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Ok I need some serious advice here concerning some messed up crap

M

Mill

Lifer
Ok... a guy I know who I have known all my life has been arrested for sodomy. He took some kids on a camping trip and they later said he sodomized them. I have known the guy since I was like 5. He was always weird around me and my brother. He tried to pull sh!t with me and my brother but we would have none of it. As I got older he was always around. He started talking to me online and became even creepier. The thing is, he has a lot of people who are going to support him. Minister and judges and DHR officials. They are going to say he loves kids and would never do anything like this. I know this is false. He would do something like this. He tried to do something like this with me. He is going to get out on 5,000 bond. Since he only has to pay 500 bucks of it he is already out. WTF can I do. I know he is gonna disappear or kill himself. He is a really sick and mentally ill person IMO. I am afraid he is either gonna run, kill himself, or get off due the support he will have.

What should I do? I don't want my name getting out there. I also don't want to have to go against all these people that will support him. At the same time I can't let him get off and continue to do this crap.

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<< He tried to do something like this with me. >>

That's pretty big...

And, to draw a totally inappropriate parallel, this is why folks gotta leave proper heatware evaluations in all their trades.
 
The parents of these children let them go with him?

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Why?

Viper GTS
 
I don't want my name getting out. I don't want to have to testify or go against all these people that will support him.
 


<< I don't want my name getting out. I don't want to have to testify or go against all these people that will support him. >>


then there is nothing you can do.
 
Do you have something like CrimeStoppers in your area? Up here, we have an anonymous toll free number that we can call to give the police evidence.

You don't have to testify in court, and there is sometimes a cash reward. It's an independant service funded by the government, and they do not subscribe to call display. (I can verify that)

It's something you may want to look into. This way, you can protect the general public and possibly save the guys life if he plans on killing himself.
 
I don't want him to kill himself because that would be the easy way out. Also I don't think an anonymous tip would do much with all the support he has. I am totally fscked. I can't just let him get away and at the same time I don't want my name dragged through the mud.
 


<< I don't want my name dragged through the mud. >>

If he did like you said, you're the last person that'll be dragged through the mud. Typical fear of victims.

As for killing himself? WTH?
 
In the past he had told me he was suicidal. I believe it. He is the type of person who would not live to be convicted of something like this.
 
dude, you've gotta make sure the guy doesn't get off. If he kills himself, that's fine by me. But you can't let him run away or get off legally. If it comes down to it, you've gotta testify / make an affidavit / whatever. Why don't you want your name attached to it? You'd be doing the right thing, and people respect that. You'd be putting a goddamn child molesting FREAK in jail. You'd be serving justice. If you know anybody who'd think badly of you for doing the right goddamn thing, then fvck them. If people in power try to cover it up for him, take it to the media. Cause a big stir, because you're on the right side. Find some resolve, and don't lose it. This is a chance for you to do something truly right and make a positive difference in the world. Don't let it slip by.
 
its a hard decision, but if you think he is really a danger, then I think that maybe you need to get over your fear and testify. As far as your name being dragged through the mud, is there something you have done that you don't want public knowledge? Have you ever been arrested, if so maybe try the anonmous thing, but otherwise, I think it is a risk you should take for the sake of the kids in the neighborhood.

I am speaking from a position of some experience.

About 6 or 7 years ago someone from my town was charged with child abuse, that person used to babysit me and my brother. I didn't remember anything, nor did my brother, however, I didn't even want that knowledge to be public at my school. This is hard and only you can actually decide whether or not to speak out.
 
If all you say is true, and these little kids are brave enough to come forward and you should too, it's the right thing to do in order to stop this person from harming anyone else.

I wouldn't worry about "all the people supporting him", they either don't know the full story, or if they do then are no better than he is.

 
The answer to your quandry is simple, keep quiet. What could possibly happen, more innocent kids get molested and have their lives ruined when your information might have prevented it? You don't owe society or the little buggers who might get raped next anything. Yeah, just keep quiet and go about your business, and by all means be worried that this miscreant might kill himself. My God! What a loss to the world.

:disgust: Dripping sarcasm.
 
<<...or kill himself>>>

That works. You should call the DA's office and tell them your story, the guy will never leave the cell. I used to work with the sheriff's dept and when the DA hears from victims it is good as gold for the Judge. It will hurt now, but think of the good it will do.

Good luck.
 
I have never been arrested, but the police in Pleasant Grove hate me. I have already said I don't want him to go free. I hope he rots in jail. But how can I do this without it all coming back on me? Yeah call me selfish, but would you really want your name published in the paper and on the news regarding this case? Sorry but I don't. Not only that but this guy worked in a youth ministry at two different churches and was also a pianist at different churches. With all this catholic abuse news going around, I wouldn't be suprised to see this hit national news. That is unless some of his judge friends gag it.
 
As a mother I can only say that if your actions help keep this pervert from destroying the life of another child then you would be a hero in my eyes and in the eyes of every parent whose worst nightmare is this happening to their child.

I can also understand why you dont want your name associated with this case, I am guessing that you aren't that old?
The thing is you have to make a decision and it has to be one that you can live with for the rest of your life, not just today.

Good Luck with whatever you decide to do.
 


<< I have never been arrested, but the police in Pleasant Grove hate me. I have already said I don't want him to go free. I hope he rots in jail. But how can I do this without it all coming back on me? Yeah call me selfish, but would you really want your name published in the paper and on the news regarding this case? Sorry but I don't. Not only that but this guy worked in a youth ministry at two different churches and was also a pianist at different churches. With all this catholic abuse news going around, I wouldn't be suprised to see this hit national news. That is unless some of his judge friends gag it. >>



why do they hate you, also in this case you would be aiding them. It might change their opinion of you.
 


<< I have never been arrested, but the police in Pleasant Grove hate me. I have already said I don't want him to go free. I hope he rots in jail. But how can I do this without it all coming back on me? Yeah call me selfish, but would you really want your name published in the paper and on the news regarding this case? Sorry but I don't. Not only that but this guy worked in a youth ministry at two different churches and was also a pianist at different churches. With all this catholic abuse news going around, I wouldn't be suprised to see this hit national news. That is unless some of his judge friends gag it. >>



how TF would it 'come back on you'? Have you done anything wrong? No. If they try to hush it up, YOU can keep it from being hushed. YOU can contact the national news media about a scandal that's being hidden. YOU can get all the dipsh|ts in power in your city thrown in jail for trying to cover this up. You can't let this guy go free!

And yes, FYI I would want my name in the news and the papers regarding this case, because I'd be doing the RIGHT thing. I would show it to future employers, grad schools, anybody. It'd be an example of me doing the RIGHT thing against the odds. It's not something to be ashamed of!!!
 
How is it "all going to come back to you"?? The molested kids are the basis for the proscecution, you would be offering information which would strengthen their claim.

Even if I had my reservations about testifying, it's possible that wouldn't even be necessary, wouldn't that be a lighter burden in the long run than not stepping in to prevent future wrongdoing?

?All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.? (Edmund Burke)
 


<< I don't want my name getting out. I don't want to have to testify or go against all these people that will support him. >>




Usually when stuff like this surfaces, when one person dares to step forward they are soon joined by many others, I doubt you'd be alone and I'd bet if they needed testimony that they would get it
from others who come forward as result of your speaking out, who this guy may have actually suceeded in molesting.
 
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