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OMG.....I'm falling in love.

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Like many people hvae said.. just be careful. You never know what could happen. As always with love proceed with as much caution as you see fit. (I always proceed with a lot).

And best of Luck

Gatsby
 


<< rest assured that the folk here will break his kneecaps >>

hehehe

I have this really strong protective instinct but I don't think I'd be the only one linin' up if you got hurt.

Make sure he knows your 30,000 brothers will adhere to the following part of rule #6 in the 10 rules of dating my daughter/sister.

If you make her cry, I will make you cry. 😉
 
In my opinion, you can fall in love with a person's Internet personality, but it is very difficult to fall in love with the person him/herself over the Internet. I think it would be an understatement to say that people's behaviour on the Internet is different than in &quot;real&quot; life. I'm not implying that a$$holes are angels on the Internet; actually, I believe the difference is the degree to which their Internet personality reflects their real one. A mild-mannered person can be outgoing, a soft-spoken person can be outspoken, and everybody and their mother is a comedian etc.

Here comes a pretty bad analogy, but liken the Internet to a resume. The purpose of the resume is to get yourself to an interview. So a lot of mediocre people churn out great resumes. But no HR person in their right-mind would hire a person solely based on the resume. Meet the person and judge for yourself. But don't jump to the conclusion right now that you're falling in love with the person...because you're really just falling in love with one aspect of that person.

Good luck though...I hope it does turn out to be something!

-GL
 
Congratulations!!!

I think it's possible to find love like that. But I also believe that you have to be careful with things like this. I know that hzl_eyed_grl is a very smart woman. Just don't be deceived by what you think is love. If you decide to meet, listen to the instinct/feeling in your stomach. If it finds something screwy about the guy, or that just something isn't right, it will let you know - listen to it!!!

So, be safe, have fun, and good luck!! 😀
 
here is my advice to you,


i have been in a similar situation back when i was a newbie to the net. i met a girl while chating and met her in person everything went very well and we spent a year or so in the blissful raptuer of new love. of course that didn't last and we went our sepreate ways, the point being that yes you can meet someone from the internet and have a fruitful and rewarding realtionship. now that's not to say that you should expect that from your situation. there have been plenty of abductions and murders resulting from online romances. bottom line, you can have a good relationship but keep your eyes open and be wary of the unusual.... 😀😉🙂
 
hzl: like everyone said, be very very careful. one great thing about the net, is that you can be whoever and whatever you want. do not rush into things, love is such a powerful thing, it can create and destroy, it can form or tear apart, it took me close to 2 years to realize i was in love with my xgf.

Do not rush into anything.







dam(work is suck)
 
Then again, there is a news article about a couple that met on the net and they never saw each other until the wedding date. There are also a lot of psychos out there. Make your decision wisely.
 
h_e_G, compuwiz1- welcome to Sacramento! I have lived here all my life, don'tcha just love the weather this time of year!

Anyway in regards to your on-line relationship, that's great that you feel that you are beginning an intimate relationship with someone but I am going to voice the same concerns as everyone else... be careful!

Also, there are many people that you meet, or cross paths with, during the average day.... I think the possibility of meeting someone special face-to-face is greater than meeting someone online.

But I ain't knockin' it! congrats! and good luck.
 


Hzl_eyed_grl, I met the woman who later became my sister-in-law online. She was SO funny and we instantly clicked, so I gave her my brother's phone number. They talked for a week, then she flew to meet him. Three weeks later they were married and they've been happily married for the last five years. I can't imagine them with anybody but each other. Some people are just meant to be, even if they go about getting together a little unconventionally. 🙂 That being said, I also know a LOT of women who went to meet the man of their dreams only to find out he was a total nightmare in real life. Just don't build too much on this until you've had a chance to safely meet him. And BE CAREFUL.

One more squishy romantic story about online romances.

I met my husband online, we talked for a few months, he came to visit me, and one week later he showed up and kidnapped me and all my possessions. We've been together four years now and I think it was the best impulse buy I've ever made. Of course, this is the guy who thinks a computer is a great engagement ring, so I could be biased! 😉
 
h-e-g (oops 😱 ), in addition to everyones 'becareful' advice, I would just like to add that if you take the time to get to know the person face to face what can develope can be something very strong and enduring. I met my husband on the net after a long (3-5 years )courtship (showing my age with that word 😉 ) The first half net based and the second in person. You need to be cautious, but can it happen and can it be real ? You bet your butt it can. 😀
Btw, I am a cynic and didnt really believe in 'love', so 'falling in love on the net' was something I LMAO at. Sometimes we end up with cream pie on our faces 😀

 
Again, I am heartbroken but then again you are the same age as my daughter so I guess it wouldnt have worked out. BTW, she lives in the Sacremento area now too. Uh, Oh what your name???😉
 
get real hzl. go meet some REAL PEOPLE who live NEAR you. Not some wierdo on the net who is 2000 miles away.

I don't get these internet relationships. There's thousands of people you could date who live close to you, but they still have to find some dork in a chat room.
 
Thank you all for your advice. I really an listening to it. 🙂 I may be in love with the thought of him or what he might be, I don't know. I guess I won't really know until I see him. I'll keep you all posted...

BTW: All of us that live in Sacramento should get together for lunch or something. Just let me know if you all are interested.

EDIT: I have no opposition to meeting REAL PEOPLE that live near me. I just moved here so I'm not sure what all there is to do yet. I am trying to find a church that I like. After that I just need to find other places to go. 🙂
 
very interesting these net relationships. My friend met some guy on the net, and she is absolutely crazy for him. He's been down to visit her a few times and they always talk w/ each other (phone/aim).

Just some stuff I'm throwing out, I myself don't really see how it works, but I guess that's just me 🙂
 
good luck hzl 🙂 hope it all works out.

i am kind of in the same situation....

but it's not like we are in love yet. we just really, really like each other. only been talking for about 5 months i guess..and we are meeting in about 3 weeks. So I think it's best to actually meet her before I get close or anything to make sure we are just as compatibile in real life! Oh, and she only lives 1.5 hours away. so that makes it VERY easy 🙂 First she's coming up here, we are going to do some stuff, then we're going back to her place for thanksgiving.
btw, i'm 18, she's 19. we kinda use the phone now more than AIM though.



<< get real hzl. go meet some REAL PEOPLE who live NEAR you. Not some wierdo on the net who is 2000 miles away.

I don't get these internet relationships. There's thousands of people you could date who live close to you, but they still have to find some dork in a chat room. >>


i think you should shut up. there are plenty of people who have started successful relationships online...it's also a place where you can get to know the person before even seeing them...there isn't really any superficial people on the internet.

no one said you have to &quot;get it,&quot; but that doesn't mean you have to rain down on other people's parades.
 
Hey h_e_g!

I go to a great church that you may be interested in! but I dont want to solicit it on the boards.

Its funny you should mention the fact that maybe you are just in love with the thought of him and what he might be..... just goes to show nothing can beat a more intimate/up-close/personal meeting between two people..... imo the net' just doesn't rate.
 
Be Careful... there are a lot of bad people on the net. It's easy to pretend to be whoever one wants online. The real person could be very different. The FBI has agents to pretend to be teenage girls on the net to catch those offenders.
Good luck. Meet the guy in a safe place.
 
Fathom,



<< Make sure he knows your 30,000 brothers will adhere to the following part of rule #6 in the 10 rules of dating my daughter/sister. >>



Bingo, if anyone so much as touches my sister in a threatening way, that person is going down like a sack of potatoes. 😉 Oh, and then after that I'll call my sister over and she'll kick that person! 😀

Fortunately i've never had to do that procedure. 🙂
 
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