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Old Fashioned Parents and Pre-Marriage Relations

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Didnt we establish they didnt screw in his parents house? So why is everyone saying hes violating their rules of the house?
 
Originally posted by: Horus

Damn skippity. If my parents called my GF (Who I've been dating for 2 1/2 years) a whore, I'd slap my mom/punch my dad. Nobody speaks to her that way.

Last guy that did got a kick in the balls...from her. It was HILARIOUS. He was hitting on her at a bar, and she kinda turned him down. He took the drink he bought her and called her a slut. Two seconds later he was on the ground, drinks spilled all over him, clutching his nads.
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Amazing how they react when you hit too close to home...
 
Originally posted by: Airsofter
Let's see. My brother is 23 and has been going out with this girl for 7 months. She is pretty decent looking, graduated college, and has a job making 70k a year. My mom got into a little fight with her and mentioned something about her mother getting pregnant at an early age. She said her and my brother have been having relations for a while, but she is using birth control.

My mom flipped and told my brother to move out and go live with this little whore (exact words). My dad, who usually takes a hands-off approach, was pissed too. I don't get it. What the hell do they expect. If anything, I'd be proud that it is with a decent girl. Christ, if only they knew some of the stuff I've done.
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your brother needs to get his own place. seriously.

 
Phoenix86
I'm sure his mother was a virgin when she got married, and that also gives her the right to call the GF a whore. Yeah, sounds like a two way street of respect there...
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So what, because someone doesn't give you respect you can't give them respect?!

How about he respects his parents even though they might not "respect" him.

It is possible to be the more mature person.

Respect if often a one way thing for a long time before it becomes a two way thing if it ever does.
 
Originally posted by: chickadee
Originally posted by: Platypus
Your brother is 23 and lives at home... problem 1.
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I don't quite see much wrong with living home still at about 23.. it has its benefits. Gives you time to save up some money to pay off your college loans early and get the money together for a downpayment on a house instead of blwoing it on rent for some apt.

Though don't expect much of a social life at that age. Particularly cuase your parents will try and piss you off to get you to move out since they don't want you around anymore 😉
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The general concensus on ATOT is that you should move out the day you turn 18. Doesn't matter if you pay your parents rent, doesn't matter if it allows you to save money at a crucial time for a person financially. You should cause yourself needless hardship for the sake of responsibility, because no person who ever lived with their parents past the age of 18 ever contributed anything meaningful to society.

(In case you can't tell, I don't agree with the general concensus on ATOT. I think a lot of the people who hold that opinion are jealous of are financially better off as a result)

I think the OP's parents are crazy for expecting him to be a virgin at 23.

And following him around... that's BEYOND crazy.
 
You parents, and especially your mom, sound completely insane. If she follows her 23 year old son around on dates she is a candidate for medical intervention.

That being said, he should work on moving out ASAP. If his GF makes 70k a year, maybe they could find a place together?
 
Originally posted by: MrWizzard
Phoenix86
I'm sure his mother was a virgin when she got married, and that also gives her the right to call the GF a whore. Yeah, sounds like a two way street of respect there...
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So what, because someone doesn't give you respect you can't give them respect?!

How about he respects his parents even though they might not "respect" him.

It is possible to be the more mature person.

Respect if often a one way thing for a long time before it becomes a two way thing if it ever does.
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What is wrong with having sex with your girlfriend at 23? What the FVCK does that have to do with "respecting" your parents.

If your parents told you that you can't chew gum at work, would you "respect" them, or tell them to go to hell?

 
Originally posted by: LordSegan
Originally posted by: MrWizzard
Phoenix86
I'm sure his mother was a virgin when she got married, and that also gives her the right to call the GF a whore. Yeah, sounds like a two way street of respect there...
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So what, because someone doesn't give you respect you can't give them respect?!

How about he respects his parents even though they might not "respect" him.

It is possible to be the more mature person.

Respect if often a one way thing for a long time before it becomes a two way thing if it ever does.
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What is wrong with having sex with your girlfriend at 23? What the FVCK does that have to do with "respecting" your parents.

If your parents told you that you can't chew gum at work, would you "respect" them, or tell them to go to hell?
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can't really tell your parents to "go to hell" when you live under their roof. that is why at 23 y/o he needs to get out.

 
no dude. the consensus is, if you're still living at home, respect your parents since it is still their house (regardless if you help financially or not)
until you move out on your own, you have to listen to the heads of the household.

move out, and they could care less what you do. (well good parents should care, but you know what i mean)
 
Originally posted by: mugs
Originally posted by: chickadee
Originally posted by: Platypus
Your brother is 23 and lives at home... problem 1.
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I don't quite see much wrong with living home still at about 23.. it has its benefits. Gives you time to save up some money to pay off your college loans early and get the money together for a downpayment on a house instead of blwoing it on rent for some apt.

Though don't expect much of a social life at that age. Particularly cuase your parents will try and piss you off to get you to move out since they don't want you around anymore 😉
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The general concensus on ATOT is that you should move out the day you turn 18. Doesn't matter if you pay your parents rent, doesn't matter if it allows you to save money at a crucial time for a person financially. You should cause yourself needless hardship for the sake of responsibility, because no person who ever lived with their parents past the age of 18 ever contributed anything meaningful to society.

(In case you can't tell, I don't agree with the general concensus on ATOT. I think a lot of the people who hold that opinion are jealous of are financially better off as a result)

I think the OP's parents are crazy for expecting him to be a virgin at 23.

And following him around... that's BEYOND crazy.
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No, I think the general consensus on ATOT is that if you are over 18 and have the means to move out, you will get about zero sympathy when you describe how miserable you are and all the problems you have-- because the solution to all of your problems is very obvious.

Once you are 18, life is about making decisions-- sometimes very tough ones that involve whether or not you would be better off sacrificing some of your play money for the freedom that comes with living on your own. But someone who complains about the problems of living at home, yet could easily move out but doesn't is just being whiney.


 
Is your brother dating someone out of his league or why hasn't he moved out?

I'm not saying you have to move out at 18, but when something like this happens, when parents start driving you crazy, you really should get out.

So which is it? Is he cheap or broke? Is he still in school? How much school does he have left?

He really should get his own place. They both crossed that invisible line that says "You have to move buddy".
 
Why do kids think their parents need to support them past 18, unless they're in college? (or still in high school)

 
Originally posted by: Platypus
Your brother is 23 and lives at home... problem 1.
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Having a girlfriend, unless you have exactly the same philosophy as your parents about that stuff can be extremely if you are living at home.
 
I really think it could be any girl and my mom would get this way. My dad is a little more accepting, but I still don't know what's up with him. People keep saying that my parents are letting him stay here, but they strongly were against him boarding at college and want him to stay until he is married. His girlfriend just bought an ok house not too long ago. That's always an option.

I just can't stop laughing when my parents try to stop discussing it when I am in the room. Lol, like at 17 I guess this is too adult for me. I need to like slip medication into my mom's drink or something. Maybe hypnotize her into thinking she's normal. I don't know I am running out of ideas. It really bothers me that they don't trust me enough to allow me to go to a prom after party. I pulled a 2100 on the new SATS and have never touched a drug or smoked in my life.

 
Originally posted by: Horus
Originally posted by: tfinch2
Originally posted by: Platypus
Your brother is 23 and lives at home... problem 1.
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DING DING DING DING WINNERRRRR
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Damn skippity. If my parents called my GF (Who I've been dating for 2 1/2 years) a whore, I'd slap my mom/punch my dad. Nobody speaks to her that way.

Last guy that did got a kick in the balls...from her. It was HILARIOUS. He was hitting on her at a bar, and she kinda turned him down. He took the drink he bought her and called her a slut. Two seconds later he was on the ground, drinks spilled all over him, clutching his nads.
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So you'd punch your dad or slap your mom for calling your girl a whore? :roll: What a tough guy...how old are you?
 
Originally posted by: Horus
Originally posted by: tfinch2
Originally posted by: Platypus
Your brother is 23 and lives at home... problem 1.
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DING DING DING DING WINNERRRRR
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Damn skippity. If my parents called my GF (Who I've been dating for 2 1/2 years) a whore, I'd slap my mom/punch my dad. Nobody speaks to her that way.
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Wow, you'd slap your mom over some crap like that. You are a fool.
 
Originally posted by: Airsofter
My mom flipped and told my brother to move out and go live with this little whore (exact words). My dad, who usually takes a hands-off approach, was pissed too. I don't get it. What the hell do they expect. If anything, I'd be proud that it is with a decent girl. Christ, if only they knew some of the stuff I've done.
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You should tell her, that'll show'em!
 
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