee. Casual with no pressure.

that is all good luck.

 

[Don Vito Corleone]

Originally posted by: gigapet
rule #1 always get an updated full body shot before meeting them. Do not accept head shots, partial shots or wierd angles.......this will only bite you in the ass.

Rule #2 Go from email to IM to phone as quickly as possible.

Rule #3 If they give you a hard time about giving you a picture or talking to you on the phone run far far away.

Rule #4 Be original. She gets 50 emails a day from pathetic average joes so BE UNIQUE BE DIFFERENT AND DONT BE BORING

Rule #5 To save yourself time and money the first meeting should be at starbucks or something for a coffee. Casual with no pressure.

that is all good luck.

#1 - Agreed. I actually had one girl send what I believe was an electronically stretched picture (supposedly they did this on Drew Barrymore for the Charlie's Angels promo materials, so she wouldn't look fat compared to the skinnier Lucy Liu and Cameron Diaz). She showed up and had a pretty face on a rhino's body. Ask for multiple pics.

#2 - Agreed, but I'd skip the IM in general. It can be misleading, and allows a whole lotta wasted time.

#3 - Agreed, but this happens only seldom

#4 - Agreed, but I think it's more important to be yourself. It helps if you're a skilled writer, though.

#5 - I completely disagree. Again, in my experience most of these women are wacky in various ways, and the coffee-shop date denies you the opportunity for quick sexual fun. Consider happy hour instead.

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: DonVito

Originally posted by: gigapet
rule #1 always get an updated full body shot before meeting them. Do not accept head shots, partial shots or wierd angles.......this will only bite you in the ass.

Rule #2 Go from email to IM to phone as quickly as possible.

Rule #3 If they give you a hard time about giving you a picture or talking to you on the phone run far far away.

Rule #4 Be original. She gets 50 emails a day from pathetic average joes so BE UNIQUE BE DIFFERENT AND DONT BE BORING

Rule #5 To save yourself time and money the first meeting should be at starbucks or something for a coffee. Casual with no pressure.

that is all good luck.

#1 - Agreed. I actually had one girl send what I believe was an electronically stretched picture (supposedly they did this on Drew Barrymore for the Charlie's Angels promo materials, so she wouldn't look fat compared to the skinnier Lucy Liu and Cameron Diaz). She showed up and had a pretty face on a rhino's body. Ask for multiple pics.

#2 - Agreed, but I'd skip the IM in general. It can be misleading, and allows a whole lotta wasted time.

#3 - Agreed, but this happens only seldom

#4 - Agreed, but I think it's more important to be yourself. It helps if you're a skilled writer, though.

#5 - I completely disagree. Again, in my experience most of these women are wacky in various ways, and the coffee-shop date denies you the opportunity for quick sexual fun. Consider happy hour instead.

Regarding #5 - I was not making any assumptions on age or living arrangements. Some people still live with there parents and soem ppl are not 21 yet so coffee is a safe bet. But yes I do think meeting for a drink can deffinitely be good for a quick bang bang bang

 

[RagingBITCH]

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: DonVito

Originally posted by: gigapet
rule #1 always get an updated full body shot before meeting them. Do not accept head shots, partial shots or wierd angles.......this will only bite you in the ass.

Rule #2 Go from email to IM to phone as quickly as possible.

Rule #3 If they give you a hard time about giving you a picture or talking to you on the phone run far far away.

Rule #4 Be original. She gets 50 emails a day from pathetic average joes so BE UNIQUE BE DIFFERENT AND DONT BE BORING

Rule #5 To save yourself time and money the first meeting should be at starbucks or something for a coffee. Casual with no pressure.

that is all good luck.

#1 - Agreed. I actually had one girl send what I believe was an electronically stretched picture (supposedly they did this on Drew Barrymore for the Charlie's Angels promo materials, so she wouldn't look fat compared to the skinnier Lucy Liu and Cameron Diaz). She showed up and had a pretty face on a rhino's body. Ask for multiple pics.

#2 - Agreed, but I'd skip the IM in general. It can be misleading, and allows a whole lotta wasted time.

#3 - Agreed, but this happens only seldom

#4 - Agreed, but I think it's more important to be yourself. It helps if you're a skilled writer, though.

#5 - I completely disagree. Again, in my experience most of these women are wacky in various ways, and the coffee-shop date denies you the opportunity for quick sexual fun. Consider happy hour instead.

Regarding #5 - I was not making any assumptions on age or living arrangements. Some people still live with there parents and soem ppl are not 21 yet so coffee is a safe bet. But yes I do think meeting for a drink can deffinitely be good for a quick bang bang bang

That's how I scored you :heart:

 

[Attrox]

Originally posted by: spidey07
well I'm almost a 34 year old professional so it can be hard to meet good people.

Match.com = good for getting laid.

eHarmony = found a women with great values, professional, good head on her shoulders and we are in love.

:Q
Sign me up now!

 

[PingSpike]

I met my wife to be on match.com, although I don't particularly like that website. The pickings were pretty slim back when I tried, since I live in a pretty low population area. However, my friend has been checking them out lately and it seems there are many more women on there, most of them actually have pictures up now. That was not the case back when I looked. He seemed to be a sort of picky ass the other night when we were browsing through them, he put down a lot of vetos, even on the girls that weren't hefers. I think he has surpassed my level of bitterness with the overall female populations standard mode of operation in dating, and taken it to all new levels.

Its been awhile since I tried them of course, but a lot of the women I talked to ended up being fat or having kids that they somehow forgot to mention in the ad. I think I only ever actually met one woman besides my fiance off there, and although we shared many of my interests...her outlook on life was childish and selfish and I was pretty turned off. That was the first time I ever said "I'll call you" and then didn't do it.

But I'm no pimp like Don Vito. I was actually looking for a woman for a relationship as well, not a booty call.

Last time I checked, match.com had swallowed up all the free services...has that changed?

 

[JulesMaximus]

"Fat hairy dorky looking dude seeks plump female, preferably human, for possible mating ritual. Enjoys gold chains, standing naked infront of a mirror and posting pictures of himself on the intarweb."

 

[Elbryn]

i must have gotten lucky then. first one i contacted off yahoo turned into my current gf.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Any of you-all done the online personals?

Do you have any suggestions, experiences etc?

I'd suggest letting the ink dry on your divorce papers first and spending the bulk of your non-working time with your child who has now lost not one mother but 2.

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Any of you-all done the online personals?

Do you have any suggestions, experiences etc?

I'd suggest letting the ink dry on your divorce papers first and spending the bulk of your non-working time with your child who has now lost not one mother but 2.

or you could just MYOB

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Any of you-all done the online personals?

Do you have any suggestions, experiences etc?

I'd suggest letting the ink dry on your divorce papers first and spending the bulk of your non-working time with your child who has now lost not one mother but 2.

or you could just MYOB

The question was asked and since the OP has nothing but denouncements for those divorced parents who don't put their kids interests first I thought I'd remind him of this.

Btw,if it were a not yet offically divorced woman posting here asking this question you guys would crucify her.

 

[gigapet]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Any of you-all done the online personals?

Do you have any suggestions, experiences etc?

I'd suggest letting the ink dry on your divorce papers first and spending the bulk of your non-working time with your child who has now lost not one mother but 2.

or you could just MYOB

The question was asked and since the OP has nothing but denouncements for those divorced parents who don't put their kids interests first I thought I'd remind him of this.

Btw,if it were a not yet offically divorced woman posting here asking this question you guys would crucify her.

yeah cuz she just got 50% and is looking to score again.

 

[bozack]

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: gigapet

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Any of you-all done the online personals?

Do you have any suggestions, experiences etc?

I'd suggest letting the ink dry on your divorce papers first and spending the bulk of your non-working time with your child who has now lost not one mother but 2.

or you could just MYOB

The question was asked and since the OP has nothing but denouncements for those divorced parents who don't put their kids interests first I thought I'd remind him of this.

Btw,if it were a not yet offically divorced woman posting here asking this question you guys would crucify her.

yeah cuz she just got 50% and is looking to score again.

gotta have the cake....

 

[Pliablemoose]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Any of you-all done the online personals?

Do you have any suggestions, experiences etc?

I'd suggest letting the ink dry on your divorce papers first and spending the bulk of your non-working time with your child who has now lost not one mother but 2.

GB, I have had mutual friends talking with wife, they're telling me she says a reconciliation will never happen, and she's saying this to them not knwoing it's coming back to me on the same day.

We've phsyically seperated for a month, she's signed a lease on an apt for a year, we've legally seperated with the blessing of a lawyer (with a notarized agreement covering every aspect of our seperation). She's spending the $ I had earmarked for braces for oldest kid getting her apt furnished. It's unlikely we'll ever reconcile, much less, her behaviors are such that I will likely never take her back. I still care for her & minutes ago, just offered to haul her a dining room table & chairs from the store to her apt... Our relationship has fundamentally changed forever as a result of her moving out, we're like brother & sister now...

I'm not happy with the situation at all, but don't see that it will change, plus I don't want to model the kind of behaviors it would take for a reconciliation for my daughter-"Yeah kid, what you do when the going gets tough is to ambush your spouse & just leave, make long term financial commitments, refuse counselling, ignore what your friends and family recommend, ignore the vows you made, bail on a child that's called you mom for nearly 10 years, and just do your own narcissistic crap, cuz you're the one that really matters, no one else matters but you & your feelings."

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Any of you-all done the online personals?

Do you have any suggestions, experiences etc?

I'd suggest letting the ink dry on your divorce papers first and spending the bulk of your non-working time with your child who has now lost not one mother but 2.

GB, I have had mutual friends talking with wife, they're telling me she says a reconciliation will never happen, and she's saying this to them not knwoing it's coming back to me on the same day.

We've phsyically seperated for a month, she's signed a lease on an apt for a year, we've legally seperated with the blessing of a lawyer (with a notarized agreement covering every aspect of our seperation). She's spending the $ I had earmarked for braces for oldest kid getting her apt furnished. It's unlikely we'll ever reconcile, much less, her behaviors are such that I will likely never take her back. I still care for her & minutes ago, just offered to haul her a dining room table & chairs from the store to her apt... Our relationship has fundamentally changed forever as a result of her moving out, we're like brother & sister now...

My concern is more for your girl, she's what 15, 16 at most ? She's had 2 women who promised to love and mother her bail on her, that has to have a horrible impact on a kid and who knows what messages she internalizing from these rejections. Now's the time to draw the wagons close at the home fire, trust me,it'll be better for her and better for you down the road.

 

[Pliablemoose]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Any of you-all done the online personals?

Do you have any suggestions, experiences etc?

I'd suggest letting the ink dry on your divorce papers first and spending the bulk of your non-working time with your child who has now lost not one mother but 2.

GB, I have had mutual friends talking with wife, they're telling me she says a reconciliation will never happen, and she's saying this to them not knwoing it's coming back to me on the same day.

We've phsyically seperated for a month, she's signed a lease on an apt for a year, we've legally seperated with the blessing of a lawyer (with a notarized agreement covering every aspect of our seperation). She's spending the $ I had earmarked for braces for oldest kid getting her apt furnished. It's unlikely we'll ever reconcile, much less, her behaviors are such that I will likely never take her back. I still care for her & minutes ago, just offered to haul her a dining room table & chairs from the store to her apt... Our relationship has fundamentally changed forever as a result of her moving out, we're like brother & sister now...

My concern is more for your girl, she's what 15, 16 at most ? She's had 2 women who promised to love and mother her bail on her, that has to have a horrible impact on a kid and who knows what messages she internalizing from these rejections. Now's the time to draw the wagons close at the home fire, trust me,it'll be better for her and better for you down the road.

GB, It's doubtful I'll ever remarry, I'm just looking to take a night off & get laid, it's been a while now. Daughter is well taken care of & frankly she prob needs a night off from me... I feel like Walter Mondale after he lost his presidential bid, howling at the moon in Northern Minnesota in the woods in the middle of the night...

Awesome advice, thanks don vito, gigapet, pingspike, etc. And the PM's are helpful too

 

[deejayshakur]

45 posts and no PICS??

after reading about all the psycho's out there i'm glad i found my gf the old-fashioned way: through mutual friends.

 

[Pliablemoose]

Originally posted by: deejayshakur
45 posts and no PICS??

after reading about all the psycho's out there i'm glad i found my gf the old-fashioned way: through mutual friends.

I've done that a couple of times in the past & it's never worked out, I keep ending up with fat chicks.

 

[deejayshakur]

craigslist?

no experience myself though...

 

Originally posted by: Pliablemoose
Any of you-all done the online personals?

Do you have any suggestions, experiences etc?

When, oh when, will people learn their lessons not to jump...? [Shaking head:] I cannot understand guys....

I'm sorry, but I have no experience with onine personals. If I were to consider any of the popular sites in search of something serious, it would be eharmony.com.