one girl isn't worth getting sh!tfaced over at work

[ChefJoe]

Ack, the dreaded "I've got a boyfriend/fiancee" revelation followed by statements of "All [the s.o.'s sex] are jerks/b*tches" statement. I've not yet been able to decrypt the meaning of it.

Last girl this happened with I took it as meaning "yes, I've made commitments to this other relationship, even though we've obviously got some chemistry together - amuse me by either prooving you're a jerk/b*tch or captivate me further by prooving you're not".

 

[kherman]

Everything that is happening is both your faults.

first attempt at a kiss was brushed off as it should have been. You should have stopped at the words, "I have a bf." Accept it, be friends and move on. Don't ever, knowingly, go after another guys woman. It's just not right and is doomed for failure. The second kiss is both of your faults. You shouldn't have attempted it and she shouldn't have accepted it. You should state this and just say you accept it and be friends. Try to get it back to the point in your relationship at which you never attempted that second kiss.

As for the motorocycle rides. Ever think she jsut wanted to go for a ride on a motorcycle and that she went for fun.... as a friend? Should have asked her if she ever wants to do dinner and a movie instead of trying to "close the deal". No one would have gotten hurt that way. I guess that's hind-sight though (20/20).

She's hot right. Even if she's taken, remember: "Birds of a feather, flock together." Become good friends with her and meet her HOT friends.

Well, I'm engaged now and it took about... hrmm 2 weeks of dating to get the first kiss if memmory serves correct. Being pusshy scares women off sometimes.

I may have come off sounding like a jerk, but please view it as constructive criticism. I don't mean to anger you, I just hope that you learn from this.

 

[Sepen]

Originally posted by: Rallispec
its never worth it

Amen.

 

[Red Dawn]

Anne

Red Dawn, considering your insane post count your hardly in any position to call someone a nerd or a geek.

I walk amongst them daily though I'm immune to them. It's easy to tell me apart as I have clear skin and wear deoderant (you ought to try some Anne)

 

[OneOfTheseDays]

cmon Red Dawn, that retort was hardly worthy of posting. I was expecting more from you.......

 

[Red Dawn]

cmon Red Dawn, that retort was hardly worthy of posting.

Well your original comment was hardly worth retorting You get what you pay for!

I was expecting more from you.......

I, on the other hand, fully expected your reply. In fact it was one of your better posts

 

[Shelly21]

Why her? I don't think you want someone who would kiss another guy while in a relationship. She might do the same thing again and again.

 

[thomsbrain]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn

cmon Red Dawn, that retort was hardly worthy of posting.

Well your original comment was hardly worth retorting You get what you pay for!

I was expecting more from you.......

I, on the other hand, fully expected your reply. In fact it was one of your better posts

now now, play nice, you two.

 

[Parrotheader]

Originally posted by: Shelly21
Why her? I don't think you want someone who would kiss another guy while in a relationship. She might do the same thing again and again.

Amen. I was thinking the same thing. Granted, this isn't a happy fuzzy world when it comes to what's considered an ideal relationship anymore. And if you're both only 20-21 that's still a time when people tend do a lot more shopping around. But most of the people I know who "cheat" (although I honestly have no idea how serious she was with her other bf) are usually prone to cheat again. I know that seems a little judgemental, but you'd only be acting to in a rational manner to protect yourself to realize that. It's the same reason banks won't grant loans to someone who's had repeated credit problems. They might very well have seen the light and would no longer be run up bills they can't pay. But because of their past actions you'd have to be a little suspect, maybe even to the point of not associating yourself with them.

So in a nutshell yeah, it's not worth it.

 

[alrocky]

I like what kherman said. I don't know why you took offense to her ranting about "all men..." Wasn't she just venting and it wasn't specifically directed to you was it? (Sitting next to you is a good thing.) I don't know if you should've told her to "eff it" and walked out. Yeah, she was upset and exaggerating about "all men..." You could've asked her if she felt you fell in that category or if she felt you had a hand in her current problem and if so you could've apologized. In any event it sounded like she was free for the time period her bf was hangingout out with his granny.