Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed

[mmntech]

I laugh when people brag about working 60+ hours per week for years on end. Unless you own your own company or are a doctor, you're getting screwed and it is time to wake up. A "career" is just a job and not worth sacrificing your life over.

I learned pretty quickly that you never show any loyalty to the company you work for, as they show no loyalty to you. It's not worth it unless you're running your own business or it's a dream job.

 

[SlitheryDee]

When the end comes you'll wish you did more of some stuff and less of other stuff. Doesn't matter though. What you'll wish for will be purely determined by what you did. If you made sure you did everything on that list before you died, on your death bed you'd just wish you'd done something else. We want what we don't have, not what we do have. We want to do what we haven't done, not what we did. There'll always be something you haven't done or haven't done enough of. There'll always be something you did too much of.

 

[Mai72]

I like Steve Job's quote on life and death.

Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life.

Almost everything--all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure--these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.

Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

People play it too safe in life. They aim to get a good job, and a nice retirement package. They play it safe never taking any risks. Fow what? You're probably going to die 5 years after retirement anyway. Your children are going to get and spend the inheritance you left them.

 

[squarecut1]

A lot of those things can't be helped in this day and age. The day and age of living to work in on us, due to a shrinking middle class and rising student debt. There isn't an option to enjoy life for a lot of people, because in order to even have the basic needs like food and shelter they need to slave away for The Man.

My g/f just received a doctorate degree in physical therapy. 6.5 years of school, over $100k in loans (easily could have been $150k if she wasn't an RA for years) and will only be getting a job that pays her $60k. She will be forced to live at home, possible in even work multiple jobs just to be able to pay that debt off by the time shes 40. Stuff like this didn't happen 50 years ago.

And still does not in most other first world countries, where education is nowhere near as expensive as it has become in America. It really is another form of slavery - to the banks.

 

[Mai72]

Think about Steve Jobs. Here is a guy with millions. More money than anybody here will ever see in their lifetime. I'm sorry young bucks then chance that you'll ever be as wealthy as Steve Jobs is about 1%.

Did he take any of this money with him? Nope. He died on his deathbed. When they brought him into the morgue they stripped him naked and gutted his insides. He had the same treatment that we are all going to face. Regardless if you're rich or poor.

Live your life with zero regrets. You wanna live in Thailand and with lady friend?

Just do it!

 

[Mai72]

And still does not in most other first world countries, where education is nowhere near as expensive as it has become in America. It really is another form of slavery - to the banks.

The banks are making money off us. Are we doing anything about it?

Noooo. We could easily do something.

How about if we skipped college for 1 semester. How about a year? Just stopped going. This would put pressure on the schools to reform their tuition. The president of Rutgers University made $475k last year! Colleges fill their classrooms with adjuncts so they can keep cost down. In the meantime the students who are going to college are getting a subpar education, and they are paying a huge fee to just attend.

Will this be our regret when we're on our deathbed?

 

[Raizinman]

Since when are nurses taking polls of patients in this manner? What patient is willful in answering such a poll.

I agree. Having been with numerous people on their deathbed, I don't recall any nurse coming in to ever take a poll or survey. For that matter, how depressing would it be to start bringing up regrets on someone's deathbed. If a nurse did that, I would report her and kick her out of the room. Why not list their failures in life too? What about everything they stole in life? How about everyone they hurt in life too?

Nope, I'm calling BS.

 

[Soundmanred]

I took a poll too and the #1 regret was worrying about other people being more successful and making more money.
Then the guy pulled through and kept on being bitter and drove back to his shitty home in his shitty van.

 

[IndyColtsFan]

I learned pretty quickly that you never show any loyalty to the company you work for, as they show no loyalty to you. It's not worth it unless you're running your own business or it's a dream job.

Exactly. They don't give freebies out, so why should you give them free labor?

 

[IndyColtsFan]

Same here.

Got passport back in 2008 with intention of going on a cruise but it didn't happen.

I got my passport in 2002 and have been to Italy (2x), France (4x), Spain (1x), Brazil (1x), Mexico (1x), and Japan/Korea (1x). You just have to make it a priority if that's what you're interested in. Men in my family die young so I am trying to do one major international vacation at least every other year and then a trip somewhere in the US at least once per year.

 

[Sonikku]

6. I wish I had been more of a bomber/pyromaniac and forced Zelda to surrender all of her secrets to me.

I never would have guessed you had to bomb some random mountain on some random screen just to get to the final dungeon until the internet, to say nothing else of all the other little secrets. Now the sense of adventure I could have known is ruined. RUINED!

 

[IndyColtsFan]

considering how many "SAVE SAVE SAVE EVERY DOLLAR AND LIVE LIKE A HOBO!!!" threads there are on this forum

I'm sure they'll be along any minute to say what a waste it is to travel when you're young ("I don't see the point of vacations!") and other such nonsense.

 

[GagHalfrunt]

I'm going to gather my family around and say "I regret burying that suitcase with $10 million dollars in it behind the...<gurgle>" and then croak. If there is an afterlife I want to have something to amuse me for a while.

 

[KeithP]

Since when are nurses taking polls of patients in this manner? What patient is willful in answering such a poll.

Of course it is fake, just more internet garbage.

-KeithP

 

[poofyhairguy]

6. I wish I had been more of a bomber/pyromaniac and forced Zelda to surrender all of her secrets to me.

I never would have guessed you had to bomb some random mountain on some random screen just to get to the final dungeon until the internet, to say nothing else of all the other little secrets. Now the sense of adventure I could have known is ruined. RUINED!

 

[HamburgerBoy]

I have a feeling that 1, 3, and 5 (and SlickSnake's 6) will all apply to me soon enough.

 

[squarecut1]

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others.

Sometimes it is better to have patience. It depends on the situation, the person(s).

If anything, there is too much expression of feelings in current day America. Too much complaining, too much drama and hysteria.

 

[HamburgerBoy]

Sometimes it is better to have patience. It depends on the situation, the person(s).

If anything, there is too much expression of feelings in current day America. Too much complaining, too much drama and hysteria.

In this context, I think #3 means "I wish I had the courage to tell X that I really liked him/her", not "I wish I had the courage to bitch about my job and failing marriage to my friends and random people online".

 

[Fritzo]

I work too hard in order to reach that unobtainable carrot at the end of a stick. There's not really an easy way to break that cycle without making family members suffer.

My biggest regret is not getting a job in a field that makes a difference to humanity. In my position, I'll never discover anything, find a cure for anything, or solve a global issue. When I die, I'll just be another 4 line obituary saying "Joe Schmoe, father and husband, RIP".

I need my Xanax

 

[TridenT]

Of course it is fake, just more internet garbage.

-KeithP

This.

These stupid threads come up every year.

 

[Imp]

I laugh when people brag about working 60+ hours per week for years on end. Unless you own your own company or are a doctor, you're getting screwed and it is time to wake up. A "career" is just a job and not worth sacrificing your life over.

I figured out a while back (not that long ago) that 99.99999999999999% of us will amount to nothing in the grand scheme of things. Most will not remember us tomorrow, they definitely won't remember us a few years after we're dead. Therefore, why the hell am I working so hard to be "badass" according to "society".

considering how many "SAVE SAVE SAVE EVERY DOLLAR AND LIVE LIKE A HOBO!!!" threads there are on this forum, i'd expect most people here on their deathbeds to have something similar to the #5 regret.

Saving is my gateway to resolving #5. Work brings me zero happiness. Once I save enough to be able to live off my investments, I won't have to worry about being someone's bitch so I can eat tomorrow. At the same time, I can do whatever I want that doesn't blow the bank.

 

[DougK62]

How do you come up with the $$$ for those kinds of trips?

I don't make a ton of money but I still manage to go on a nice international trip every other year. It's really not very expensive if you budget wisely. In 2010 I went to Costa Rica for two weeks, and including my flight from Chicago and souvenirs the whole deal ran me about $800. And it was super fun.

 

[Rakehellion]

No Ragrets.

 

[HendrixFan]

you just gotta do it man, don't keep on putting it off. the best memories of my life are on these trips.

Agreed. I don't make a ton of money but I'm frugal and thrifty. In the last 12 months I've been to California twice, Denver twice, Ohio, Vegas, New Mexico and China. Here in the next 6 months I will go to Utah, California, Florida, Memphis and Chicago. I might squeeze in a Vegas trip and Puerto Rico depending on who I can get to go.

 

[NikolaeVarius]

Hell, I'm 23 and I already feel regret for what I didn't do.

I really wish I travelled in college and spent those summer vacations in some other part of the world.

Daily life is such a damn chore. The upshot is that I make decent money and can easily afford to pay my student loans and take a vacation.

I would love to take a 2 month trip to europe or something. But the ultimate irony of life, when you have time you don't have money to go anywhere, when you have money you don't have time go anywhere.