omfg i'm going to fvcking kill someone

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PowderBB3D

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Originally posted by: CPA
It's your EX, move on.

It still bothers you. I don't know about Nik but I'd feel like I was a total idiot if I couldn't see that my gf was cheating on me for 3 years.

Nik: don't worry about it. Girls like her end up getting tossed from one guy to the next; nobody marries the "easy" ones. Soon she'll realize that the inadequacy in her relationships that led her to cheating was not by fault of her partners but by fault of her.

Have a :beer: on me buddy.
 

Bryophyte

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Originally posted by: DAGTA
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Ouch. Sorry Nik. Girls that age can be VERY immature when it comes to that sort of thing. We usually grow out of it after we get out of college.

Yeah, which suddenly makes it a-ok that most girls were slutty liars while 'young and stupid'. :roll:

I'm not defending it. It's pretty sh1tty to cheat on a boyfriend, if you've promised to be mutually exclusive. Guys often do the same thing, though. For some reason, it's considered worse for a girl to do it.
 

PowderBB3D

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Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Originally posted by: DAGTA
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Ouch. Sorry Nik. Girls that age can be VERY immature when it comes to that sort of thing. We usually grow out of it after we get out of college.

Yeah, which suddenly makes it a-ok that most girls were slutty liars while 'young and stupid'. :roll:

I'm not defending it. It's pretty sh1tty to cheat on a boyfriend, if you've promised to be mutually exclusive. Guys often do the same thing, though. For some reason, it's considered worse for a girl to do it.

But Nik didn't cheat. You seem to be mistaking him for a generalization.
 

djheater

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Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Originally posted by: DAGTA
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Ouch. Sorry Nik. Girls that age can be VERY immature when it comes to that sort of thing. We usually grow out of it after we get out of college.

Yeah, which suddenly makes it a-ok that most girls were slutty liars while 'young and stupid'. :roll:

I'm not defending it. It's pretty sh1tty to cheat on a boyfriend, if you've promised to be mutually exclusive. Guys often do the same thing, though. For some reason, it's considered worse for a girl to do it.

But Nik didn't cheat. You seem to be mistaking him for a generalization.

That's not true. But she's not arguing on topic. Bryophyte agrees that it's bad, what more do you expect?
 

eakers

Lifer
Aug 14, 2000
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holy crap!

i feel so bad for you, if there was one thing i really respected about you was how much you seemed to love, respect and really care for her.
 

PowderBB3D

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Originally posted by: djheater
Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Originally posted by: DAGTA
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Ouch. Sorry Nik. Girls that age can be VERY immature when it comes to that sort of thing. We usually grow out of it after we get out of college.

Yeah, which suddenly makes it a-ok that most girls were slutty liars while 'young and stupid'. :roll:

I'm not defending it. It's pretty sh1tty to cheat on a boyfriend, if you've promised to be mutually exclusive. Guys often do the same thing, though. For some reason, it's considered worse for a girl to do it.

But Nik didn't cheat. You seem to be mistaking him for a generalization.

That's not true. But she's not arguing on topic. Bryophyte agrees that it's bad, what more do you expect?

Reading the first part of your post tells me I don't know enough about the backstory here to comment effectively. So I'll leave with this:

Cheating is only okay if it involves a Game Genie.
 

Bryophyte

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Apr 25, 2001
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Originally posted by: djheater
Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Originally posted by: DAGTA
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Ouch. Sorry Nik. Girls that age can be VERY immature when it comes to that sort of thing. We usually grow out of it after we get out of college.

Yeah, which suddenly makes it a-ok that most girls were slutty liars while 'young and stupid'. :roll:

I'm not defending it. It's pretty sh1tty to cheat on a boyfriend, if you've promised to be mutually exclusive. Guys often do the same thing, though. For some reason, it's considered worse for a girl to do it.

But Nik didn't cheat. You seem to be mistaking him for a generalization.

That's not true. But she's not arguing on topic. Bryophyte agrees that it's bad, what more do you expect?

I'm not trying to argue. I was just saying that young people make some pretty astonishingly bad choices and often people get hurt by them. And I'm sorry that it happened to him. I had completely forgotten about that thing about him, what, kissing another girl or something? I didn't intend to bring that up or rub his face in it. Furthest thing from my mind. I was just musing about how ALL young people fvck up and hurt people.

My apologies for not being particularly clear.
 

CPA

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Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: CPA
It's your EX, move on.

It still bothers you. I don't know about Nik but I'd feel like I was a total idiot if I couldn't see that my gf was cheating on me for 3 years.

Nik: don't worry about it. Girls like her end up getting tossed from one guy to the next; nobody marries the "easy" ones. Soon she'll realize that the inadequacy in her relationships that led her to cheating was not by fault of her partners but by fault of her.

Have a :beer: on me buddy.

That's irrational. How is it constructive to view yourself as an idiot for something essentially out of your control? Let it goooooooooooooooooo.
 

pulse8

Lifer
May 3, 2000
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Yikes! I don't even like you and I feel sorry about that. :(

Is this the girl that posted here a while ago?
 

PowderBB3D

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Originally posted by: CPA
Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: CPA
It's your EX, move on.

It still bothers you. I don't know about Nik but I'd feel like I was a total idiot if I couldn't see that my gf was cheating on me for 3 years.

Nik: don't worry about it. Girls like her end up getting tossed from one guy to the next; nobody marries the "easy" ones. Soon she'll realize that the inadequacy in her relationships that led her to cheating was not by fault of her partners but by fault of her.

Have a :beer: on me buddy.

That's irrational. How is it constructive to view yourself as an idiot for something essentially out of your control? Let it goooooooooooooooooo.

That's twice you miss the mark CPA. It ISN'T constructive, and the point has nothing to do with the fact that somebody MIGHT feel that way. Emotions are inherently irrational.

Stop quoting my messages, you ruin their meaning every time.
 

NikPreviousAcct

No Lifer
Aug 15, 2000
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Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: djheater
Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Originally posted by: DAGTA
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Ouch. Sorry Nik. Girls that age can be VERY immature when it comes to that sort of thing. We usually grow out of it after we get out of college.

Yeah, which suddenly makes it a-ok that most girls were slutty liars while 'young and stupid'. :roll:

I'm not defending it. It's pretty sh1tty to cheat on a boyfriend, if you've promised to be mutually exclusive. Guys often do the same thing, though. For some reason, it's considered worse for a girl to do it.

But Nik didn't cheat. You seem to be mistaking him for a generalization.

That's not true. But she's not arguing on topic. Bryophyte agrees that it's bad, what more do you expect?

Reading the first part of your post tells me I don't know enough about the backstory here to comment effectively. So I'll leave with this:

Cheating is only okay if it involves a Game Genie.

I "cheated" on Chelsea by not allowing myself to let go of feelings for a previous love interest while with her. I feel horrid for it, but I am not the fvcking slutty whore; she is.
 

PowderBB3D

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Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: djheater
Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Originally posted by: DAGTA
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Ouch. Sorry Nik. Girls that age can be VERY immature when it comes to that sort of thing. We usually grow out of it after we get out of college.

Yeah, which suddenly makes it a-ok that most girls were slutty liars while 'young and stupid'. :roll:

I'm not defending it. It's pretty sh1tty to cheat on a boyfriend, if you've promised to be mutually exclusive. Guys often do the same thing, though. For some reason, it's considered worse for a girl to do it.

But Nik didn't cheat. You seem to be mistaking him for a generalization.

That's not true. But she's not arguing on topic. Bryophyte agrees that it's bad, what more do you expect?

Reading the first part of your post tells me I don't know enough about the backstory here to comment effectively. So I'll leave with this:

Cheating is only okay if it involves a Game Genie.

I "cheated" on Chelsea by not allowing myself to let go of feelings for a previous love interest while with her. I feel horrid for it, but I am not the fvcking slutty whore; she is.

Did you act on the feelings? Just wondering, and don't feel you have to answer it if you don't want to (although it seems like you probably already did in another thread but I have no idea what to search for).
 

Zim Hosein

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Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: djheater
Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Originally posted by: DAGTA
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Ouch. Sorry Nik. Girls that age can be VERY immature when it comes to that sort of thing. We usually grow out of it after we get out of college.

Yeah, which suddenly makes it a-ok that most girls were slutty liars while 'young and stupid'. :roll:

I'm not defending it. It's pretty sh1tty to cheat on a boyfriend, if you've promised to be mutually exclusive. Guys often do the same thing, though. For some reason, it's considered worse for a girl to do it.

But Nik didn't cheat. You seem to be mistaking him for a generalization.

That's not true. But she's not arguing on topic. Bryophyte agrees that it's bad, what more do you expect?

Reading the first part of your post tells me I don't know enough about the backstory here to comment effectively. So I'll leave with this:

Cheating is only okay if it involves a Game Genie.

I "cheated" on Chelsea by not allowing myself to let go of feelings for a previous love interest while with her. I feel horrid for it, but I am not the fvcking slutty whore; she is.

Then consider it even and move on Nik!
 

NikPreviousAcct

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Aug 15, 2000
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Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: djheater
Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Originally posted by: DAGTA
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Ouch. Sorry Nik. Girls that age can be VERY immature when it comes to that sort of thing. We usually grow out of it after we get out of college.

Yeah, which suddenly makes it a-ok that most girls were slutty liars while 'young and stupid'. :roll:

I'm not defending it. It's pretty sh1tty to cheat on a boyfriend, if you've promised to be mutually exclusive. Guys often do the same thing, though. For some reason, it's considered worse for a girl to do it.

But Nik didn't cheat. You seem to be mistaking him for a generalization.

That's not true. But she's not arguing on topic. Bryophyte agrees that it's bad, what more do you expect?

Reading the first part of your post tells me I don't know enough about the backstory here to comment effectively. So I'll leave with this:

Cheating is only okay if it involves a Game Genie.

I "cheated" on Chelsea by not allowing myself to let go of feelings for a previous love interest while with her. I feel horrid for it, but I am not the fvcking slutty whore; she is.

Did you act on the feelings? Just wondering, and don't feel you have to answer it if you don't want to (although it seems like you probably already did in another thread but I have no idea what to search for).

No, I did not. I wouldn't have. She was dating ... well, let's just say "someone else" to protect them for the time being.
 

Bryophyte

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Apr 25, 2001
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Originally posted by: Nik
I "cheated" on Chelsea by not allowing myself to let go of feelings for a previous love interest while with her. I feel horrid for it, but I am not the fvcking slutty whore; she is.

Sorry if you thought I was trying to bring that up. Furthest thing from my mind. I was just talking generally, going off-topic.
 

NikPreviousAcct

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Aug 15, 2000
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Originally posted by: Zim Hosein
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: djheater
Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Originally posted by: DAGTA
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Ouch. Sorry Nik. Girls that age can be VERY immature when it comes to that sort of thing. We usually grow out of it after we get out of college.

Yeah, which suddenly makes it a-ok that most girls were slutty liars while 'young and stupid'. :roll:

I'm not defending it. It's pretty sh1tty to cheat on a boyfriend, if you've promised to be mutually exclusive. Guys often do the same thing, though. For some reason, it's considered worse for a girl to do it.

But Nik didn't cheat. You seem to be mistaking him for a generalization.

That's not true. But she's not arguing on topic. Bryophyte agrees that it's bad, what more do you expect?

Reading the first part of your post tells me I don't know enough about the backstory here to comment effectively. So I'll leave with this:

Cheating is only okay if it involves a Game Genie.

I "cheated" on Chelsea by not allowing myself to let go of feelings for a previous love interest while with her. I feel horrid for it, but I am not the fvcking slutty whore; she is.

Then consider it even and move on Nik!

No fvcking way are we even.
 

dirtboy

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Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: CPA
Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: CPA
It's your EX, move on.

It still bothers you. I don't know about Nik but I'd feel like I was a total idiot if I couldn't see that my gf was cheating on me for 3 years.

Nik: don't worry about it. Girls like her end up getting tossed from one guy to the next; nobody marries the "easy" ones. Soon she'll realize that the inadequacy in her relationships that led her to cheating was not by fault of her partners but by fault of her.

Have a :beer: on me buddy.

That's irrational. How is it constructive to view yourself as an idiot for something essentially out of your control? Let it goooooooooooooooooo.

That's twice you miss the mark CPA. It ISN'T constructive, and the point has nothing to do with the fact that somebody MIGHT feel that way. Emotions are inherently irrational.

Stop quoting my messages, you ruin their meaning every time.

Actually, he is right on the mark. There are some things getting worked up over and there are some things that aren't. Sometimes people get cheated on because they've earned it, other times because the person is a cheat. What really matters is they aren't together anymore, so it doesn't really matter. What good is getting upset again going to solve? Nothing.

If I found out my ex cheated on me, I wouldn't care.
 

PowderBB3D

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Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: Nik
Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: djheater
Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Originally posted by: DAGTA
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Ouch. Sorry Nik. Girls that age can be VERY immature when it comes to that sort of thing. We usually grow out of it after we get out of college.

Yeah, which suddenly makes it a-ok that most girls were slutty liars while 'young and stupid'. :roll:

I'm not defending it. It's pretty sh1tty to cheat on a boyfriend, if you've promised to be mutually exclusive. Guys often do the same thing, though. For some reason, it's considered worse for a girl to do it.

But Nik didn't cheat. You seem to be mistaking him for a generalization.

That's not true. But she's not arguing on topic. Bryophyte agrees that it's bad, what more do you expect?

Reading the first part of your post tells me I don't know enough about the backstory here to comment effectively. So I'll leave with this:

Cheating is only okay if it involves a Game Genie.

I "cheated" on Chelsea by not allowing myself to let go of feelings for a previous love interest while with her. I feel horrid for it, but I am not the fvcking slutty whore; she is.

Did you act on the feelings? Just wondering, and don't feel you have to answer it if you don't want to (although it seems like you probably already did in another thread but I have no idea what to search for).

No, I did not. I wouldn't have. She was dating ... well, let's just say "someone else" to protect them for the time being.

Then I fail to see how that is cheating. It's not really fair to compare harboring some kind of feelings for someone else to screwing around for three years.
 

NikPreviousAcct

No Lifer
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Originally posted by: PowderBB3D
Then I fail to see how that is cheating. It's not really fair to compare harboring some kind of feelings for someone else to screwing around for three years.

I'm not comparing the two at all. However, I did not reserve romantic feelings for my significant other and nobody else. To you, that may not be cheating. To Chelsea and I, it was cheating. I can't possibly comprehend why she went along with my beliefs and telling me that she believed the same thing, cheating on me behind my back the entire time. It... does not compute.