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older married folks, does your spouse's appearance matter after being married awhile?

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BlahBlahYouToo

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eventually, we all get older, fatter and uglier. at what point did his/her looks stop mattering?
or is it never, which is why we cheat?

i would think the more she lets it go, the hotter the younger chicks start looking.

personally, with my previous ltr's, they were in their teens/early 20's and always held it together so i never lost attraction. and i also believed in myself that no matter how much weight they gain, i would never stray. but it was never put to the test.
 
Originally posted by: BlahBlahYouToo
eventually, we all get older, fatter and uglier. at what point did his/her looks stop mattering?
or is it never, which is why we cheat?

i would think the more she lets it go, the hotter the younger chicks start looking.

personally, with my previous ltr's, they were in their teens/early 20's and always held it together so i never lost attraction. and i also believed in myself that no matter how much weight they gain, i would never stray. but it was never put to the test.
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how are you going to keep yourself up?

maybe it's a case where if one cares enough to put in the effort the other one will too.
 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
Originally posted by: BlahBlahYouToo
eventually, we all get older, fatter and uglier. at what point did his/her looks stop mattering?
or is it never, which is why we cheat?

i would think the more she lets it go, the hotter the younger chicks start looking.

personally, with my previous ltr's, they were in their teens/early 20's and always held it together so i never lost attraction. and i also believed in myself that no matter how much weight they gain, i would never stray. but it was never put to the test.
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how are you going to keep yourself up?

maybe it's a case where if one cares enough to put in the effort the other one will too.
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not always the case.

personally speaking, i hit the gym 2-3x a week.
she doesn't but she hasn't had to, yet...
 
In my LTR of 4 years (16-20 yrs old), I stopped being attracted to her because she was a psycho bitch.

And doubled her weight....

But more of the psycho bitch part
 
Only if she smells. Seriously tho, I cant say because even tho my girls is gonna be 49 soon she is smoking hot. I wont say I wouldnt or shouldnt as I am not at the point where I would even have to think about it because she looks damn good. I'll be 43 so there is a slight gen gap between us but we both are very physically fit. I still have all my hair (long, down to my ass) and am only around 5-10% gray. She is all gray but dyes it all the time. She said shes gonna let it go and I agree as it is getting brittle. So, we'll see how I feel in a year or 2 when shes gray and 50. 🙂
 
Looks aren't everything and, in my case, do not hold a very large percentage of the overall relationship pie.

I have been married for 16 years and we have both gained our fair-share of weight. It doesn't make any difference to me.


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The fact that my wife has been disabled for the past 10 years has also contributed to our stress and lack of fitness.
 
Originally posted by: Oyeve
Only if she smells. Seriously tho, I cant say because even tho my girls is gonna be 49 soon she is smoking hot. I wont say I wouldnt or shouldnt as I am not at the point where I would even have to think about it because she looks damn good. I'll be 43 so there is a slight gen gap between us but we both are very physically fit. I still have all my hair (long, down to my ass) and am only around 5-10% gray. She is all gray but dyes it all the time. She said shes gonna let it go and I agree as it is getting brittle. So, we'll see how I feel in a year or 2 when shes gray and 50. 🙂
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pics for proof or shens.
 
Originally posted by: BlahBlahYouToo
eventually, we all get older, fatter and uglier. at what point did his/her looks stop mattering?
or is it never, which is why we cheat?

i would think the more she lets it go, the hotter the younger chicks start looking.

personally, with my previous ltr's, they were in their teens/early 20's and always held it together so i never lost attraction. and i also believed in myself that no matter how much weight they gain, i would never stray. but it was never put to the test.
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There's a dirty little secret here that they haven't told you yet... your wife will get old.. but so will you.
 
Originally posted by: Electric Amish
Looks aren't everything and, in my case, do not hold a very large percentage of the overall relationship pie.

I have been married for 16 years and we have both gained our fair-share of weight. It doesn't make any difference to me.
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that's the answer i'm looking for.
:thumbsup:
 
we haven't gained weight but we've slacked in the we-care-about-looks department because of our infants. Having groomed hair on weekends is a thing of the past. She cut hers from long to short to make it more manageable. Maybe at some point we will care again... when we have the time to.
 
Yeh, kids & childbirth can put a serious damper on one's health plan. Especially if both of you work and want to be halfway decent parents and spend any time with your kids.

In the womans case, they are carrying an extra 10-20 pounds of weight after the birth. If you are chronically tired from taking care of an infant that needs feeding & changing every hour or two you find very little time and energy to get to the gym.

Once the kids get a little older you are working 9-10 hours (after lunches and travel time) and it's 5:00 or so before you get home. By that point you are faced with either dinner or going to the gym. And since kids are just flat out picky eaters you usually settle for something that isn't that healthy since it's convenient and the kid will eat it. So you just got a double whammy - no gym time, and you are eating worse.

You spend an hour or two with your kid(s) before they crash by 6:30 or 7:00 and then you get a couple hours to yourself to pick up, pay bills, and have a little time to yourself.

Go through a couple kids and 10-15 years of this and you just really don't pay attention any more.
 
Originally posted by: vi edit
Yeh, kids & childbirth can put a serious damper on one's health plan. Especially if both of you work and want to be halfway decent parents and spend any time with your kids.

In the womans case, they are carrying an extra 10-20 pounds of weight after the birth. If you are chronically tired from taking care of an infant that needs feeding & changing every hour or two you find very little time and energy to get to the gym.

Once the kids get a little older you are working 9-10 hours (after lunches and travel time) and it's 5:00 or so before you get home. By that point you are faced with either dinner or going to the gym. And since kids are just flat out picky eaters you usually settle for something that isn't that healthy since it's convenient and the kid will eat it. So you just got a double whammy - no gym time, and you are eating worse.

You spend an hour or two with your kid(s) before they crash by 6:30 or 7:00 and then you get a couple hours to yourself to pick up, pay bills, and have a little time to yourself.

Go through a couple kids and 10-15 years of this and you just really don't pay attention any more.
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Well said.
 
Originally posted by: BlahBlahYouToo
personally speaking, i hit the gym 2-3x a week.
she doesn't but she hasn't had to, yet...
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You may as well break up with her if this is something your spend more than a passing thought considering. Save her the pain later....
 
Originally posted by: moshquerade
how are you going to keep yourself up?

maybe it's a case where if one cares enough to put in the effort the other one will too.
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That usually backfires. I remember talking to someone who married a guy in ridiculously good shape. She used to cry that she felt inferior and that he looked down on her for not being in as-good shape and not trying as hard as she thought he expected her to. :roll:
 
She's hotter now than when I met her. I like to say I've been a good influence on her! haha

Actually, I think that maintaining good appearance is vital to keeping the other person happy. She works out and watches her weight, and I do too. That allows us to have a nice evening out and indulge every so often.

I think that there will always be people that are new, exciting and ultimately attractive to us. Fortunately as I have gotten older (I'm 29) I've realized that personality becomes a very attractive feature of the opposite sex.
 
My wife is stunning, to look upon her for me is to look upon true beauty because I know the person she is inside as well. No matter what happens to us throughout the course of our marriage, I will always consider her to be beautiful! Having said that, at the time we began dating, she was the most cutehot girl I had ever laid eyes upon and now she is a full-fledged knockout. I'm a lucky guy!

I just don't think it could ever wear off on me........ even if we got divorced I would still think she was crazy hot.

It is pretty natural for the eyes to wander after a few years of marriage though, IMO! I'm married, I'm not de-nutted! 😉
 
Originally posted by: rh71
we haven't gained weight but we've slacked in the we-care-about-looks department because of our infants. Having groomed hair on weekends is a thing of the past. She cut hers from long to short to make it more manageable. Maybe at some point we will care again... when we have the time to.
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You guys have had kids, so biologically speaking, there's no real incentive to remain sexually attractive. Therefore, she went with the "mom" haircut.
 
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