On campus housing situation

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: freesia39
usually the first week of the semester aren't the clubs swarming like crazy?

join a service club - you get to do a little good and meet lots of people. it doesn't matter if that's not your interest, make it a point to go to club meetings and to go to the events. or else take up an IM sport...

or heck, you go to a private christian school, join bible study...

So the idea is.... make yourself go to something that you dont like. Just so that you can meet people.

 

[bleeb]

Time to move out of your comfort zone.

 

[Elbryn]

Originally posted by: skywalker66

Originally posted by: freesia39
usually the first week of the semester aren't the clubs swarming like crazy?

join a service club - you get to do a little good and meet lots of people. it doesn't matter if that's not your interest, make it a point to go to club meetings and to go to the events. or else take up an IM sport...

or heck, you go to a private christian school, join bible study...

So the idea is.... make yourself go to something that you dont like. Just so that you can meet people.

if the idea of going to clubs or whatever is making you uncomfortable perhaps you need to look at a change of venue. what exactly was it that made you decide to go to a small private christian school? you can kinda tell what the social structure was going to be like before going there.

 

[EvilYoda]

It doesn't sound like you even want to try since you don't seem to relish the idea of being socially active and having friends, so why did you bother getting the townhouse in the first place? I don't get it...you're asking for opinions, but you really have only 2: Move out, or stay and hopefully make friends...but you seem to be against going out and knowing people, so what do you really have to consider here?

If the idea of living on your own and not having people to talk to IN PERSON is fine, then go ahead...we'll be here.

 

[lancestorm]

You are not following the addage of "Do something everyday that scares you." Dude, listen to what people have been telling you, well for the most part. You don't have to drink, you don't have to smoke...I didn't. I was just as shy. But college did something for me. I realized then that everyone was in the same boat and needed to get out and meet people. I didn't care and let myself be myself. Screw it if 90% of the people don't fit with you or are just casual friends, keep poking away. Eventually you will find at least a few people that you can hang out with on a regular basis because you like each other.

Also, stop obsessing about the GF thing. Get friends first. Friends are who are going to be there for you when that GF kicks you to the curb. Find your second family (your friends) and get out there. You have a life to live.

 

[nageov3t]

join clubs, invite some people from a class to a post-class lunch or dinner, and get to know your roommates.

if you can't take the initiative, quit yer' bitchin' and get ready for a lonely life.

 

[robphelan]

i agree.. you need to make it happen.. i remember my first year in college.. I met like 4 people.

I told myself it wasn't going to happen again.

Sophomore year I joined the campus activity board and wound up President of the Entertainment Committee.. i got to bring in comedians, bands, magic shows, stuff like that... i met TONS of people that way.

and one of the girls that worked on the committee with me was dating a guy in a frat. She told him I'd be a good candidate - they actually approached me about joining. I did and that was great.

I had a lot of fun, met a ton of people (esp girls) and really came out of my 'shell'.

so do something about it yourself. don't wait for an opportunity to fall in your lap.

good luck.

 

[HardcoreRobot]

stay in the house. since you refuse to join any other type of organization, this is as close to a social environment as you are going to get.

any social boundaries (aside from being ugly) are self-imposed. you just have to decide if making friends is worth the discomfort of doing things you arent used to doing. if you think its not worth the discomfort, dont complain about not having a social and enjoy the benefits of solitude.

 

[Bryophyte]

I'm starting to see a bigger picture
I'm beginning to colour it in

My soul the sky, my heart a sun
My mind a world - my only one
My thoughts the people, the world around
My dreams the Kings - or the clowns

I'm starting to see a bigger picture
I'm beginning to colour it in

The continents and the seven oceans
bound the range of my emotions
My time is long but not forever
my moods are the changing wind and weather

I'm starting to see a bigger picture
I'm beginning to colour it in

 

[HardcoreRobot]

and cause we all knew this was going to turn into yagt anyways... just developing ANY SORT of social life is how you meet chicks. every girlfriend you will never have will be a friend of a friend or someone you meet by DOING STUFF. focus on meeting PEOPLE first.

 

[gigapet]

how did you make it this far in life with no social skills?

 

[alexeikgb]

Originally posted by: faenix
:camera: or die.

haha.... second that...

 

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: EvilYoda
It doesn't sound like you even want to try since you don't seem to relish the idea of being socially active and having friends, so why did you bother getting the townhouse in the first place? I don't get it...you're asking for opinions, but you really have only 2: Move out, or stay and hopefully make friends...but you seem to be against going out and knowing people, so what do you really have to consider here?

If the idea of living on your own and not having people to talk to IN PERSON is fine, then go ahead...we'll be here.

I think there is a big misunderstanding in this thread.

I do like to socialize, I want to have a social life. I just hate all the bullshit and hoops you have to go through in order to become someone's friend. I dont like joining clubs to meet people. I like classes that foster getting to know people, and I like it when people in your living area are just more open to socialize. (people all around your townhouse block) But unfortunately it isnt like that.

So darnit, it looks like joining a club is my only option, or trying to get to know people in my apartment.

 

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: robphelan
i agree.. you need to make it happen.. i remember my first year in college.. I met like 4 people.

I told myself it wasn't going to happen again.

Sophomore year I joined the campus activity board and wound up President of the Entertainment Committee.. i got to bring in comedians, bands, magic shows, stuff like that... i met TONS of people that way.

and one of the girls that worked on the committee with me was dating a guy in a frat. She told him I'd be a good candidate - they actually approached me about joining. I did and that was great.

I had a lot of fun, met a ton of people (esp girls) and really came out of my 'shell'.

so do something about it yourself. don't wait for an opportunity to fall in your lap.

good luck.

I wouldnt mind it if I got to know like 4 people really well. I met a lot of people my first year in the dorm and stuff, its just that i didnt get to know them very well.

yeah, so I think the problem is that I need to meet people, and then I need to hang out with them more.

I dont know, I'm kind of lazy, once I find my friends I am a pretty content guy. So maybe i just need to join like 1 club or something, or just get to know people in my apartment well.