Old classmates

[pontifex]

Do any of you guys ever see any old classmates when you're out doing whatever? Do you acknowledge them? Do they acknowledge you?

I occasionally see old classmates at the local grocery store. I usually don't acknowledge them unless it was someone I was friends with back then, which is rare. They don't usually acknowledge me either, though.

i don't feel i've done anything with my life and i'm not doing very well in life either, so i'd rather not talk to these people. I guess i'm just embarrassed.

 

[OdiN]

go build a bridge

 

[olds]

Originally posted by: pontifex
Do any of you guys ever see any old classmates when you're out doing whatever? Do you acknowledge them? Do they acknowledge you?

I occasionally see old classmates at the local grocery store. I usually don't acknowledge them unless it was someone I was friends with back then, which is rare. They don't usually acknowledge me either, though.

i don't feel i've done anything with my life and i'm not doing very well in life either, so i'd rather not talk to these people. I guess i'm just embarrassed.

That explains a lot.
What are you doing to change that?

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat

Originally posted by: pontifex
Do any of you guys ever see any old classmates when you're out doing whatever? Do you acknowledge them? Do they acknowledge you?

I occasionally see old classmates at the local grocery store. I usually don't acknowledge them unless it was someone I was friends with back then, which is rare. They don't usually acknowledge me either, though.

i don't feel i've done anything with my life and i'm not doing very well in life either, so i'd rather not talk to these people. I guess i'm just embarrassed.

That explains a lot.
What are you doing to change that?

i don't think there is a whole hell of a lot i can do.

 

[olds]

Get an education/job/life?

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
Get an education/job/life?

because my fairy godmother will just wave her wand and make it happen, right?

 

[StormRider]

That's kind of the reason I tend to avoid people in real life. The last time I met an old friend he just blurted out, "Do you have a girlfriend?" right out of the blue and in the middle of a crowded room (it was a scientific conference of some sort he invited me to because he was giving a presentation). I guess I just have a sign on my head that says "I am a loser that has never had a girlfriend"

 

[KLin]

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat

Originally posted by: pontifex
Do any of you guys ever see any old classmates when you're out doing whatever? Do you acknowledge them? Do they acknowledge you?

I occasionally see old classmates at the local grocery store. I usually don't acknowledge them unless it was someone I was friends with back then, which is rare. They don't usually acknowledge me either, though.

i don't feel i've done anything with my life and i'm not doing very well in life either, so i'd rather not talk to these people. I guess i'm just embarrassed.

That explains a lot.
What are you doing to change that?

i don't think there is a whole hell of a lot i can do.

Sounds like a cop out to me.

 

[AdamK47]

I don't see any of my old classmates since I moved 400 miles from where I grew up. But from what I can see from myspace... I've done better than most. I can't imagine anyone doing as well that's still living there.

 

[santz]

i used to be like that mate, but its been long since i realized that if you want something to change, you have to take the first step yourselves. nowadays, i am always the one making the attempts to drag people in conversation and make ends btw ppl meet. many time it does not, but many many more times it does. I am happy.

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
Get an education/job/life?

because my fairy godmother will just wave her wand and make it happen, right?

You got to work with what you have.

Study hard, get a half decent degree, apply yourself. It may not come easy to you, but if you want it you will do it.

At the moment you are cruising and not being pro active. My last job was 'okay'. What did I do? I went out and got a better job. I got it now.

Go to the dam f0cking gym and go to a few trendy stores and sort it out.

I say hi to people that I know from HS. There isn't really a reason not to. I don't have to go out and be buddy buddy with them though.

Koing

 

[mattpegher]

Its been 23 years since I graduated high school, and I am about 300 miles away. I don't get a chance to get back home much, maybe twice in last 10 years. I really wish my high school class would have a reunion as I really wonder what happened to every one. ONe problem is that my class was over 800 students. I went to the 10 year reunion and only about 4 people that I knew showed up.

 

[olds]

Originally posted by: mattpegher
Its been 23 years since I graduated high school, and I am about 300 miles away. I don't get a chance to get back home much, maybe twice in last 10 years. I really wish my high school class would have a reunion as I really wonder what happened to every one. ONe problem is that my class was over 800 students. I went to the 10 year reunion and only about 4 people that I knew showed up.

Hey, Doc.

I am not a doctor but I stayed at a Holiday Inn last night.
I think the OP is depressed.

 

[imported_Imp]

Generally no. I'm only in college, but have bumped into a few highschool, hunior high, elementary classmates. Out of the 6 or so of these I've come across and spoken to, I've actaully talked to 2 or 3. The others I've talked to or just seen were pretentious pricks or "I'm too good".

 

[mattpegher]

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat

Originally posted by: mattpegher
Its been 23 years since I graduated high school, and I am about 300 miles away. I don't get a chance to get back home much, maybe twice in last 10 years. I really wish my high school class would have a reunion as I really wonder what happened to every one. ONe problem is that my class was over 800 students. I went to the 10 year reunion and only about 4 people that I knew showed up.

Hey, Doc.

I am not a doctor but I stayed at a Holiday Inn last night.
I think the OP is depressed.

What he needs to realize is that his age it is highly unlikely that anyone from his class has done much more than he has. Everyone feels that in order to meet these folks from our past, that we must have something to show. Until you hit 30 years old, it is your dreams that define you, he11 some of the guys in my med school class were already in their 40s.

I think it is actually refreshing to see what old friends and aquaintances are up to just don't beleive everything that they say, because they surely have the same insecurities.

 

[KK]

OP, you have us. :lips::heart:

 

[SoundTheSurrender]

Ya a lot of times at the bars. They aren't doing much with their life compared to me so I feel alright talking to them.

 

[Flyback]

Seven years out of high school I've only ran into one classmate and that was at the gym.

Most friends I had in high school were out of necessity. The friends I made at college are what I'd call real, lifelong friends.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: mattpegher

Originally posted by: oldsmoboat

Originally posted by: mattpegher
Its been 23 years since I graduated high school, and I am about 300 miles away. I don't get a chance to get back home much, maybe twice in last 10 years. I really wish my high school class would have a reunion as I really wonder what happened to every one. ONe problem is that my class was over 800 students. I went to the 10 year reunion and only about 4 people that I knew showed up.

Hey, Doc.

I am not a doctor but I stayed at a Holiday Inn last night.
I think the OP is depressed.

What he needs to realize is that his age it is highly unlikely that anyone from his class has done much more than he has. Everyone feels that in order to meet these folks from our past, that we must have something to show. Until you hit 30 years old, it is your dreams that define you, he11 some of the guys in my med school class were already in their 40s.

I think it is actually refreshing to see what old friends and aquaintances are up to just don't beleive everything that they say, because they surely have the same insecurities.

i don't really mean found the cure for AIDS type stuff, but I see many of them are married now, have kids, have their own homes, etc.

i still live with my parents, have a crappy job that doesn't pay what i need it to pay to have my own place, haven't been on a date in like 7 years. just little things that just seem natural in life.

I've posted it before and i know many people here are in a similar spot, but i have no f-ing clue what i want to do with my life. i had thought about going to college and getting a degree, but i can't even figure out what degree to get. nothing really sounds remotely interesting to me, and if something does, it pays shit, just like my current job.

as for my social life, thats just a lost cause.

 

[Rogodin2]

I went through a horrible depression after my divorce (2 years ago). I was disgusted with myself so I decided to change. I stopped my unhealthy eating, started my own company, began to lift weights, and started drinking beer (*S*).

I'm still very wary of long-term relationships (I date often, but shallow).

I've had two old classmates visit me at my business, but I don't hang out with them. I've not gone to my class reunion-there are two people that I've had to extirpate relations with.

Your own personal philosophy and spiritual growth are the most important part of your life.

Goodluck.

Rogo

 

[Koing]

Originally posted by: pontifex
i don't really mean found the cure for AIDS type stuff, but I see many of them are married now, have kids, have their own homes, etc.

i still live with my parents, have a crappy job that doesn't pay what i need it to pay to have my own place, haven't been on a date in like 7 years. just little things that just seem natural in life.

I've posted it before and i know many people here are in a similar spot, but i have no f-ing clue what i want to do with my life. i had thought about going to college and getting a degree, but i can't even figure out what degree to get. nothing really sounds remotely interesting to me, and if something does, it pays shit, just like my current job.

as for my social life, thats just a lost cause.

Go to uni, get a degree in a science, enjoy meeting new people, date some girls, have a laugh for 4yrs, join a society or whatever they are called in America, hopefully this will help you be less shy etc, get an internship, get a job, figure out if you like this job or not, switch jobs/ fields (easy to do once you have a solid degree), now you can move out of your parents house.

Fix ONE THING AT A TIME. It is much harder trying to fix everything at once. Fix something.

Koing

 

[Wheezer]

I usually avoid people I have not seen in a while....classmates or not....simply because I hate small talk. I can do it, I just hate it....and in reality most people forget the conversation by the end of the day anyway, they really don't give 2 sh!ts...they just want to be nosy and make sure that they have done better than you.

f 'em