Odd statement from a co worker

[Phoenix15]

Here's a bit of setup. My work is a bit of a melting pot. I work in a manufactoring facility that has pretty much every level of jobs. Everyone from a engineer with a masters degree all the way to high school dropouts that work the factory floor. So there can be some odd conversations and a bit of culture clash sometimes.

Anyway, my wife is working here as a intern now. She is majoring in buisness management, and is a manager trainee that handles job assignments, payroll and such. She spends a lot of time on the floor talking to different people while work is slow


. So basiclly this group was just standing around talking about this and that and the subject of abortion came up. Some were for it and some agains (obviously) but one girl made a strange statement. She just had a child about 2 years ago. She made the statement "If I could have afforded it, I would have gotten an abortion"

This seemed really strange and creepy to me. How can you look at your 2 year old child and think that? If I was a woman and had thoughts of a abortion I would NEVER mention it after the child was born. Do you guys think it is as creepy as I do?

 

[meltdown75]

yeah, that's a very inappropriate comment to be making. i mean, it's sad that she feels that way when her kid is already here etc., but it's really strange that she would actually say that out loud.

 

[hypn0tik]

That's just wrong on so many levels.

 

[Pepsei]

so obviously, she's not those welfare mom type that use her child to get money.

 

[Platypus]

She's probably just being realistic.. entry level job, probably hard to support a child that she probably didn't want anyway.

Inappropriate for work.. but I mean considering it's a manf. facility it's not the same as saying that in an office job.

 

[ruffilb]

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
That's just wrong on so many levels.

 

[Jzero]

Too hard to say what she meant. Plenty of mothers considered abortion and did not/could not get it done for one reason or another. Doesn't mean they don't love their child...a lot of times it means "I'm sure glad I didn't go through with it."

 

[JoeKing]

:laugh:

I don't know why, but made me :laugh:

 

[Jeff7181]

I think there's a thread about her on here already... maybe?

 

[Phoenix15]

Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
She's probably just being realistic.. entry level job, probably hard to support a child that she probably didn't want anyway.

Inappropriate for work.. but I mean considering it's a manf. facility it's not the same as saying that in an office job.

They talk about stuff out there that would make ME blush, and I have been on the internet for about 8 years.

 

[Toasthead]

Originally posted by: hypn0tik
That's just wrong on so many levels.

yeah thats messed up big time. I hope she doesnt tell her kid that

 

[Phoenix15]

Originally posted by: Jzero
Too hard to say what she meant. Plenty of mothers considered abortion and did not/could not get it done for one reason or another. Doesn't mean they don't love their child...a lot of times it means "I'm sure glad I didn't go through with it."

That's just it, my wife said she sounded like she wished she HAD gone thrugh with it.

Another thing, if you can't afford an abortion how the hell can you afford a child? My wife is a year away from graduating, I've only been working a year since I graduated college and WE can't afford a child yet, let alone someone who makes $7 a hour.

 

[Electric Amish]

I see nothing wrong with that.

 

[alien42]

at least she knows that she made a mistake and probably learned from it unlike a lot of people who shouldnt be popping out kids.

 

[GasX]

That statement does not mean she doesn't love her kid, just that if she could do it all over again, she would not have had it.

 

[Medicine Bear]

Tell her "Yeah, it is too bad your mom couldn't afford one"

See how that makes her feel

 

[nakedfrog]

I don't think it's creepy at all. I think it's self-honesty. She knows that she was not ready to have a child, not ready to raise a child, and is still not ready to raise a child.
I don't think it means she bears any ill will towards her kid, otherwise she probably would have put it up for adoption.

 

[SouthPaW1227]

That's an easy comment to make.

Heck, some parents hate their kids so much they kill them. We see it all the time.

It's just brutal honesty. I even made my mom so mad once as a kid she accidentally said "I wish I didn't have you!" I was really sad, but she apologized and life went on. My mother's the most loving person in my life aside from my financee-to-be now. She could've just been having an off day.

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: nakedfrog
I don't think it's creepy at all. I think it's self-honesty. She knows that she was not ready to have a child, not ready to raise a child, and is still not ready to raise a child.
I don't think it means she bears any ill will towards her kid, otherwise she probably would have put it up for adoption.

i never considered this at first. perhaps she thinks her child deserves a better life which she can't afford to give. or, maybe her kid is going through some stuff that she can't handle because of her financial or family situation.
needless to say i would be taken aback by such a comment, but you never really know what is going on with people unless you're in their shoes.

 

[vi edit]

I don't know what an abortion costs, but isn't having a kid and raising it even more expensive?